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prettypleasewithsugarontop Thu 28-Mar-13 07:33:56

Two DDs (5 & 8) DD1 goes to school with childminder (effectively keeping space for DD2 when she starts school in August) DH reckons that the girls will be able to walk down together with no adult supervision, its a 10min walk with 1 road cross. So, who IBU? I think its a bit much responsibility for DD1, especially as DD2 can play up...any thoughts welcome and please tell me if I am being precious blush

ApocalypseThen Thu 28-Mar-13 07:38:03

Why not try a couple if dry runs on a quiet day like Sunday and see how they go? You can follow from a distance once or twice or whatever?

Flisspaps Thu 28-Mar-13 07:39:15

I wouldn't expect an 8yo to supervise a 5yo on the walk home.

I might let an 8yo do it alone but not the younger one.

TantrumsAndBalloons Thu 28-Mar-13 07:40:43

I might let the 8 year old, depending on the child obviously.

But I wouldn't ask an 8 year old to be responsible for a 5 year old. That's too much IMO.

Icelollycraving Thu 28-Mar-13 07:44:28

I wouldn't. That responsibility is too much IMO.

YellowandGreenandRedandBlue Thu 28-Mar-13 07:44:43

He is being totally irresponsible, not just nreasonable. A child is not safe to supervise a younger sibling at just 8yo, either at home or out in traffic.

Your school may have guidelines on this, they wouldn't release the 5 yo to an 8yo for a reason.

SkinnybitchWannabe Thu 28-Mar-13 07:45:55

I agree with the above replies. I wouldn't let the 8 year old be responsible for the 5 year old..far too young.

SanityClause Thu 28-Mar-13 07:53:21

It's not fair to make the 8yo responsible. If you would let the 5yo do it on her own, fine, but not if the 8yo has to look after her.

So, as you think the 5yo has the potential to be a bit silly, I would say they aren't ready yet.

niceguy2 Thu 28-Mar-13 07:54:50

He's being an idiot. I'm generally pretty relaxed about things like this but even i wouldn't leave an 8yr old in charge of a 5 year old.

CloudsAndTrees Thu 28-Mar-13 07:55:38

There is no way I'd even begin to consider an arrangement like that.

Why can't they both just go with the childminder?

Callisto Thu 28-Mar-13 07:55:49

No way would I do this, and I can't imagine the school would allow it anyway. So yanbu or precious and I think your DH is being irresponsible to say the least.

prettypleasewithsugarontop Thu 28-Mar-13 07:56:40

Thankd for all the replies. I don't know if the school have a policy, but I do feel a bit hmm . TBF we both walked alone from a young age but this was in the 90s. I'm going to have to attempt to figure this one out - how I wish the school had a breakfast club! sad

ENormaSnob Thu 28-Mar-13 07:57:07

Far too young.

prettypleasewithsugarontop Thu 28-Mar-13 07:57:39

The cm doesn't have the space for both as she has two primary school age children of her own, so only space for one other child.

fluffyraggies Thu 28-Mar-13 07:57:51

Nope - wouldn't do it.
DD2 is not DD1s responsibility.

YellowandGreenandRedandBlue Thu 28-Mar-13 08:00:39

Is the school run dne inthe car?

YellowandGreenandRedandBlue Thu 28-Mar-13 08:02:13

It doesn't matter what you did as children, times and standards change. In Victorian times they'd have been up chimneys by 8.

Volume of traffic has changed enormously.

prettypleasewithsugarontop Thu 28-Mar-13 08:02:59

No, they would be walking from home, we live in small village. A possibility would be finding out wheb they can be grounds from and just leaving a little later to accomodate that (i don't drive)

prettypleasewithsugarontop Thu 28-Mar-13 08:03:28

Yes Yellow...that was one of my points, it is a very busy road

TanteRose Thu 28-Mar-13 08:03:48

well, we are not in the UK and it is the norm where we live, but my 8 year old DD used to walk with DS, 6, to school and back

two roads, one railway track to cross and a 15 minute walk

but as I said, there were loads of other children doing the same thing, and traffic assistants on the two roads they had to cross

binger Thu 28-Mar-13 08:04:11

Our school's policy is that p1 children must be brought to and picked up (at door) by adult.

MammaTJ Thu 28-Mar-13 08:04:22

No, I would not let an 8 year old be responsible for a 5 year old.

YellowandGreenandRedandBlue Thu 28-Mar-13 08:06:39

If walking, can't the childminder take them all? I thought an 8yo wouldn't count in her numbers? Or she could get a variation for the school run, I bet she would get that.

RedHelenB Thu 28-Mar-13 08:08:28

Does she use a car the CM? Because your 8 year old doesn't count in her numbers if she walks with her mindees. Thing is, even if they were safe to walk to school (10 mins does seem a bit long with a road to cross) what would happen of they turned up & school was closed for some reason?

RedHelenB Thu 28-Mar-13 08:10:08

Not quite sure how it helps because you are only gaining 10 mins of time aren't you as you would be at home when they set off presumably? Are there no neighbours they could walk with?

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