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Not to understand: Your House/Wedding/Child Your Rules?

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Hullygully Thu 28-Mar-13 11:54:43

What happened to manners?

What happened to consideration for other people, putting one's guests first, or making people feel comfortable or just mutually agreeing a framework of behaviour around kids?

How can it work if everyone has Me Me Mine about Their Rules??

Salmotrutta Thu 28-Mar-13 15:12:40

I already smile sweetly and stare like a mad woman...

I don't need encouraging.

Maryz Thu 28-Mar-13 15:18:09

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Salmotrutta Thu 28-Mar-13 15:19:30

Oh Lordy yes Maryz.

Where have you been?

TheBigJessie Thu 28-Mar-13 15:20:05

ICBINEG It's a bit Ursula Leguin but I would like to see 'my child' outlawed from the language and replaced with 'the child I am responsible for' or maybe 'the child' or just their name....thinking of children as belongings is a Bad Thing.

I agree with this.

Hullygully Thu 28-Mar-13 15:24:43

But my children ARE my possessions.

I am going to ebay them in due course.

Can one ebay? As a verb?

Hullygully Thu 28-Mar-13 15:25:29

Wally, I very much like both your name and your use of "ding dong"

ICBINEG Thu 28-Mar-13 15:26:15

you can definitely ebay as a verb....

WallyBantersJunkBox Thu 28-Mar-13 15:26:27

Salmo - it's the lack of blinking during eye contact that makes it frightening, to make it worse, add a slight tick....

TheBigJessie Thu 28-Mar-13 15:27:20

You, Hully, are part of Broken Britain. I will be writing a stirring (in both senses) polemic for a national newspaper about you, in due course.

ICBINEG Thu 28-Mar-13 15:28:28

man I really really wanted to deploy the HTH there...I could have gotten away with it...but it's just TOO PA.....I always back away from the brink...

WallyBantersJunkBox Thu 28-Mar-13 15:29:14


<<waits outside ICBINEG's house>>

ICBINEG Thu 28-Mar-13 15:32:50

<peers out through curtains, wonders who in their right mind travels with a portable doorbell, then hides under the bed>

WallyBantersJunkBox Thu 28-Mar-13 15:36:27

i just wanted to enquire on where one could purchase some "cunt bunting"?


WallyBantersJunkBox Thu 28-Mar-13 15:36:46

MY BELL, MY RULES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hullygully Thu 28-Mar-13 15:38:05

except it's her bell

Hullygully Thu 28-Mar-13 15:38:29

Oh, unless it is your portable one, SOZ

WallyBantersJunkBox Thu 28-Mar-13 15:43:01

Yes i take it everywhere I go, for maximum DING DONG!

ICBINEG Thu 28-Mar-13 15:57:30

<lowers cunt bunting from the safety of an upstairs window>

Laquitar Thu 28-Mar-13 15:58:39

I prefer no shoes in the house and my friends know this.Imo everybody is allowed to have an 'odd thing' but it is how you express it.

I agree with the op and i think that you can play by your rules only but then you must accept that people can be rigid too. For example you can decide to marry abroad but dont expect people to pay 1K in flights to come, you can ban your ILs from your house but dont complain about lack of babysitting, you can throw in the bin the xmas present because it was pink but then dont complain if your children dont receive easter eggs and so on.

RatPants Thu 28-Mar-13 16:22:46

YANBU. Rude, rude, rude.

fishcalledwonder Thu 28-Mar-13 16:33:16

I agree with regards to rules in the house. I hope that any guests in my home feel welcome and comfortable enough to do what they like.

However, I've watched several friends spoil their own wedding in their attempts to please others, so am a big advocate of people putting themselves first on their wedding day.

MrsLion Thu 28-Mar-13 21:45:45

I don't think you can lump 'my child, my rules' with 'my house/ wedding my rules' etc...

I have pulled the 'my child, my rules' out for mil when all other discussion failed. It was nothing to do with manners.

I was requesting that my pre-schoolers who can't swim did need an adult in the pool with them, especially given it was over their heads. 
Mil insisted they were safe and could 'hang onto the side'. 

DH and I weren't there, before anyone asks why we weren't in the pool too.

Tbh I don't think parenting is 'decision by committee'. Of course there many influences in a childs life, and advice should be offered/received, opinions respected and experiences shared between wider family and friends. But at the end of the day, parents or caregivers make the decisions about their children.  

It's not a free-for-all, nor should it be. So IMO, in the right situation 'my child, my rules' is absolutely fine.

Incidentally, where I live it's considered bad manners not to take your shoes off when going into someone else's house. I twigged eventually after committing many a faux pas.

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