I'm 31 weeks pregnant and my family decided to throw a baby shower for me as I'm the first one in the family to have a baby in quite a few years, haven't enjoyed my pregnancy so far for various reasons and they want to cheer me up. Nothing major just close friends and family, cake and whatnot.
The topic was first raised about two months ago when this friend (been friends well over a decade, lived together, studied together, holidayed together) said she would absolutely be there no questions asked.
Now she keeps saying she can't afford it, but has put on facebook several times in the last week or so about buying a very expensive camera, going shopping, online shopping etc.
It's absolutely her money and up to her what she spends it on, but I've been having a really really tough time which she knows all about and I feel a bit unsupported I guess. I know it's just a baby shower and means little in the scheme of things, but it's important to me and I feel a bit sad she can't prioritise a train ticket over a spending spree because I would do that if it was her.
We share a birthday and she usually visits her family up here for that, but it falls over the same time as I'm scheduled to be induced so I will most likely be in hospital having my baby and she won't see me then either. Part of the excuse also is that she is already coming up next month for our birthday and can't afford it twice, but the baby shower is at the very start and our birthday is at the very end of the month. Since she's known about it so long couldn't she have put the money aside?
It's probably hormones but I just feel a bit sad and not sure if I'm being unfair to her.
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babyradio · 04/04/2013 22:52
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