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To not be upset that I'll never bf again

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DixieD Thu 28-Mar-13 16:35:17

I have 3 kids. There will be no more. I fed the two eldest for a year each. DS2 is 18 months tomorrow. He has one feed every night before bedtime. He will go to sleep without it for DH no problem. I have decided that I will take advantage of DH being off for Easter and get him to put DS2 to bed thereby kicking him off the boob.
Tonight will be the last time I ever breastfeed again. DH, DM, friends are all expecting me to be emotional and I am not at all. I am fine, looking forward to it actually. Am I dead inside?

GentlyGentlyOhDear Thu 28-Mar-13 21:04:40

I loved bf at the start and thought it was great and liked having big boobs

Once we got to about 9 months I was really looking forward to stopping but plodded on with the occasional mix feed. We are now 11 days off her first birthday and that is my milestone to stop.

I can't wait to have my teeny boobs back and wear nice clothes and not worry about boob access and feeding a squirmer in public. I've started reducing feeds now and I must admit to feeling a leetle bit redundant now DD isn't as interested in feeding and is enjoying her milk in a cup.

notimefors Thu 28-Mar-13 20:59:22

Oh excellent. I was thinking I would have to settle for valium instead.

weebarra Thu 28-Mar-13 20:55:12

I was glad when DS2 stopped at 2, but he had greatly reduced feeding since I went back to work when he was 10 months.
Now expecting DC3 and not sure whether I'm looking forward to breastfeeding or not. I've probably blocked out how relentless it is to begin with though.

AnythingNotEverything Thu 28-Mar-13 20:54:08

It's so lovely to read mum's being so honest about breast feeding. I know everyone has different experiences, but it's nice to hear that you can not love it and still do it!

My ds (now 13) wouldn't latch so had expressed milk in a bottle for 6 weeks and then was ff. in now pregnant again and, if I'm honest, am really worried about breast feeding. I loved ff. It was easy, my baby slept, his dad and grandparents could help. But I know it's right to (at least try to) breast feed ...

Sorry for hijacking the thread!

YANBU though - its just time for the next step.

DeskPlanner Thu 28-Mar-13 20:44:25

Oh, crap just read the op properlyblush . Sorry, you ANBU though. Bloody hell well done, enjoy the freedom.

DeskPlanner Thu 28-Mar-13 20:41:43

I've spent 6 years of my life bf, my children. It makes me sad dc3 has stopped, and that's the end. YANBU.

Bridgetbidet Thu 28-Mar-13 20:23:47

Oh look I did a breasts pun. Ha!

Bridgetbidet Thu 28-Mar-13 20:23:31

Prolactin is in Motillium. So there you go notimefors. Get off your tits.

dopeysheep Thu 28-Mar-13 20:16:06

You can buy oxytocin nasal sprays, notime. Not sure about prolactin.

Twattybollocks Thu 28-Mar-13 20:08:11

Yanbu, it's a big step and sad acknowledging that you will never do it again, dd2 is my 3rd and last baby, I'm enjoying each day because I know that soon she will lose that delicious newborn snuggliness and I'll never get it again, same with the bf, in a few months she will be weaning onto solids and while I look forward to the freedom it will give me I'm also sad that she won't need me quite so much any more

bedmonster Thu 28-Mar-13 19:44:51

Can I just say, I have no problems with anyone else bfing, just that it really wasn't my cup of tea!

bedmonster Thu 28-Mar-13 19:43:22

Oh god, YANBU. I absolutely hated it. Did DC1 and DC3 for 6 months each, DC2 for 3 months. Hated every little part of it. The grim sensation, the fact that no else can settle the baby, the constant togetherness, gah. I loved all my DC, had no depression issues, but never ever liked bfing. I always knew i'd do it for each one, didn't consider formula, but it was a huge huge relief when I finally put my sagging tits back in my bra for the last time.

Chiggers Thu 28-Mar-13 19:34:59


I hated BF so much that I vowed never to have anymore DC. I couldn't bring a child into the world without BF and I didn't want to BF anymore, so I got sterilised at 30yo. Best thing I ever did TBH, because I can now get on with my life.

Theicingontop Thu 28-Mar-13 17:23:39

Just finished breastfeeding my son and he's 2.5... And then only because I'm recently pregnant with number 2, and it seems to have finally put him off. I get precisely 7 months respite before the next round.

YANBU! It's not like I didn't like breastfeeding, but it was stressful, and despite what some people will insist, it isn't always the most convenient option. Especially when you have to go back to working nights when they're nine months old and refusing a bottle of anything. And then there's self-weaning a toddler who would rather poke himself in the eye with a lego than give up the boob.

notimefors Thu 28-Mar-13 17:22:44

I will miss breastfeeding when I stop. I think the hormones affect me more than other women. I drop straight off to sleep after feeding when otherwise I am an insomniac, and every time I have fed DC I have felt all calm and peaceful.
Ah. I wish you could buy prolactin and oxytocin.
Totally selfish reasons there but never mind!

TeWiSavesTheDay Thu 28-Mar-13 17:14:19

I'm not feeding right now, thank god! But pg, next baby will be at minimum mixed fed if not ff, because I honestly can't do it again.

My last baby DS was a bottle refuser, fed a lot + bad sleeper, added to the fact I can't drive so was spending 4hrs a day walking with DD to preschool until DS was 13mths, life has been very monotonous and very difficult.

When people say "don't introduce bottles before 6wks" i chip in now and say make sure you do it ASAP if baby having bottles is important to you!

ICBINEG Thu 28-Mar-13 17:04:53

tewi that doesn't sound like a great place to be in!

Is the feeding that is making you feel like that or the responsibility in general? Could you stockpile some milk and feel more secure?

DixieD Thu 28-Mar-13 17:01:44

I have been pregnant or breast feeding for 5 and half of the last 7 years. I am just ready to move onto the next phase. Just have my body back.

TeWiSavesTheDay Thu 28-Mar-13 17:01:27

God no!

I secretly hate bf actually. Not the act itself! Which is good, obviously.

I have having tiny person being so dependent on you your life is basically on hold. Everytime you go out without them is a stressful risk. It's suffocating and makes me feel very depressed.

HumphreyCobbler Thu 28-Mar-13 16:59:38

I was so pleased to stop actually, not emotional at all. Just quite happy about the fact that my boobs would shrink a bit, i was fed up with having comedy boobs

JimbosJetSet Thu 28-Mar-13 16:57:51

I felt quite liberated when I stopped b' feeding DC1 at 15m, as up until then I fed her to sleep every night, so it was always me that had to put her to bed.
However I'm now b'feeding DC2 who is 6m, and he will be our last - although I have no plans to give up b'feeding any time soon, I am already feeling sad at the prospect of it ending one day.
But no, you are definitely not being unreasonable - it's a good job we are all different!

ICBINEG Thu 28-Mar-13 16:57:29

everyone is different aren't they?

I will miss the only quite time I get with my frenetic toddler but I wont miss the hormone rush that can make me feel nauseous...and just a little like my soul is being sucked out...


Lueji Thu 28-Mar-13 16:52:03

No, of course not. FGS.

Your friends are as they are.

Breastfeeding has its time, and children grow.
It would be silly to want it to go on and on and on, forever. (disclaimer - not commenting on how long you breastfeed for, but it has to stop at some point)

MidnightMasquerader Thu 28-Mar-13 16:50:08


I BF'd DS and DD 13 and 18 months respectively; they were 18 months aparts, so I was either pregnant and/or breastfeeding for over 3 years.

I felt nothing but relief to finally get my body back.

Enjoy! smile

Pandemoniaa Thu 28-Mar-13 16:48:19

YANBU. Everything has to come to an end.

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