Ds,4, has an interest in an obsession with his train tracks. When I say obsession I mean they are everything to him - all he plays with and he is very particular about them (builds amazingly creative tracks and doesn't like anyone else to touch/try to help etc).
He has some special needs relating to speech and lang and a pediatrician reviews him every 6 months, my brother has Aspergers and I think this is what they are monitoring.
Anyway, some of the tracks ds tried to build are not really sustainable, and will break after he has made them. At this stage, he goes completely, and utterly hysterical. It's like he totally loses control and is utterly devastated. He gets angry, and will subsequently smash up his track and shout at me. He screams for about half an hour. I am really at a loss as to how to handle this, dp thinks we should be 'stricter' with him, tell him off for outburst. I'm more reluctant, although I think we need to make clear to him it's not acceptable to throw things around/smash things up, shouting at him at the time seems to exacerbate an already chaotic situation. This is the only time I feel like I have no control over his behaviour - other than when his tracks break he never ever behaves this way.
AIBU to not tell off ds at the time, rather let him vent his frustration, providing he's not hurting anyone, and talk to him afterwards? Or am I being completely 'soft'?
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To be reluctant to tell ds (4) off for this
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99problems · 01/04/2013 00:43
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