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to think the world does not need 'gender reveal parties'?

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dreamingbohemian Thu 04-Apr-13 09:21:45

My cousin, clearly the first woman in the world to ever give birth wink, has just had something called a gender reveal party.

They went for the scan, then had friends and family around, ramped up the suspense for a couple hours, then she opened a big box of balloons that were.... pink! It's a girl! Awwww.

AIBU to think this is the wankiest thing ever? Or am I a joyless hag?

My family think it's cute so I need you nest of vipers lot to restore my faith in humanity.

crunchybiscuits Thu 04-Apr-13 11:37:00

Sex means what biological sex you are - basically, what do you have between your legs. Are you XX or XY?

Gender means how society treats you in terms of whether people see you as a 'boy' or a 'girl'. Most of the time, we say that male children are boys in gender (so we give them blue things, toy cars and call them handsome) and female children are girls in gender. (pink things, barbies and pretty).

I think gender roles tend to be way too restrictive and I try and let my ds play with whatever toys he chooses and where whatever colour he likes. He seems to like dressing up toy dinosaurs in barbie clothes (ripped a lot of them) and making his own clothes out of paper! grin

SpecialAgentTattooedQueen Thu 04-Apr-13 11:53:34

Arabesque Thu 04-Apr-13 11:19:05
YABU. We are inviting all our relatives around next week to tell them where we're going on holidays. We're going to have a cake and when we cut into it the flag of the country we're visiting will be revealed. We are not expecting any presents AT ALL, but I have told my mum that if anyone asks I would like flip flops, sarongs or American dollars.

Snort You're joking right? Why on earth would you need to assure people not to give you presents because you're going on a holiday? Why would you get presents in the first place? hmm Why would anyone ask if they need to bring a present?

I am a grumpy ass. I never wanted a baby shower (my DM was desperate though) But when I found out we were expecting DTs, that was my excuse as I refused to find out gender. I enjoyed dressing my boy and girl in yellow, green, pink, blue, whatever. Green is really DTD's 'colour' so if I'd only had pink to dress her in I would have been sad. Do my kids wear gender specific clothes? Of course. Do I give a shit if they don't? Of course not.

Their nursery is yellow with a strip of wallpaper with fish and ducks. Some of my happiest memories of being PG was the choosing mobiles, decorating the room, guessing names, whether they'd be identical, etc etc. Ignores memories of non stop farting and maternity jeans that made me look like I'd swallowed a few basketballs

Sorry for the rant. blush The idea of gender reveal parties has bought a very strong emotion out in me... Why put your child in a box before you even meet them? What's the point in having lots of blue and toy cars/trucks when all your DS wants is a tea set?

Okay, rant over sorry blush

MrsHoarder Thu 04-Apr-13 11:54:21

Is a sex reveal party where you reveal that you are pregnant ie have been having sex?

dreamingbohemian Thu 04-Apr-13 11:56:06

Arabesque grin

Actually I guess it's true that you could do something really sweet in connection with finding out boy or girl (lovely story browneyes!) I think it's just the whole big party thing that seems a bit over the top.

I'm taking on board the AIBUs though. It's true, I can just ignore it. I really don't think I'm being smug about it, it's just .... I don't know, it's just too much for me. If you want to have a party, have a party! It doesn't need a wanky name and a colour theme.

Although I do like the idea of gender reveal parties for grownups so perhaps I'm a big old hypocrite.

SpecialAgentTattooedQueen Thu 04-Apr-13 11:56:12

No, it's too reveal that OMG! My baby has a cock/vag! Aren't you excited!?!

Seriously, just save cake from your hen/stag do. hmm

Still18atheart Thu 04-Apr-13 11:57:48

Do I think that is rather tacky? yes

But any excuse for a party right, so long as they don't ask for any presents or produce a gift list for it

joolsangel Thu 04-Apr-13 11:58:29

ive never heard of these parties before. hilarious! for people whose heads are a mile of their arse perhaps!!

Bertrude Thu 04-Apr-13 11:59:18

Utterly, utterly wanky.

joolsangel Thu 04-Apr-13 11:59:58

oops - that should be mile up their arse! (not of their arse!)

stressyBessy22 Thu 04-Apr-13 12:00:22

nobody but the parents and possibly gps if a first grandchild is interested what sex someone elses baby is

orangebuccaneer Thu 04-Apr-13 12:00:30

I'm in the US and I get a 'parenting' magazine. One of the articles this time around was all the different options for revealing the gender at one of these horrific events.

My favorite was to give everyone a glass of water and then hand out sachets of colorless powder. Everyone pours this powder into their drinks at the same time, and the powder turns the water blue or pink....confused

I find these parties just the most navel-gaving thing ever. Surely congratulations on simply having a baby is enough: why do we need to get all flappy about its gender (since it's clearly going to be one or the other...)?

WhatKindofFool Thu 04-Apr-13 12:02:22

What??? UANBU.

I'm glad all my children were born whilst baby showers were still in the USA.

TheRivieraKid Thu 04-Apr-13 12:04:42

"Why put your child in a box before you even meet them? What's the point in having lots of blue and toy cars/trucks when all your DS wants is a tea set?"

^ THIS. I hate, absolutely despise the gender segregation based on colour. Drives me insane. DD wears whatever colour I pick out that day, her nursery is green. She plays with boy toys and girl toys (her fave at the moment is to put her toy cars in her pink handbag). This whole 'gender reveal' crap is just another way to push the way people (and the unborn children) into a pink = girls, boy = boys mentality. angry

TheRivieraKid Thu 04-Apr-13 12:05:48

I missed out a *think there I was so ranty grin

dreamingbohemian Thu 04-Apr-13 12:05:59





Now THAT is the wankiest idea ever. Good god.

TheRivieraKid Thu 04-Apr-13 12:06:27

Wow and *blue = boys too. Think I'll go for a lie down in a dark room...

carabos Thu 04-Apr-13 12:10:49

Call me old-fashioned but I thought the sex reveal usually happened at the birth.

It's not even that exciting is it? It's going to be male or female, there's nothing you can do to change it and whether it's "now" or "later" it will be revealed in the short term. Not much suspense there... grin <looks for get a life emoticon>

HazeltheMcWitch Thu 04-Apr-13 12:12:38

So, gender reveal wrt parties is probably more accurate (than sex reveal).

As it is basically saying here's what pigeon-hole we're plonking you into, like it or not, right? Willy? You'll love trains, and tractors and dinosaurs. And you'll wear blue and brown.

Lady-parts? Pink for you. And pretty things. And you'll have to be 'nice'. Do you like princesses yet? Kittens?

Tailtwister Thu 04-Apr-13 12:17:39

Not a new thing, been going on for years in the States.

It's not for me personally, but I care what other people do. If I was invited to one I would just go along with it and no doubt be excited along with everyone else.

I don't think YABU not to like them OP, but I don't see why it's an issue that other people do.

Tailtwister Thu 04-Apr-13 12:18:02

Should read 'but I don't care'

nenevomito Thu 04-Apr-13 12:18:06

Totally wank. I'd say more, but what else is there to say?

JenaiMorris Thu 04-Apr-13 12:18:19


Whilst I'm more than a little hmm about the gender stereotyping, these parties, like baby showers, are a cute bit of frilly nonsense.

You lot are miserable cahs.

chocoluvva Thu 04-Apr-13 12:21:18

Votes for which date to nominate as 'World Miserable Cah Day' anyone?

How about sometime in September - still free from conform-to-mass-commercialist-events as far as I know?

JenaiMorris Thu 04-Apr-13 12:21:42

i was going to say YANBU because of course the world doesn't need gender reveal parties.

It does however need at least some silly nonsense to make it worth inhabiting, so I stick to my original YABU.

JenaiMorris Thu 04-Apr-13 12:23:12

I'll make you some bunting out of old copies of the new Internationalist, chocca.

No commercialism required.

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