At the moment DS1 goes to PIL on Wednesday afternoons, he did so when I went back to work from maternity leave & it's carried on since I went on maternity leave again to give him some consistency. Anyway, the plan was that they would have both boys when I returned to work this time. I was a bit doubtful but they assured me they would be fine so I left it as I didn't want to upset anyone.
DS2 has just turned 3 & is being a typical boisterous, naughty 3 year old. A few times I've got the impression that they've been very glad to hand him over at the end of the afternoon.
I've had a few mental health problems recently & my mum came to stay to help out. One day she went to pick DS1 up from the ILs & when she came back she said that they had said that he had been 'a little wotsit' all afternoon & FIL had said to her that they were getting too old for this. They sometimes have DS2 on a Thursday, but asked if it was ok not to have him that week as both boys 2 days in a row was too much. My mother related this to me & I spoke to DH that night & said that maybe it was getting too much to cope with & should we enquire about whether the boys could go to nursery on the Wednesday as well (DS1 already goes Thursdays and Fridays). DH said it was worth enquiring & he would speak to his parents about it.
Well, the next day the shit really hit the fan. They denied they ever said any of it to my mum, that she is stirring, and they have never said they couldn't cope with the boys. I said that we needed to sort this so could we all sit down & discuss it, they refused saying that they didn't want my mum anywhere near them. They also said that they wanted 2 weeks off having DS1 because they were so busy. (DH let it slip later that the real reason was that they didn't want my mum going to pick him up). I said that I wasn't having this & that I would book him into nursery & that would be the end of it.
They have now said that because we think they are 'useless & unable to look after the boys' they won't have them again, at all. They're sulking (which they have good form for) & didn't even give either boy anything for Easter.
So, if you're still reading, AIBU for putting the boys in nursery or are they for being childish & sulky & overreacting?
So as not to dripfeed, I have had concerns about them looking after DS1 for a while as they never take him out & basically serve him up a snack buffet for him to graze on all afternoon but I put up with it so as not to cause upset, but to be honest I'm glad of the excuse to get him into nursery instead of them looking after him.
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MrsHelsBels74 · 05/04/2013 19:37
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