I know I'm probably overreacting but need a bit of a vent.
I've posted quite a bit recently about my foster DD who I took on a few weeks ago, a brief bit of background for those I haven't already bored to death with this (I do feel like I've exceeded my post limit, sorry ) she's almost 16 and has just come back to school after missing almost a year. Up until a few weeks ago she was a school drop out crack addict, since then she's come back to school and gone through a detoxification programme.
Tonight she went to a house party hosted by one of the kids in her year. I hate the damn things, personally I think they're a recipe for disaster, but DFD wanted to go and she hasn't really remade any friends since going back to school, she's been working hard towards her GCSEs and I guess I stupidly thought it might do her good.
She must have been there less than an hour, I'd told her I would pick her up as I didn't want her walking home late at night (knowing the sort of thing that goes on at a lot of those parties) but she arrived home unexpectedly around an hour after she went out, went straight up to her room and refused to come out. She does this defensive act thing when she's really upset but she doesn't want me to ask her questions (I'm assuming all teenagers to that but this is my first parenting experience so not entirely sure). I tried asking her if something was wrong but couldn't get through to her.
I've since managed to get out of her that at the party, a group of the 'populars' including the girl who invited her were referring to her as 'the junkie', making foul jokes about her to her face, nasty references to now-ex boyfriend and things he's allegedly told them about her etc. She says she doesn't understand why they invited her if they just wanted to make fun of her, that she feels like she's been typecast and no matter how hard she tries to change (and she's a different child to a couple of months ago) no one takes any notice and she can't escape.
I just feel so distraught for her. Seriously tempted to have a word with the parents but I doubt that achieves anything at this age. I know it's all a part of growing up and all that, but it's so difficult seeing her upset :(
AIBU?
To think teenagers are vile creatures
StephofArc · 07/04/2013 00:02
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