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Gemziewooo Thu 28-Mar-13 19:58:17

So fed up, feel trapped and wondering if anyone else is in the same situation.

I have a partner and have been with him for 6 years now. We have two children ages 4 and 3! I am so unhappy. For all the years we have been together my partner has always thought he was right and i was in the wrong. Everytime we argue he goes off out and i dont see him for days, mostly weekends on the drink. He has been in and out of jobs due to the recession. However he has lost jobs because has stayed off on.mondays due to hangover. I can tell when he wants to go off because he tries to start arguments so he has an excuse to storm.out. He keeps his wage and forgets the times he had no job n i had to keep him. He forgets he has treat me like dirt all these years. He always tries to blame me n say i always go on. I work wveryday and also fo to college 4 days a week. I sort the kids out and make sure house chores i are done everyday. Dont get me wrong most weeks he does give me money but thinks

ErikNorseman Thu 28-Mar-13 20:11:13

Why are you still with him?

Bridgetbidet Thu 28-Mar-13 20:28:23

Dump him, he's an arsehole. There's not two ways about it. I can't find anything positive to say about him and I usually try to be devil's advocate. Just get rid. He's a wanker.

LahleeMooloo Thu 28-Mar-13 20:31:04

Why do women put up with shit like this?

Lueji Thu 28-Mar-13 20:34:38

Definitely LTL.
L for loser, he's not even a bastard.

I'm sure you'll find it easier and cheaper without him around.

AgentZigzag Thu 28-Mar-13 20:46:31

What Erik said.

Would it help if I put it in a list for you?

Cons -
-he makes you unhappy
-plays point scoring power games where he has to be right by making you feel as though you're wrong
-avoids talking about things by going out
-unpredictable and unreliable - going out for days/weekends on the piss
-unreliable contributing to the running costs of house/children
-thinks not going into work because he's got a hangover is acceptable
-starts arguments with you as an excuse to go out
-treats you like dirt
-turns the responsibility round onto you when you dare to bring up his shitty behaviour
-leaves the running of the house and care of the children completely to you

Pros -
-gives you a bit of cash

I know I've just repeated your OP, but honestly, just one or two of those things would make me wonder why I was with man who's acting like a student.

Why are you with him?? confused

AgentZigzag Thu 28-Mar-13 20:47:30

I bet i've posted on the wrong one grin

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