Ex and I haven't been together since DD, whos just turned 5, was one. I am now remarried and have another daughter who is 6 months old. He has contact every other weekend - no midweek contact and none during school holidays despite me having offered it. Last week he asked if he could have midweek contact tonight. He's probably had it five times at most since we split so, keen to encourage contact, I told DD she'd miss her after school activity today. She didn't want to, but accepted it. There's a fair in town so DD asked if he'd take her there after tea - there are many places to eat at/around the fair. He said he would. When he's taken her for tea before he's always been late so I was very specific about what time she needed to be back when he asked. We've had a busy few days and she really needed a bath so I said to be back by 6.45 which is reasonable considering she, and her sister, are usually in bed for 7.30.
At 6.15 he text saying they hadn't got to the fair yet and could he return her at 7.30 instead. I said no as it's too late, she needed a bath and he is so loud that he'd have woken my baby if she'd already been asleep. He returned her at 7.25! She was soaked through, shivering and half asleep. Turns out they'd driven 12 miles to collect his gf from work, then a further 22 miles past our town to him and his girlfriends favourite restaurant where DD doesn't like the food and so didn't eat anything. They then took her to the fair, another 10 mile drive, and she went on the water zorbing activity first where she got soaked but he let her Carry on going on other rides anyway despite her complaining she was cold and wanted to go home. Her lips were blue when she got here and she was absolutely shattered from lack of food plus too much driving around.
Younger DD was extremely tired and upset, elder DD was so tired she started crying at the prospect of having to walk upstairs and went to bed still shivering. She's been up twice already saying she feels ill and can't warm up and baby has only just settled. Before ex arrived DD and I filled an envelope with pictures she'd done at school for him as he has no involvement in her school life and so usually misses out. He didn't thank her or anything then on the way to his car DD saw him put the envelope and it's contents into our bin which is out for collection tomorrow :-( I have chronic sinusitis which isn't clearing up and the prospect of being up with the kids tonight just makes me want to ring him and tell him he's an absolute cock. I'm so tired and can't shake the illness because everytime DD returns from contact we have at least 2 or 3 unsettled nights due to nightmares from inappropriate films he's let her watch/games he's let her play. Apologies for the rant, realistically I know I won't call him. But AIBU to think he's behaved like an idiot tonight and to pull him up on it?
AIBU?
to tell my ex husband he is a prize cock
princessj29 · 20/03/2013 21:29
YANBU so 
for your DD though seeing her dad chuck the pictures she'd given him in the bin. I have a 5 year old DD myself and that's made me want to cry.
YANBU. Of it all the part that upsets me most is that she made him pictures which he put in the bin. And she saw it!
Personally I would send the pictures to him in the post addressed to 'COCK'
That is absolutely disgraceful and so
At least you know the answer should he ever ask for midweek contact again.
Words fail me!
Poor dd, in future if he asks for extra co tact just ask her and if she'd rather go to her activity (or stay home and watch telly!) let her make that choice.
I can't believe he threw her pics away 
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