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Ex DP left 19mth old DD in bath alone...

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moonmanic Thu 28-Mar-13 19:44:06

And I had a massive go at him. He seemed to not think it was a big deal. I am of the opinion she is still too small to be left on her own and the danger of drowning is too high.

Ex DP comes round several times a week to do the bed time routine. I was in the living room when I became aware he was pottering around in the kitchen which leads into the bathroom. He then comes into the living room to ask me some random question about the radio. I assume DD is out of the bath and ask where she is, thinking she is perhaps in the bedroom. He was like, no she's in the bath. I have a go at him, rush past him and find her in the bath tub, thank god she is ok.

AIBU to think she is still way too young to be left for any amount of time in the bath? I think he is a massive douchebag. He then is in a strop with me for the rest of his time here.

whoopwhoopbib Fri 29-Mar-13 18:41:56

Dp left our then 5 month old dd alone in the bath lying on a bath support while he asked me to get him something. I too went mad and was told I was overreacting as she was fine. I also posted an aibu because I wanted him to see what other people thought but he refused to read the thread. Afaik he has not left her since but I am very wary when he does bathtime especially as he was unable to see the risk.

kohl Fri 29-Mar-13 18:47:23

What a massive tool.

Andratx Fri 29-Mar-13 19:56:33

I am wondering what sort of age children need to be before you can leave them in everyone's opinion?

Mine were about 3.5 years before I left the actual bathroom (for a few seconds).

What is the right age?

jinxdragon Fri 29-Mar-13 20:35:43

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

gallifrey Fri 29-Mar-13 20:42:07

I leave my 9 yr old and 2 yr old in the bath together but I'm always pottering about upstairs even though I'm not sitting in the actual bathroom with them.
I'm sitting in the bathroom now while the 2 yr old one is in the bath reading this.
The thing with a lot of men is they do stuff like this and then get all defensive if you pull them up on it and say things like they'll be ok and of course they are and you look like you are being over protective xx

Sparklyboots Fri 29-Mar-13 20:45:03

I might have been a bit more relaxed about this until I saw my 2yo slip under. I was sitting right there and he was fine, but the slip was almost silent and he had no effing idea how to right himself, was totally panicked. We have a one-bedroom flat so everything is basically next to the bathroom, so I was starting to think of popping out/ pottering near by but when I saw how easily he could have drowned that is completely off the itinerary for a while to come.

Fleecyslippers Fri 29-Mar-13 21:00:37

Idiot. DD lost her 4 front teeth because her idiot of a father left her alone in the bath aged 22 months. She stood up, slipped and cracked her mouth open on the side of the bath.
Show him this thread.

Emilythornesbff Fri 29-Mar-13 21:06:12

He's a fucking idiot.
You must be so cross.

Thing is, I find lots of men don't like to be "told". But it could well be that he listens without acknowledging it IYSWIM.

I'm assuming he doesn't bath dc at his place.

WilsonFrickett Fri 29-Mar-13 21:10:35

I know a 3 yo who drowned in the bath. And believe you me, I am laid back mum compared to a lot of people, but I never left my DS unsupervised in the bath till he was over 5.

And even now he is nearly 8, either DH or I will be on the same floor of the house as him if he's bathing or showering. Your X is being a twat.

Molehillmountain Fri 29-Mar-13 21:17:05

He's being a fool. My brother drowned in the bath. I still remember screaming when I found out. I never talk about it but felt the need here.

girlsyearapart Fri 29-Mar-13 21:20:51

Like other posters my ds has slipped under the water when I've been right next to him he is 16 months & climbs up everything.

The other day my friend was at my house with her dcs and as they were about to leave I ran the bath ready for my kids to get into.

Friend said to me she would take ds up to the bath as her dd needed the loo.

I went up a few minutes later to find him alone in the bath & her on the floor above with her 6yo child who had been on the toilet upstairs as her other child was on the loo in the bathroom with the bath in.

So it's not just men who seem to think this is ok.

girlsyearapart Fri 29-Mar-13 21:21:40

molehill sad would you like to tell us about him?

Molehillmountain Fri 29-Mar-13 21:27:07

That's really lovely of you to ask, girls, but I don't think so. I just needed to put it on the thread to add to the don't leave a baby in the bath voices.

girlsyearapart Fri 29-Mar-13 21:33:50

Of course. It is very brave of you to tell everyone in the first place. So sorry for your loss

Emilythornesbff Fri 29-Mar-13 21:37:59

Molehillmountain. I'm so sorry.

WilsonFrickett Sat 30-Mar-13 01:06:58

sad molehill and much love to you.

Bumply Sat 30-Mar-13 02:00:39

The following is an extract on a report of drowning a in the UK.

Studies of bath drownings indicate that there is usually a history of leaving the infant or toddler unsupervised or in the care of another child. In most of the reports the supervisory adult reported leaving the infant or toddler for a short time. The clear consensus within literature suggests that lack of adult supervision is the key contributing factor to childhood bath drownings. The key preventative measure proposed is uninterrupted adult supervision of children (less than three) whilst in the bath.

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