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to think these comments/photos are attention seeking?

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BenderLovableRobot Mon 01-Apr-13 23:58:36

For once this is not Facebook - it's Instagram!

A woman I know posts a photo of herself standing in front of a mirror and comments on it saying - my head is too big for my body.

She also posts a photo of just her legs with a gap inbetween with the comment - Forgot to eat again.

(This woman isn't anorexic by the way, she is a very keen skater and surfs too almost every day - she therefore has a good body)

I just think she enjoys people telling her how skinny she looks etc.

Or maybe aibu and just wish I was that skinny wink

JamieandtheMagicTorch Tue 02-Apr-13 14:05:36

I think it would bother me because I would assume she maybe has an eating disorder and it upsets me to think that people are out there suffering psychological problems.

OP you think she's attention seeking - drawing attention to the fact that she forgot to eat is dodgy - maybe she wants to indirectly tell people

BenderLovableRobot Tue 02-Apr-13 13:59:51

Assumptions........ just because somebody is thin and knows they are tthin it doesn't mean they have an eating disorder

Nodding my head in total agreement.

BenderLovableRobot Tue 02-Apr-13 13:58:45

She has an eating disorder.

Quite rude to state that as a fact.

She's a vegan, goes surfing every morning and the gym every evening and also goes skating inbetween.

She also posts photos of her breakfast of oats with banana slices on top.

You don't need to be incredibly smart to realise that someone is going to be thin if you follow this regime.

I'm also quite certain that the "thigh gap" is a myth. Some peoples thighs will still rub together even at a size 8/6.

MsBella Tue 02-Apr-13 13:56:06

Also, NO, wanting a thigh gap doesn't mean you have an eating disorder just like wanting a flat stomach doesn't mean you have an eating disorder, come on people!

The thigh gaps can be obtained through exercise such as yoga etc. Not just through starving yourself/having an eating disorder

MsBella Tue 02-Apr-13 13:53:55

Assumptions........ just because somebody is thin and knows they are tthin it doesn't mean they have an eating disorder. Just because somebody posts pictures of their body and comments on their thinness does not mean they have an eating disorder.

Oh and calling a thin body 'unnattractive' is the same as calling a chubby body unnattractive ffs

Snoopingforsoup Tue 02-Apr-13 11:49:30

Classic anorexic trait. It's part of her illness.
Yes, it's annoying but I just ignore.
A woman I know has ME, so I'm always fascinated by her new photo's of her at gigs and posing with cocktails in a bikini in exotic locations.
Odd, annoying - but I don't have that illness so I just look and move on - no comments.

NotTreadingGrapes Tue 02-Apr-13 11:45:17

Head too big for body?

it's Natasha Plinkyplonk isn't it?

digerd Tue 02-Apr-13 11:43:14

A gap between her skinny thighs? That's not attractive and nothing to be envious of, just the opposite.
Don't get it.

spanky2 Tue 02-Apr-13 11:42:31

I would instagram my huge thighs with the message , too many pies.wink

squalorvictoria Tue 02-Apr-13 11:36:06

She has an eating disorder.

Only people with eating disorders obsess over their "thigh gap". And yes, the "thigh gap" is a Thing. If you Google "thigh", "thigh gap" is the number one suggested search hmm

WorraLiberty Tue 02-Apr-13 00:51:11

I wouldn't hound the OP either

However, if I was interested in asking her why it bothers her... in other words trying to ascertain whether it's because she's bored of lame photos, or whether it's purely to do with weight issues (inferred in the last line of her OP) then I'll ask why it bothers her.

You know, since she's asked the question "Or maybe aibu and just wish I was that skinny".

Hope that clears things up for you SongoftheSiren and now I really must turn in.


SongoftheSiren Tue 02-Apr-13 00:47:35

deleting her is a bit harsh

Come on I've lost count of how many times people post about Facebook and get told you can delete the person.

Yet when someone does it's considered harsh? The MN world is extremely odd.

If someone got upset because someone stopped following them on Instagram then they would be leading a rather dull life.

DramaLlamaFarmer Tue 02-Apr-13 00:45:13

Fucking beans.....fucking unreasonable....*Worra*.....

oh why don't you just....just....change your name to something referring to beans. Hmm? Why don't you? <always knew there was a bean agenda>

SongoftheSiren Tue 02-Apr-13 00:44:57

I didn't mean just comment saying purely one word.

I just wouldn't hound the OP and keep asking yes but why does it bother you?

Sometimes on aibu people will post and will have forgotten about the reason they posted the next day.

I'm saying don't take it too seriously.

glub Tue 02-Apr-13 00:41:47

yes it is attention seeking. i'd think she was an idiot. or massively insecure with an eating/body image disorder. 'my head is too big for my body' is quite possibly in reference to the fact that people are sometimes called lollipop-like when they are too thin. i wouldn't hate her though. don't tell her she needs a sandwich for example. just don't comment. she might just be lovely if rather vain/troubled.
she didn't direct the photo at you did she? and so unless e.g. you have discussed with her your own food/weight issues (as in being overweight), and she is therefore being massively insensitive, deleting her is a bit harsh, if she is some kind of mate.

Machli Tue 02-Apr-13 00:35:38

I'd be tempted to comment "who cares?now cover up ffs you're putting me right off my Full English with extra black pudding!" Is commenting an option on Instagram?

WorraLiberty Tue 02-Apr-13 00:28:30

I see many things on AIBU and think wow that would never bother me. But that's me and people are different. I would just comment saying YABU or YANBU.

Well thank god we're not all the same.

Can you imagine this topic if all that was posted was....





It might as well be called AIBUTDOSP [Am I Being Unreasonable To Do A Straw Poll]

Drama you didn't upload the beans and that's a fatal mistake.

Righto off to bed...but genuinely sorry OP if you've taken offence in some way that passes me by

Night all

DramaLlamaFarmer Tue 02-Apr-13 00:24:12

To be fair OP, if every response was either YABU or the extra letter that makes you feel vindicated then it would be kinda boring...wink

DramaLlamaFarmer Tue 02-Apr-13 00:21:33

Oh how insensitive you are Worra! I will now have to have a moment of sobbing into my pillow that nobody wants to see a photo of my well thought out sunday dinner. We had 99p hot wings and everything. <sad face>

SongoftheSiren Tue 02-Apr-13 00:21:32

Worra please just give it a rest. Sometimes it's nice to just rant and to have a little moan as an anonymous person.

I see many things on AIBU and think wow that would never bother me. But that's me and people are different. I would just comment saying YABU or YANBU.

WorraLiberty Tue 02-Apr-13 00:20:41

Ahhh X posted OP.

Ok well in that case I can offer no more advice/opinions since they appear to have struck a nerve or something?

Apologies if they haven't and there's some other reason you feel you're being 'pounced on' when you're clearly not?

WorraLiberty Tue 02-Apr-13 00:18:09

Thanks Drama that's what I meant grin

What the OP describes would bother me no more than endless pics of Sunday dinners that really should be eaten rather than left to go cold while being photographed.

I also have no interest in seeing toddlers sitting on a potty in the hope their first shit will make an appearance for the proud parents...

BenderLovableRobot Tue 02-Apr-13 00:18:01

Oh for goodness sake. I shall bite my tongue instead of responding to you Worra

I know how infamous the pouncers are on here.

MsBella Tue 02-Apr-13 00:16:59

I used to automatically think 'attention seeker!!' at these types of things BUT no, not always- she could just be being honest, she knows she is thin and that could be all it is. These comments don't sound too annoying or attention seeking to me

Its very likely that she is just kind of documenting parts of her life. I mean come on.. she is thin, she says she is thin I don't see a problem personally

DramaLlamaFarmer Tue 02-Apr-13 00:14:06

Worra didn't say you were being dramatic or particularly bothered. Just that she couldn't see why it would bother you! Same as I said.

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