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To not understand why some people have everyone bum licking them and running around after them?

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GreenJeans Fri 29-Mar-13 22:15:24

And they're usually very self centred people too, with everyone falling over themselves to be their friend and to kiss their arse!

I know two people who are like this; they are both my friends in real life and they are also on my Facebook friends list. Both seem to do various attention seeking statuses each day, and make very little effort for others. Both have people falling over themselves to tell them how wonderful they are and how much they love them. And people always saying they want to meet up with them.

One in particular seems to have quite a dramatic life, well I think she finds drama in everything. She just has to post she's broken a toe nail and people are outraged on her behalf, offering her hugs and asking if there's anything she can do to help.

I don't get it. How do these people collect friends/hangers on?

CoolaSchmoola Fri 29-Mar-13 22:39:32


GreenJeans Fri 29-Mar-13 22:40:45

Ah well there we go then, I'm clearly a total bitch.

Thanks for that Coola, you've helped me make total sense of my life hmm

paintyourbox Fri 29-Mar-13 22:44:50

This is why I don't FB.

Chances are if you think their statuses are annoying, so do other people. I was surprised when 2 of my friends told me they'd blocked a mutual colleague because of all her annoying attention seeking status updates.

I was glad it wasn't just me who found it annoying we don't care that this is the 3rd body pump class you have been to this week and that you now need a hot man to massage your sore muscles

Theshriekingharpy Fri 29-Mar-13 22:48:01

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Failedhippy Fri 29-Mar-13 22:49:12

Delete Facebook, I did this about one year ago and (ashamedly) my life is better for it. Honestly...give it a will have less of the crap that annoys you.

Theshriekingharpy Fri 29-Mar-13 22:52:58

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aldiwhore Fri 29-Mar-13 23:02:55

Saying "This is why I don't do FB" is a little like saying "Well, this is why I don't do life"... even though FB is a choice and life kind of isn't (well that's debatable and a whole other thread).

FB isn't the issue. The way we look at it is, the way we use it, and assume. Most fall outs between people I know have been down to assumption, reading between lines, paranoia and the omission of asking for clarity either in real life or online.

On the other hand, some people are twats (I'm liking this word) and there's nothing you can really do about them on FB or RL (but you can hide them on FB and FROM them in RL, to a certain degree).

The open ended statuses are irritating and force you to be nosey... the "I'm so fucking angry" status, for example... I usally say 'Oh why? You okay?' which seems to be to be a reasonable response. But SO MANY others simply put "Aw hun, hugs hun, you hun, hun" or 'supportive' messages when they clearly don't know the reason and clearly WANT to know the reason (as do I) - the reason could be "I'm really angry because I just stabbed my neighbour and their blood is staining my blouse" (aw hun, hugs hun, love you hun) - so why are people scared to say 'What's up?' and why can't people be specific!! Seeing as a status invites responses.

And breathe.

BUT.... YABU purely because you're mixing lots of 'people types' in one hatred, and being guilty of half of them and in agreement of others I cannot completely say YANBU. [GRIN]

(I'm ever so ranty tonight, I do apologise, but I'm not telling you why, kiss my arse wink)

lisaloeb Fri 29-Mar-13 23:15:01

I ignore a lot of what is said on FB, I know who to respond to who may be in need and who is an attention seeking arse. Others seem to lack this gene and is everything ok hun is somehow programmed in their memory.

Anyone who is an attention seeking arse gets deleted.

Airwalk79 Fri 29-Mar-13 23:30:03

I don't post anything on Facebook. Anyone I'm bothered about I see / speak to.
I would come off it, but I'm far too nosey. I Have some slight aquaintences on there that are absolutely fantastic! Some of the stuff they choose to put in there is mind blowing!
It's better than any soap!

pigletpower Sat 30-Mar-13 01:07:03

I find it a lot like that on Mumsnet to be honest.

LoopaDaLoopa Sat 30-Mar-13 01:17:00

Perhaps you need to be looking at why no-one wants to sympathise with you rather than why they do with your friends. If they are your friends, you need to be a bit kinder. If not, why does it matter? Hide them on FB so you can't see them if it bothers you that people like them. You sound very insecure.

DramaLlamaFarmer Sat 30-Mar-13 01:18:08

Accept your over 18 and quit using facebook?

DramaLlamaFarmer Sat 30-Mar-13 01:18:56

How lax of me. Clearly I meant, you ARE rather than your. Carry on.

vivizone Sat 30-Mar-13 01:20:41

I know exactly what you mean. There is someone on my FB page who constantly puts her life out there. From arguing with her husband to making up, informing us when she is going to sleep, what sexy PJ she has chosen to wear to go to sleep in and what she hopes to dream about. She has so MANY people flocking to her 'oh hunny gud nite xxx sweet dreamz lovz u'.

She was going through a genuine tough time with illness in her family and I guess she didn't like that not all on her FB friends inquired what was up, so she put up a status of

'hope those who have read my status and not commented never have to go through what I am going through, cos when it happens to YOU, I will sit back and not say anything and see how you like it. All my true friends have commented'. Blah blah blah. She is good comedy though.

People offer her babysitting services, car drives to the supermarket, clothes for the kids, it's endless. Her friends appear to either really like her or want her approval. She never offers anything in return that I see from there.

Every month she has a new best buddy with the usual 'luves me bestie 4ever an ever. Thanxs for my prezzi hunni I love the dress and shoes'.

Oh my goodness I am such a bitch but that felt good to get out! blush

YouTheCat Sat 30-Mar-13 01:24:06

Anyone over the age of 14 you types 'luvs me bestie' or anything of a similar ilk, should be put up against a wall and shot for the sake of humanity.

DramaLlamaFarmer Sat 30-Mar-13 01:26:38

YouTheCat - u av got it so rong hun xx it int about how its spelt u no? xx

pollypandemonium Sat 30-Mar-13 01:27:02

FB relationships are a reflection of RL and I find it fascinating how people use it in different ways. I have the extremely popular drama queen friend who posts about everything and gets loads of responses. If I communicated in the same way that she did I would probably get the same. But I don't, instead I post what I feel like when I feel like it and that naturally attracts people that are a bit like me.

I think the trick with FB is to be yourself. There's no point in doing it otherwise.

WhoDat Sat 30-Mar-13 01:30:25

vivizone I don't have anyone like that on FB, I wish I did though. My friends are all very emotionally stable. Boring feckers. I adore FB though as I'm an expat and love seeing my friends, and especially their kids. I feel less lonely for them all! All in all a top way to keep in touch with minimal effort. But I'm pretty lazy and very nosy grin

YouTheCat Sat 30-Mar-13 01:32:00

Aw Drama grin I have no fucking idea what that says. I am so old.

I post tonnes of cat pictures and comedy links on fb. My current status is 'Omg disco on bbc4 :D Sublime :D'

I don't take myself too seriously. And I don't expect anyone else to either.

Booyhoo Sat 30-Mar-13 01:33:48

goodness. i think i'd feel quite claustrophobic if i got 68 responses to a status update on FB. i'd think it was april fools' day and they'd all conspired to make me think i was suddenly popular. i'd probably even hoover in anticipation of my hoardes of visitors grin

DramaLlamaFarmer Sat 30-Mar-13 01:34:15

I have no idea either, I just try to emulate my niece who tells me I am far too old to be still using up useful oxygen for under 30s! I feel I should end with something that sounds like innit and perhaps call you bruv?! grin

YouTheCat Sat 30-Mar-13 01:35:53

Just don't call me 'Shirley' grin

DramaLlamaFarmer Sat 30-Mar-13 01:40:39

No probs.


YouTheCat Sat 30-Mar-13 01:44:14

!!! shock

DramaLlamaFarmer Sat 30-Mar-13 01:47:24

She said WHAT NOW? That beeeeeee yatch. <fisticuffs>

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