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AIBU?

in sitting through DH's film nights?

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lovesherdogstoomuch · 04/04/2013 22:05

Dh insisting on weekend 'film nights'. ok i say, that's a good idea. educate our 3 DC (aged 16-20 when they're around), but he's putting on Laurel & Hardy, Duck Soup and GoldRush. all classics, but why is he doing this? ancient films from last century. we all sit and dutifully watch but i don't think the DC's are really enjoying it. nor me. is he just a lovely bloke, or being boring? no-one wants to hurt his feelings.

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aldiwhore · 04/04/2013 22:07

There's nothing more tedious than someone trying to 'educate' you about their passion.

Nothing wrong with film night's where each member of the family gets a turn to choose the movie.

You are indulging him a little, which is fine, but don't then complain. What do you DC's say? Because between 16 and 20 I'd have simply refused.

youmaycallmeSSP · 04/04/2013 22:08

Why don't you take it in turns to choose a film?

livinginwonderland · 04/04/2013 22:10

surely the obvious solution is to take it in turns? my partner and i watch a lot of movies, but we always take it in turns to pick (or just download something we both want to watch).

lovesherdogstoomuch · 04/04/2013 22:10

yep i think you're right. somehow, he chooses the films. but then again, no-one pipes up and says, hey i want to choose. so. family CHOOSE YOUR FILMS!!

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youmaycallmeSSP · 04/04/2013 22:26

You need a rota. That way the person has an entire week to think of a film they want to watch. Done.

StuntGirl · 04/04/2013 22:32

My friends and I used to watch films together on a Sunday and after the disasters of trying to agree on one we went with the rota system. Terrible idea. It ended up being people picking whatever film they wanted to watch and to hell with everyone else. It meant five weeks of utter tedium before you got to pick.

We don't do film nights anymore!

Iaintdunnuffink · 04/04/2013 22:35

It's a nice idea but there needs to be variety, I'm sure a 20 year old could come up with some good films too.

Not sure I'd like an enforced film night, we often watch films but sometimes one of us isn't in the mood.

webwiz · 04/04/2013 22:43

Gosh your DCs are tolerant I don't think mine would worry about their Dad's feelings if he insisted on films no one else wanted to watch.

We like to watch films as a family and have watched quite a few recently as both DD's are home from university. Last night we watched The Hunger Games and the night before some ridiculous ghost thing called The Awakening. We enjoy it as family time rather than it being a chance to "educate".

PomBearWithAnOFRS · 04/04/2013 22:51

Tell him that for every night spent watching some crap a film, you want a night where you read aloud to him. He'll soon give up.

PenelopePisstop · 04/04/2013 22:54

You don't want to watch Duck Soup? YADBU! It's hilarious

lottiegarbanzo · 04/04/2013 23:03

He can come round and watch films with me. I'll send DP over to watch thrillers and action nonsense with you, or TV if you like. Sound ok?

I think you need a mixture. One surprisingly wonderful b+w classic to one more recent classic (70s, 80s) to one recent one, perhaps nominated by the DCs. That way you might all enjoy it and keep it going, which would be much more reasonable.

5Foot5 · 05/04/2013 00:14

Your Dcs are old enough surely to be able to make some interesting suggestions of their own so I second the idea of a rota.

lovesherdogstoomuch · 05/04/2013 22:11

excellent advice Mners. will take on board. i think i couldn't see the wood fromt the trees. just discussing it now. hahahha.

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BackforGood · 05/04/2013 22:14

Don't 3 dc aged 16 - 20 have better things to be doing on a weekend night than watching very old films with their parents ?

KurriKurri · 05/04/2013 22:25

Yep to rota and fairness blah blah blah, - but actually he has great taste in films, and my kids used to roll about laughing at Laurel and Hardy, they are brilliant. Buster Keaton is very funny too.

Actually - good for you MrLovesHerDog - you keep choosing the films

I think the idea of a family film night is a lovely too - you sound like a nice family

lovesherdogstoomuch · 06/04/2013 19:57

thank you KKurri. we try our best :) and yes BackforGood, the DC's do have better things to do. i think they feel sorry for us! We have made up a Rota. DH looking a bit dubious!! blessim. thank you everyone for your valued advice:) onwards and upwards.

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