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To think its rude to order a starter if nobody else is?

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Iactuallydothinkso Sun 31-Mar-13 11:36:05

Well, mn jury. Is it?

CuppaTea83 Sun 31-Mar-13 11:36:57

Hell, no!

Tailtwister Sun 31-Mar-13 11:37:22

I probably wouldn't. If you do, it must means it takes so much longer for everyone else to get their main course and I'd feel a bit awkward eating when nobody else was.

MissAnnersley Sun 31-Mar-13 11:37:33

I wouldn't think it was rude, no.

ditavonteesed Sun 31-Mar-13 11:37:34

god no, the atarter is the best bit, I would cry if I wasnt allowed a starter.

Tailtwister Sun 31-Mar-13 11:38:07

Sorry, didn't answer your question. I don't think it's rude as such, but it doesn't show much consideration for other people at the table.

EasterBunnyLebowski Sun 31-Mar-13 11:38:22

It is unreasonable to not order a starter.

Man up FFS.


trixymalixy Sun 31-Mar-13 11:38:49

No. I'd much rather have a starter than dessert..

kinkyfuckery Sun 31-Mar-13 11:39:56

Why is it rude?

If noone else ordered a started because of time constraints, I'd ask for my starter to be brought at the same time as the main.

JudithOfThePascha Sun 31-Mar-13 11:40:24

Rude? No, I don't think it's rude. If someone else at the table made a comment about it, that would be rude. If anyone at the table farted loudly and then said "cor, blimey, that was a hot one!", that would be rude. If the waiter suggested someone had the fruit salad instead of chocolate cake so they didn't get any fatter, that would be rude.

But personally, I don't think someone ordering a course that is on the menu, even if no one else in their party does, is particularly rude.

chickensaladagain Sun 31-Mar-13 11:40:41

When I eat out with friends I always ask if we are having starters and they always say no so I don't have one hmm
I would much rather have starters than pudding!

StealthPolarBear Sun 31-Mar-13 11:41:02

If you suspect someone fancies a starter you should have one too so they are not eating alone, or don't feel like they're being awkward. Same goes for dessert grin

RustyBear Sun 31-Mar-13 11:41:12

Ditavontaseed - maybe you should do what DH often does and order two starters instead of a main course...

WilsonFrickett Sun 31-Mar-13 11:42:20

YABU. I love a starter and very rarely eat dessert. So should I just have a main course and sit quietly while everyone else tucks into pud?

Sparklingbrook Sun 31-Mar-13 11:42:20

I wouldn't. Everyone would sit and watch me eat it. sad

notimefors Sun 31-Mar-13 11:42:24

I am a greedy pig and often have starters and desserts when everyone else just has mains. I don't know if I'm rude or not, I just know my tummy demands that this is the way things remain.

iamsmokingafag Sun 31-Mar-13 11:43:38

I ahte it when people don't order starters.

Booyhoo Sun 31-Mar-13 11:43:48

nope. not rude. if i go out for a meal i'm paying for i order what i like. starters are to be expected when you eat out with others. if some choose not to that's up to them, but no way is it rude for some people to do what is expected in a restaurant.

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Iactuallydothinkso Sun 31-Mar-13 11:44:35

I asked if it was thought rude because everybody else has to wait to get their food while the "startee" eats.

I actually thought it was really inconsiderate. But then I was very hungry. All but the startee opted for the set 2 course menu with main and dessert. Actually the startee also opted for that but added a starter too.

I just found it annoying.

iamsmokingafag Sun 31-Mar-13 11:45:15

have some bread then?

INeedThatForkOff Sun 31-Mar-13 11:45:22

My FIL did this not long ago. The other sixteen of us had to wait while he gobbled (he wasn't rushing on our behalf, that's just the way he eats). I don't think it would've hurt to go without a starter. I wouldn't do it for sure.

Iactuallydothinkso Sun 31-Mar-13 11:45:46

I fear I may be unreasonable as the general consensus is that I am!

SawyerHuckleberry Sun 31-Mar-13 11:46:07

No it's not rude, people should be able to order what they want. Plenty of times where I've waited for people to finish a starter when I'm hungry - never thought of them as rude.

Numberlock Sun 31-Mar-13 11:46:10

I'm with the startee! Did anyone get a calculator out at the end as someone had had an extra course?

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