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AIBU to expect my PIL of 10 years to use my name?

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specialmagiclady · 30/03/2013 20:45

It's hilarious! We have a bit of an iffy relationship which may be why I've noticed, but I can't remember the last time he used my name. This evening, he was handing out food and it was "pass this to... Your mum" or "here you go...er... " etc but never just "there you go, Special".

It's sort of like the opposite of bingo and I'm wondering how I can turn it into a drinking game... Or anything to make it feel less like a grave insult, tbh.

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EuroShaggleton · 30/03/2013 20:45

Is it a tricky name to pronounce or something?

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LondonInHighHeeledBoots · 30/03/2013 20:52

Next time, just loudly say 'Special. My name is SPECIAL'. Or obviously wear a prominent 'Hi! My Name Is' badge next time they come over. Are the DC old enough to train? 'Granddad, mummy's name is Special you know'.

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specialmagiclady · 30/03/2013 20:53

If you we're born between 1965 and 1985 it is likely to be your first or middle name. So no. Just calls me you (FIL really but now I think of it, not sure what MiL calls me either)

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MDA · 30/03/2013 20:55

Hi Elizabeth xx

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MDA · 30/03/2013 20:55

Or Jane. Or similar Grin

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ImTooHecsyForYourParty · 30/03/2013 20:56

Maybe he forgot it years ago and is just too embarrassed to say. Grin

Get your husband to say your name at the end of every sentence he utters.
Or, even better, get him to call you by a different name, just to see what your father in law does Grin

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b4bunnies · 30/03/2013 21:00

a different name... i like that.

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LaQueen · 30/03/2013 21:01

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ImTooHecsyForYourParty · 30/03/2013 21:16

My husband never uses my name.

We have been married for 14 years now and the last time I recall him calling me by my name was on our wedding day when we said our vows! Grin

I joke that he forgot my name on our wedding night and is too embarrassed to say.

He just calls me Gorgeousness.

Which I am sure breaks some sort of Descriptions Legislation, but never mind. Grin

I really do think it would be funny to have your husband start calling you, I dunno, Barbara or something. Straight faced. And you respond to it.

Their faces would be amazing. Grin

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StinkyElfCheese · 30/03/2013 21:18

Dh grandad calls me all sorts of names over the 13 years I have been Jenna jemma Anna Hanna Chloe cleo Claire all dogs names all sil names all kids names he has even started calling me 'dear' bless I would feel bad but he does it to everyone even his dog looks at him untill he gets the right name :) I will let him off he is in his 90's. He makes tea and brings me cake :)

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LindyHemming · 30/03/2013 21:19

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Yama · 30/03/2013 21:21

I'm like Hec - my dh rarely uses my name. When he does, I immediately assume I'm getting into trouble.

People are weird.

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LaQueen · 30/03/2013 21:23

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AgentZigzag · 30/03/2013 21:23

I'd much rather someone didn't use my name at all than be talking to someone who constantly uses it in every sentence.

Why do people do that?

It's very patronising.

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AgentZigzag · 30/03/2013 21:25

DH doesn't really use my name either just yells 'Oi, shithead' I'd be a bit suspicious if he started formally addressing me Grin

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specialmagiclady · 30/03/2013 21:32

Glad I'm not alone in this. I wouldn't mind dear or even one of the many nicknames I go by, but the lack of Name thing is weird.

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MyDarlingClementine · 30/03/2013 21:34

Well mine still call me by maiden name, i.e. refuse that I am now Mrs Darling.

Mil sent bday card to my maiden name, they put other stuff in my maiden name!

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HazeltheMcWitch · 30/03/2013 21:35

Maybe he doesn't know how to refer to you in front of the DC?
Should he use your 1st name? (and risk them saying Jane. JAne. JAne. Jaaaane forever more)
Should he call you.... Mummy ?

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KatieScarlett2833 · 30/03/2013 21:37

DH " Huns" me
I really should LTB Smile

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StuntGirl · 30/03/2013 21:37

People really don't get called by their name by partners/family? Ever? Very weird!

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booboobeedoo · 30/03/2013 21:39

Louise

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Jestrin · 30/03/2013 21:43

It is a bit odd that your in laws have yet to call you by your first name. That said I call my DH 'lover'. Everywhere, even calling to him in the supermarket Grin so much so that when the DC were smaller they'd call up the stairs 'lover! mummy wants you!' Grin

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LaQueen · 30/03/2013 21:45

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AgentZigzag · 30/03/2013 21:48

I wouldn't say DH never says it ever, ever Stunt, but little enough for it to sound a bit weird when he does.

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