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to feel slightly queasy when a woman describes herself as a mummy?

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MardyBra Thu 04-Apr-13 12:46:33

I'm a mother, or a mum.

The kids called me mummy when they were little, but I find it too cutesy when a grown woman describes herself as a "mummy".

Especially on a blog.

yaimee Thu 04-Apr-13 12:48:02

Who cares?

MardyBra Thu 04-Apr-13 12:48:56

"Who cares?"

Well it's not a big deal, but who cares about anything on aibu?
In fact, what is the point? Why are we here?

MardyBra Thu 04-Apr-13 12:49:54

Actually you've got a point yaimee. It's not worth a bunfight. I retract.

I do it sometimes, the same as I say sockies and shoesies or say 'oh flippy flops' instead of 'fuck it' when I'm out . Its a habit and is easy to slip up if you are using the word all the time.

Putting it in a blog or saying it when your kids are grown up and its no longer part of your daily vocabulary is a bit hmm though.

JassyRadlett Thu 04-Apr-13 12:51:16

To be perfectly honest, I have a similar reaction to people describing themselves as either a mummy or a mum. So I suspect we all have different tolerance levels.

yaimee Thu 04-Apr-13 12:53:17

grin here on earth or here on mumsnet, this could get philosophical!

OzmaofOz Thu 04-Apr-13 12:53:19

Do you think it's force of habit ?
My Dts are only 2 so still call me Mummy, but I do wonder if I will always sign their birthday cards from Mummy or if it wears off in time.
My Aunt still calls her parents Mummy and Daddy, but they are posh.

MardyBra Thu 04-Apr-13 12:55:10

Even when my kids called me "mummy", I would have never described myself as one. It just sounds twee to my ears. No biggie though (regretting starting the thread).

fedupofnamechanging Thu 04-Apr-13 12:55:49

I don't describe myself as a mum, unless I am having a specific conversation about dc related topics.

I suppose parenthood does define me, in that I would have a completely different life if I wasn't a parent and they are the most important people in the world to me. But having them hasn't altered who I am, as a person.

I would always prefer to be described as karma rather than X's mum.

Mummy is twee if used by anyone other than a small child and women who use it to describe themselves to other people want shooting need to reclaim their identities.

MardyBra Thu 04-Apr-13 12:57:32

"I don't describe myself as a mum, unless I am having a specific conversation about dc related topics."

Absolutely.

yaimee Thu 04-Apr-13 12:57:41

It's a welcome break from Philpots and welfare to be honest (regrets criticising thread)!

CandlestickOlder Thu 04-Apr-13 12:58:32

Yanbu

TheOrchardKeeper Thu 04-Apr-13 12:58:48

I add the 'ee' noise to every other fucking word because I have a toddler so often accidently call myself a mummy...then want to fucking slap myself for it.

Does that help hmm

am ill & snappy

MardyBra Thu 04-Apr-13 12:59:58

yaimee
This has to be the most restrained aibu ever:

"AIBU?
Who gives a shit?
OK, I retract.
In fact, it's OK."

We must do this more often.

Fairydogmother Thu 04-Apr-13 13:00:55

i hate and loathe the term 'mummy'

and reserve a special loathing for people who refer to themselves as 'yummy mummys'

BOKE!

OzmaofOz Thu 04-Apr-13 13:00:57

grin

TheOrchardKeeper Thu 04-Apr-13 13:00:58

^ I spose that means ynbu...though I don't see why it matters.

When older kids call their mums 'mummy' it makes me think of that bitty sketch from Little Britain <shudders>

TheOrchardKeeper Thu 04-Apr-13 13:01:51

THESE bags make me want to hurt people grin

Guiltismymaster Thu 04-Apr-13 13:01:55

I used 'mummy' when I was very young (3) , just like I said 'doggy', but it's creepy when you hear 20 yr olds saying 'mummy, I'm just going to look for daddy' Nooooo...

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie Thu 04-Apr-13 13:02:34

mummysnet.com for women who LOVE being a Mummy. Mummy Mummy Mummy

It's a tit of a word. I always think of Egyptian Mummies too...

MardyBra Thu 04-Apr-13 13:02:36

I can see that Orchard. The inclusion of a cupcake rubs salt into the wound.

Fairydogmother Thu 04-Apr-13 13:03:01

orchard that picture has just made me shudder lol

SoniaGluck Thu 04-Apr-13 13:03:18

I don't mind so much what other people choose to call themselves but I never referred to myself as a 'mummy' or even a 'mum'. If I ever had to say anything I said a 'mother'.

We lived in France for several years and it is very common there to refer to 'les mamans' and I didn't care very much for that, either.

I know it is pretty trivial as things go but it does grind my gears just a little bit.

I think that IABU, though. grin

yaimee Thu 04-Apr-13 13:04:05

grin no one is being unreasonable! shock shock

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