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AIBU?

To expect dialogue on here to be civil and diplomatic most of the time?

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cupcakemumma · 31/03/2013 20:30

Feeling so sick and tired of many threads on this amazing site being poisoned by unkind responses. There is one thing being direct and all, but seriously, I cannot imagine that the tone used by some MN posters would be used outside outside of this place in the wider world and welcomed. Some people seem to enjoy getting a kick out of speaking to others in an over the top spikey way on here, generating responses picking people's words to pieces like amateur lawyers.

What do you all think, or is it just me? Can't we all just get along and support one another and enjoy each other's company in diplomatic way? What is the point of being on here if time isn't spent being pleasant?

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rhino1971 · 31/03/2013 20:34

I happen to agree with you but this won't end well.

Lockedout434 · 31/03/2013 20:38

Hop on to chat it's much kinder although aibu has some hilarious threads every so often

Sparklingbrook · 31/03/2013 20:41

YANBU. They have been named 'the pouncers'. Hovering around AIBU ready to pounce with a snotty curt reply that is very unhelpful. Or maybe a very wordy patronising one,

I imagine they don't speak to strangers in the street the way they do on here. But hey, it's the anonymous internet so who cares?

Buddhagirl · 31/03/2013 20:44

Yabu this is the internet, it will never change. MN has such high traffic that we can just ignore the unkind responses. Plus one persons unkind is another persons direct.

BumpingFuglies · 31/03/2013 20:48

OP what is the world like? Do we all get along and speak nicely and debate civilly? No.

Don't read it if you don't like it.

Sparklingbrook · 31/03/2013 20:49

Yes but Bumping you wouldn't speak to a stranger in the street the way some do on here.

LaQueen · 31/03/2013 20:49

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BumpingFuglies · 31/03/2013 20:53

A stranger in the street isn't likely to start a debate with me though. A forum is something you join, to discuss/debate/talk/argue. It's divided into sections which explain the nature of the discussions.

Sparklingbrook · 31/03/2013 20:58

I suppose not Bumping, I agree with discuss/debate/talk but I didn't join MN to argue.

Ditzydit · 31/03/2013 21:01

You are right, I am shocked by the tone of many of the posters on this site.

BumpingFuglies · 31/03/2013 21:02

Sparkling oh yes you did...

OhDearieDearieMe · 31/03/2013 21:04

Maybe the other mum/hun/glitter type site is more for you then OP? This wonderful site where it is ok to speak freely and not hun all over the place until everyone throws up is maybe not for you? That's ok you know. You don't HAVE to use it.

Sparklingbrook · 31/03/2013 21:08

No I didn't Bumping. I am rubbish at arguing.

Ditzydit · 31/03/2013 21:08

But some of them are so right wing, it shouldn't be allowed really.

Kleptronic · 31/03/2013 21:09

What, being right wing shouldn't be allowed? Isn't that a bit, erm, right wing?

TheSecondComing · 31/03/2013 21:10

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SecretLindtBunny · 31/03/2013 21:11

Seriously, just ignore if you don't like it, report if you feel that it's over the top and hide AIBU.

Sparklingbrook · 31/03/2013 21:11

I don't swear in RL so don't on here.

Sparklingbrook · 31/03/2013 21:12

Except the odd 'FFS' in jest.

christinarossetti · 31/03/2013 21:12

I'm with you cupcakemamma, although looks like this thread has already started to go off the rails.

I don't know about expecting civility and diplomacy, but fewer 'why did you marry him, he sounds like a cunt?' responses to someone posting one or two sentences about their life would suit me.

cupcakemumma · 31/03/2013 21:14

Bumping, It isn't that I expect everyone to always agree, life certainly isn't like that. Happy to debate, I just find some people's tone so aggressive/verging on tactless on here when it isn't necessary. It just brings unpleasantness to a site that is so helpful to so many. Doesn't seem like debating sometimes. Just people coming on to have a pop at a stranger for example, under the guise of a 'reality check' I can't imagine they'd even offer their own friends or family etc.

Sparkling, lol 'The Pouncers! An apt funny nickname there [busmile]

Rhino, I don't imagine for a second that this will end well, just wanted to see if others thought similarly as I do at times on this matter.

Lockedout, cheers, I will go on to chat, thank you.

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Ditzydit · 31/03/2013 21:15

No Kleptronic these people are evil.

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Sparklingbrook · 31/03/2013 21:16

Not forgetting 'get a grip' that's always ultra helpful.

greencolorpack · 31/03/2013 21:17

Reporting doesn't work, I speak from experience.

sadeyedladyofthelowlandsea · 31/03/2013 21:18

I agree with you cupcake - there's directness and honesty, and then there's the needlessly rude reply that isn't helpful.

I do like 'The Pouncers' too

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