to think that being overweight is never a good look?

[INeedThatForkOff]

Superficial, I know. I say this as someone who is just about obese at size 16, four months postnatal.

Pre DCs I lost two stones and was at the top of my healthy weight range and a size 12. Fine really. I put on 3st with DD, lost it over 9 months, then let a stone creep back on again. I gained another 3st with DS and am in the process of losing it through diet and exercise, though struggling with tiredness, not wanting to compromise BFing, lack of time greed etc. I need to lose at least 2st still, but 3 would be best.

I've finally given in and replaced my maternity and BFing clothes with a few new bits which, to a degree, makes me feel better, but frankly when I get out and spend time with slim, healthy people, I realise that I will never look good at this size.

It's not just a self esteem issue. As much as we try to dress it up and say you can be stylish at any size, most looks work better on slim people. Being overweight has connotations of unhealthiness, lack of control, greed or laziness, and I think it's very hard to ignore that. I'm aware that in some circumstances (and I have PCOS) weight control can be difficult. Also that some people genuinely don't give a shit about how anyone else views them. Perhaps I'm simply prejudiced.

But I just don't think being overweight can be a good look. I can't even think of anyone in the public eye who looks genuinely good, without the conditional 'for their size'.

AIBU?

Fuck, I don't know if I dare post this. Flame away (it might actually help me feel better as I am, though that's not my intention!)

[ImperialBlether]

I'd get the popcorn out if it wasn't fattening.

You are going to burn baby, burn.

[Mintyy]

And the point of this wind up thread is what??

[DamnBamboo]

I can't even begin to think why you posted this!

[LaurieFairyCake]

I think it's sad that you can't see beauty in someone who is overweight.

I'm overweight but very pretty and attractive - I've never had anyone say that I look good for my size

[MrsKeithRichards]

Yabu some people look better than others, regardless of size. Some really slim people can't dress for shit and just assume everything suits them, some curvy women try to squeeze into styles that don't suit them.

Dressing well, for your size, regardless of what that size may be, is a talent.

[RatPants]

Clothes look better on thin people, without question. They hang better, the silhouette is nicer but then again I don't think the underfed kind of skinny look is one to emulate either. Meh.

[Portofino]

So you are fat and have come to have a pop at other fat people to make you feel better?

[MooMooSkit]

I don't think YABU to personally have that opinion, however, lots of people don't think that and I can see this thread becoming a bunfight. However, IMO I agree overweight doesn't ever look good and would find it extremly difficult if I did put on weight due to circumstances out of my control like thyroid issues so anyone who gets like that through no fault of their own I feel for.

[INeedThatForkOff]

I agree, clothes don't look good if you can't dress for shit. I can't.

I started it because it's what I think. I wanted to put it out there I'm well aware I'm going to get a pasting. It's just a forum

[MooMooSkit]

Also agree with what an above poster says, it would be unfair to dismiss the face just because someone is overweight. Adele is clearly overweight but I think she has a beautiful face and dresses well.

[janey68]

There are some bloody ugly people about who aren't overweight. Just saying .

[Areyoumadorisitme]

YABU to have posted this when you must realise the only result is that you will piss off or upset a lot of people.

There can be no good come out of this, you know how you feel and seem to feel it deeply so aren't looking for people to change your mind.

Pointless fat bashing. Have my first .

[kinkyfuckery]

There's a difference between being overweight and obese.

[Startail]

My very big DSIS is prettier than me and has better skin than I have ever had.

The slimiest mum at school always looks ill.

[Pagwatch]

I think you probably are simply prejudiced. And tbh it's not desperately wealthy to layer such negative judgements upon people who are overweight if you are overweight yourself.
To become a happy healthy person you have to value yourself. Your post is layered with contempt for people like you.

[Pagwatch]

Healthy not wealthy.

[CloudsAndTrees]

I don't think it's just about overweight. The plus size models that get used to show plus size clothes always look great. I have a friend that's very overweight, but she always looks lovely, because she has a good shape. Her figure is perfect, just bigger.

[MrsKeithRichards]

Maybe seek out a bit of help regarding how to dress for your new shape? It would make the world of difference to how you feel. Wearing shapeless baggy things would make anyone look rubbish.

[AnnabelKarma]

underfed kind of skinny look

Is that as opposed to the overfed kind of fatty look ?

Or are we still only allowed to be rude about slim people on MN?

[PhallicGiraffe]

YANBU, but a lot of people on here are very sensitive about their weight so this won't end well.

[INeedThatForkOff]

slimiest? Ha!

I'm not intending to offend fat people, but I know I will. Is it just me who sees those connotations then?

[INeedThatForkOff]

GwendolineMaryLacy - nope, not a bit.

[IfNotNowThenWhen]

It all depends how the weight is distributed.
Some people carry it very well. Plus, as Catherine Deneuve said, at a certain age, one must make a choice between one's face and one's arse.
(I paraphrase).
Ruth Jones is gorgeous, but if you are overweight and all the weight is entirely on your ankles, then, no, it's not a good look.
HTH.