AIBU to be really nervous about going to the office. DH doesnt get it!

[havingamadmoment]

Dh and I started a business 3.5 years ago. The first 2 years we both worked from home but as the business grew we needed an office. At the time I was pregnant with dc5. I carried on working but worked from home part time while dh went to work in the office we now have an office with a few other employees and dh.

Now that dc5 is a toddler MIL is going to have her for two days a week so that I can go into the office to work (our business is growing again and really I need to be there at least some of the time now). I am terrified.

I have worked in the company for 3.5 years, I am a director and own 50% of it with dh and yet I feel as though I am starting the first day.

Dh seems to be expecting me to waltz in and just get on, he keeps saying " your in charge" but I feel really out of place and far from in charge of anything . I need to buy some clothes to wear and I cant even think what. I a, really looking forward to it but would like some recognition that its not just another day at work its totally different but dh looks at me like this as to him its the same job just in a different room.

[HumphreyCobbler]

I was terrified before starting work again after mat leave. Honestly, as soon as I got there I relaxed and it was fine. The anticipation is terrible, the reality is fine.

Good luck

[MimiSunshine]

Your DH just isn't going to get it, he has no similar point if reference so I'd forget about trying to get him to understand and focus on what you can do.
If you were an employee in some one else's company you'd have 'back to work' days so can you arrange something like that?

If you're a Director and 'going to be in charge' could you arrange to go in once a week before you actually start back properly? You could arrange informal 121s over coffee with the team which help ease you in and help you get to know them properly. That way when you go in full time it's not quite new girl at school for you?

[Charliefox]

Being in charge doesn't mean that you have to rock up on day one and be all conquering! Remember, they're clearly getting on just fine without you, so you can ease your way back into it. Meet the team, take your time, find out what's good and where there's areas that could be improved. You'll be up and running before you know it.