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To dislike attention-seeking "woe is me" facebook updates with no explanation

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frogspoon Sat 06-Apr-13 13:15:36

Facebook friend has recently posted this update:

"Today has been absolutely heartbreaking. Sulking, wine and zombie films are required."

Several friends have responded to the messages by asking what is wrong. She has not bothered to respond to any of them.

AIBU to think there is probably nothing wrong and she is just attention seeking as usual. Surely if something bad actually had happened, she would explain. She does have a habit of posting these messages often, usually the outcome being that her boyfriend has a cold/ has gone away for the weekend etc.

Mia4 Sat 06-Apr-13 14:25:29

YANBU. People who post statuses to attention seek also often do it to make passive aggressive digs. One of my relatives is guilty of this but in the last few weeks people who she's posting about have commented and told her straight. Pretty funny to watch her flounder, and serves her right. She's not a pleasant person and it's about time her friends clued in.

Sunnywithshowers Sat 06-Apr-13 14:34:46

YANBU. I have a friend like that. When I stopped doing the 'you okay hun?' type responses she blocked me from seeing all her status updates, except those in which she has tagged me. It's a terrible loss but I cope as bravely with it as I can grin

HairyGrotter Sat 06-Apr-13 14:36:12

YANBU, I cannot stand the attention seekers. I had one not long ago have passive aggressive digs for weeks, I just wound them up by not acknowledging it, and continue posting mundane shite.

I really hate the "I'll inbox you" ones, FUCK OFF NO ONE CARES AND IF THEY DO THEY NEED FUCKING HELP

Also hate grief vampires, I hate a lot of things, why am I even on there? I'm more a Twitter girl

NatashaBee Sat 06-Apr-13 14:40:20

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Gossipmonster Sat 06-Apr-13 14:51:45

I sometimes post slightly frustrated things when I'm a bit pissed but always delete them in the morning grin.

I always try to write happy/funny status updates smile

comedycentral Sat 06-Apr-13 15:15:08

I posted something cryptic last night. Never ever done it before actually. Don't know why I did it and I was not looking for replies. A good nights sleep sorted me out though.

YANBU. Drives me mad.

Other things I hate about facebook...

1) Ridiculous photo things about how kids grow up too fast/ "my daughter is my best friend" yada yada. I dont need to like a photo to prove I love my kids.

The person on mine who posts this crap is on FB all time yet she "prefers to spend time with her DD instead of texting, so cant keep in touch." ODFOD.

2) Stupid memes about horrendous crimes that require you to share if you agree about the horrendousness...err why? Will it undo the crime? I wont share that. Whatever happened to letting people RIP?

3) Rants about shit that I really couldnt give a shit about, like the workman being 20minutes late. Do get a life.

K8Middleton Sat 06-Apr-13 15:31:47

Just hide it or shed that friend.

I don't know why people get so angsty about FB when you can choose what you view and ultimately turn it off.

I'm not on FB - not properly anyway - but I think one of the best things about t'internet is support people can offer one another. Obviously cryptic messages where you really don't know what's going on have to be less helpful and more annoying to everyone.
Sometimes a few kind words can make a difference to someone's day though - or even at times to their life ?

BinksToEnlightenment Sat 06-Apr-13 15:49:37

I saw one once: I'm going to sit in the cupboard and cry. With my laptop.

Oh what, so we can all comfort you while you're in there! Bollocks to that!

MurkyMinotaur Sat 06-Apr-13 15:58:31

Mood Hoovers! Haha! Thanks for that new piece of terminology Fairydogmother!

Loulybelle Sat 06-Apr-13 16:02:20

I know one particular person who does that, how ill she is, how she hates her family, even saying she was gonna commit suicide, following by Hun answer you phone. so annoying.

StuffezLaBouche Sat 06-Apr-13 16:05:46


I hate the ones that are obviously really designed to get at one person (usually written by someone who gives it all that but hasn't the balls to sort things out face to face. Usually the kind of person who has about 80 ongoing feuds and vendettas.

"People in glass houses shouldn't be throwing stones....hmmm.....karma....!?"

Stupid people

SneakyNinja Sat 06-Apr-13 16:10:05

Yeah, I also find this annoying. As others have said though, it's only the 'What's up Huns?' followed by " I'll PM you" that actually fuck me off. Just ignore them or like the status.

SquirrelNuts Sat 06-Apr-13 16:11:42

Yanbu especially when they're asked what's wrong and they reply I'll inbox/text you I don't want everyone on here knowing my business hmm so don't put it on in the first place you attention seeking ....

MrsKwazii Sat 06-Apr-13 16:13:51

I agree with you MrsDV that where someone is dealing with a bereavement, illness or other difficult situation that sometimes you just need to say how you are and get some much-needed support. I think that's v different though to the drama llamaing that some people get up to.

HairyGrotter Sat 06-Apr-13 16:25:25

I'm all for supporting folk, but it's the ones who say 'RIP' on a status, then are asked 'Oh, I'm so sorry, who died?' then they say something like, 'Oh one of my 3rd cousins best mates, I never met them, but you know, it's terrible'...FUCK OFF, that's someones actual grief that you are not entitled to spout about on a public forum.


CelticPixie Sat 06-Apr-13 17:00:30

It's always the same people as well have you noticed? I hate when someone asks them what's wrong and they say something like, "I'll text you". It pure attention seeking and nothing else. I also dislike it when people will make little digs about people they know will probably be reading it.

HairyGrotter Sat 06-Apr-13 17:08:15

Yes, CelticPixie, I've noticed it's always the same people, usually really 'girlie girls' with little education and drama llamaling flailing about who post pictures of 'My nieces and nephews are like gems, repost if you agree'. Fuck off, really really fuck off.

I quite like the comfort I find in my anger toward such folks, I do hide or remove some, but some I keep just to make me feel the anger, I WANT TO FEEL ALIVE.

wifey6 Sat 06-Apr-13 17:23:33

I find this very annoying too. I have a few friends who do this. I have stopped responding to them.
A friend of mine also posted a picture of her positive pregnancy test, asking people if it was positive, then had over 20+ replies & congratulations, & replied with 'but we don't want anyone to know yet!'
She didn't delete the photo & wrote 'cryptic' updates about it for weeks!
Odd, very odd.

everlong Sat 06-Apr-13 17:28:24

It depends whether they have something to be really woeful about tbh.

Samu2 Sat 06-Apr-13 17:30:53


Vaguebooking sucks.

quesadilla Sat 06-Apr-13 17:31:48

I don't have FB friends like this thank fuck. Delete them, it sounds insufferably self centred.

SisterMonicaJoan Sat 06-Apr-13 18:10:12

I can't stand the ones that say "time for a friends cull" - the cue everyone piling in with "I hope it's not me!" or "please don't unfriend me!!!"

FFS if you want to defriend someone, just defriend them! No need for a big announcement. I just ignore them and I've not been defriended yet!!

CelticPixie Sat 06-Apr-13 18:19:20

It's difficult for me because some of the worst offenders are members of my own family. I have a cousin who has an on/off relationship with her child's dad and she is always posting thinly veiled attacks aimed at him, whilst at the same time sucking up to his family because she doesn't have anyone else the babysit the child ( she doesn't speak to her parents or sister, its a long story). She also deactivates her account a lot, will then return with a status saying "bet you all missed me" or something similar only to deactivate it again for a few weeks.

I'm also shocked at how many people will air their dirty laundry on there. One friend even admitted that she didn't know who her baby's dad was! Real Jeremy Kyle stuff I'm sure you'll agree?

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