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To think I should be allowed to have a mushroom free meal?

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RememberingMyPFEs Fri 29-Mar-13 19:16:14

I know it's petty but here goes.
I don't like mushrooms, never have. I'm 22+3 weeks PG and DH is cooking lasagne. He asked if he could put mushrooms in and I said if you absolutely must then can you chop them really small cos I really can't bear the texture. He just sliced them. I'm pissed off. I'm hungry, was looking forward to lasagne a d now I'm just going to be miserable and ungrateful that he cooked. AIBU or is he a selfish arse?

PS last night he put mushrooms in peppercorn sauce so I had steak with no sauce - which was fine with me...

marriedinwhiteagain Fri 29-Mar-13 20:12:26

My FIL wasn't fussy - god rest his soul. He didn't like:

cruciferous veg (cauli - broc)
beef or lamb unless incinerated

He also for breakfast had to have: glass of orange juice, muesli with sun pat raisins (only sun-pat), with the top of the milk, slice of wholemeal toast with lurpak and lime marmalade, a braeburn apple, tea (milk in first) with a teaspoon of honey (set not runny). In the aforementioned order. I almost swung for him.

If someone takes the trouble to cook for you - eat it and be glad. If you don't like it thank them and make yourself something on toast.

ENormaSnob Fri 29-Mar-13 20:14:52

I despise them but I still cook with them for everyone else. I cut them big so I can pull them out of my portion.

WandaDoff Fri 29-Mar-13 20:20:56

I craved mushrooms when I was pregnant with DS2. I ate them every way I could think of, either in the food or on the side.

MumOfTheMoos Fri 29-Mar-13 20:23:23

Mushrooms have no place in lasagne; all you need to make a lasagne is onion, a bit of carrot and celery (optional), pork mince, beef mince, canned tomatoes. Pasta sheets, white sauce and some Parmesan. That's it.

How rude to put things you don't like into a meal and expect you to eat it. I would never do that to my DH.

Frankly, I'm not entirely convinced that mushrooms have a place on this earth - they are neither animal, mineral or vegetable - they must therefore be alien.

Pandemoniaa Fri 29-Mar-13 20:24:46

Mushrooms do not go in lasagne or bolognese! I am Italian, so I win

Indeed they do not! I may not be Italian but DP lived in Italy and we return regularly. So we get quite unreasonable over the determination some people over here have do ruin a perfectly good ragù sauce.

So yes, your dp WBU to put mushrooms in there in the first place but actually, if they go in sliced surely they are easier to pick out?

KitchenandJumble Fri 29-Mar-13 20:25:00

Pick them out. It can't be that difficult. I spent years picking mushrooms out of things, then oddly acquired a taste for them. I quite like them now.

I don't think that people should cater constantly to the likes and dislikes of their spouses. My mother has spent 40+ years cooking only the foods my father likes. She will never, ever cook something that she likes and he doesn't. I don't mean things he's allergic to or loathes, just meals he prefers. Drives me batty. Why do his preferences always have to come first?

If your DH had cooked an entire meal based on mushrooms, I would say YANBU. But you can eat the rest of the lasagne, can't you? So I think YABU.

Sidge Fri 29-Mar-13 20:26:04

Mushrooms - fungus of Satan!

And all you mushroom-lovers saying "pick them out" - that's not the answer because the vile mushroomy fungus taints everything and ruins the whole dish.

So there.

(But to the OP - YABU to say he could corrupt the lasagne by putting them in at all so you only have yourself to blame, pregnant or not)

badguider Fri 29-Mar-13 20:30:39

I hate peppers.. not chilli peppers or jalapeno just "bell" peppers (green, red and yellow) and my DH would never put them in a meal he's cooking for us. Why would he? There are only two of us, it's not that hard to find things we both like... not like he's catering for an army or a wedding dinner!

He eats peppers when he's cooking for himself only.

I wouldn't put anything he doesn't like in a meal for both of us, or cook him a meal he dislikes. Again, why would I?

RevoltingPeasant Fri 29-Mar-13 20:40:38

I don't understand this deliberately putting stuff someone else doesn't like in, either.

DH does nearly all the cooking, and sometimes cooks things I don't like (generally he is a wonderful cook). I try to eat them politely and then some time later will thank him for cooking and say 'It wasn't my favourite, though, would you mind if we didn't have it again?'

He never knowingly cooks stuff I don't like, and when I cook I respect the fact that he doesn't like very hot food (which I love), can't have caffeine, etc etc.

Cooking for the family is about give and take! And no, you don't 'thank them and have something on toast', because if they're taking the time to cook for the household, then it's bleedin' expensive and wasteful to refuse a whole portion. Much more sensible to cook something everyone will like.

b4bunnies Fri 29-Mar-13 20:44:19


back in the dark ages, i was married. i was pregnant. i was vomited at all hours of the day and night.

he made (ie heated) pizza on french bread with silverskin onions in white wine sauce.

that gives you the measure of the man. four years later, was able to show him the door.

SkinnybitchWannabe Fri 29-Mar-13 21:03:30

I'd rather eat my OHs toe nail clippings than eat a fungus. But I still put them in food and all I do is pick them out.

ConfusedPixie Fri 29-Mar-13 22:58:18

YANBU. I used to gag on mushrooms. I have no idea why but I just couldn't handle the texture of them (I can't handle big chunks of it still now). I actually think it was quite cruel of him to leave them chunky if he knows that you have an aversion to them and you asked him to chop them small.

DP and I both have things we don't like and I have quite a few things I just cannot stomach (tomatoes!) so we don't put them in meals for the other. It's simple really!

expatinscotland Fri 29-Mar-13 23:03:20

I love mushrooms, but not in lasagne. Eewww. He is very unreasonable to put them in lasagne, that's disgusting!

zukiecat Fri 29-Mar-13 23:08:48

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ImTooHecsyForYourParty Fri 29-Mar-13 23:09:28

I think it's mean to put something in a meal you are cooking that you know the other person you intend to eat it with you doesn't like.

Why would anyone do that when there are likely to be many many things that both people enjoy.

I don't get it.

HollyBerryBush Fri 29-Mar-13 23:11:24

Lasagne, shepherds pie, spag bol, moussaka - all places to hide things that you don't actually want on your plate but are good for you!

DumSpiroSpero Fri 29-Mar-13 23:11:42

My DH has 'food intolerances' (as diagnosed by quack in well known health food shop hmm ), one of which is mushrooms.

It's not difficult to manage if one person doesn't like them - I just cook a few off and put then in a bowl. Cook the rest of the meal, dish up DH & DD's, then stir them through what's left for me.

You'll have to get him making spag bol as it works well for that, stir fries & curries.

Loulybelle Fri 29-Mar-13 23:17:27

You lot have made me wanna eat mushrooms now, how can i have them at this time of night.

ladymariner Fri 29-Mar-13 23:20:03

You are pregnant.

You are entitled to be as *fussy, *unreasonable, picky and flouncy as you like.

No you're not.

WorraLiberty Fri 29-Mar-13 23:27:21

Don't dis the shrooms...they're wonderful things.

But seriously, my DH doesn't like them therefore I cut them big on that he can easily spot them and pick them out.

It's not difficult for him to do.

Emilythornesbff Sat 30-Mar-13 06:18:56

Why the fuckity fuck couldn't he just omit the blighters?

"could I add something you strongly dislike to this sauce that will do nothing to enhance the dish?" ?? Knob!
If he MUST do this then the larger the better so you can pick them out.
(pop them on my plate, I like mushrooms).

carabos Sat 30-Mar-13 08:48:55

At a corporate conference I organised, mushroom risotto was the vegetarian option at dinner. Every single one of the people who had declared themselves to be vegetarian on the booking site together with the one Muslim lady came to me and said they couldn't eat the risotto. Almost all of them said it was because vegetarians can't eat mushrooms and the Muslim lady said it was because Muslims can't eat mushrooms.

I had no idea mushrooms were such a "thing" and had always thought that they were a staple for veggies. I did notice that several of the "vegetarians" enjoyed the full English breakfast the next day however, so I'm assuming that they must be part of a veggie sub-culture that eschews mushrooms but tolerates bacon and sausages...

Tee2072 Sat 30-Mar-13 08:52:17

Did I miss something?

He said 'can I add mushrooms'

You said, 'sure, if they are small'

So he did and, I am assuming here, cut them into what was, to him, small.

Why didn't you say 'No. I hate mushrooms. They are evil. I will puke on you if you add mushrooms.'?

Are you always so passive aggressive?

ConfusedPixie Sat 30-Mar-13 09:03:08

carabos: shock What planet were the people at the conference on?! I've never heard that but I will ask for it to be clarified should I ever meet a 'veggie' who says it!

Branleuse Sat 30-Mar-13 09:08:24


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