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monkeynuts123 Sun 17-Mar-13 19:02:10

Ok husband has vomiting and diarrhea and I am freaking out because I think it will be a matter of hours until it's my turn and then probably the kids. We have no support we can call on. I don't even know what to do tonight because he's holed up in the bedroom and I normally co-sleep there with baby once baby wakes around midnight and there's no way I'm getting in next to sick dh. What the hell will I do if both kids get it and I get it and he's incapacitated too. Does anyone think there's the smallest glimmer of hope that I might not get it? He's using one loo in the house and I've not been near it and nor have kids, haven't kissed for 3 days (separate topic!). I'm a bit health anxious anyway and this is sending me over the edge.

monkeynuts123 Sun 17-Mar-13 19:04:12

ps 11 month old baby and 3 year old toddler confused

RainbowsFriend Sun 17-Mar-13 19:04:44

You might not get it - DD and DP both had the latest D&V bug, and I escaped. Luckily they organised it quite well and had it one after the other.

Good luck -try not to be too anxious (I am an anxiety sufferer as well big time), maybe prepare a little - get the towels, spare bedding, buckets, nappies etc ready? Layer the beds?

monkeynuts123 Sun 17-Mar-13 19:06:51

Oh god I feel like I'm preparing for war!!!!! I'm so scared of getting this and more than that I'm scared of not being able to look after my babies properly and nobody being around to help.

MsHighwater Sun 17-Mar-13 19:07:22

Get scrupulous about hygiene e.g handwashing for you and the kids. Dishes, too.

drinkyourmilk Sun 17-Mar-13 19:08:27

I seem to be prone to d&v. I have had it twice this year already, however oh hasn't. He hasn't slept in the same room, nor do we disinfect the toilet after each movement/episode. (Obviously it still gets cleaned each week)

RainbowsFriend Sun 17-Mar-13 19:09:13

Well when they are ill, all they want/need is cuddles and changes of clothes. Nothing technical or really difficult there. Worrying wont help - get a good night's sleep while you can.

At least if they do come down with it, you can then happily stick the sick ones in with your DH for the cuddles without risk of infection?


drinkyourmilk Sun 17-Mar-13 19:09:17

Doh. Hasn't slept in a DIFFERENT room

FiveGoMadInDorset Sun 17-Mar-13 19:09:29

Stop panicking, keep him away from the children and sort your handwashing and hygiene out. I had DD(7) sleeping with me when she had D&V last year and noe of the rest of us got it so it doesn't hold true that you all.

Sleep in another room tonight.

golemmings Sun 17-Mar-13 19:09:46

Both dcs had it recently but not us, then DS and me but nobody else, and dd had it without sharing it with anyone so you might be ok.
Rainbow's advice is good.
Also d&v doesn't usually last too long so even of you do get it, hopefully he'll be out of the bathroom and can look after the kids. Cbeebies will be his friend!

LindyHemming Sun 17-Mar-13 19:10:07

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

monkeynuts123 Sun 17-Mar-13 19:12:24

I'm washing everything he's touched practically on a hot wash and dishes etc straight in dishwasher, I'm also detol crazy, wiping surfaces constantly, washing mine and kids hands. He went for a dodgy meal out on Friday night but that can't be it can it? causing d at 4am and sickness just now?? Clutching at straws I know. I'm so anxious!!!

HamAlive Sun 17-Mar-13 19:12:46

Bleach everything! Door handles, flush, taps. Make sure he bleaches the toilet each time and scrubs his hands. Can you set up a bed on the floor in another room for you and baby? Stay away from DH!

RainbowsFriend Sun 17-Mar-13 19:15:24

Ah yes could easily be food poisoning

monkeynuts123 Sun 17-Mar-13 19:16:39

You know what's so upsetting? Is having nobody I can call on. We have some lovely friends but they all have kids and nobody is going to risk coming to help us, I know I wouldn't. I'm also a bit sick phobic and dh normally deals with that, although of course I do cope when have to. Is there anything else I can do?! Boo hoo

Mrsboathook Sun 17-Mar-13 19:17:12

You can get some food poisoning that takes 36 hours to develop. Also my husband had d&v earlier this year and neither I nor my 7 mo dd got it. Good luck!

monkeynuts123 Sun 17-Mar-13 19:19:46

Really? Food poisoning can take that long? So meal was Friday night late, and he started being ill at 4am today. Some crappy Lebanese.

fuzzpig Sun 17-Mar-13 19:20:10

Oh love sad <holds hand>

As a (gradually recovering) emetophobe, I really share your fear.

Preparation: when recovering, stick to the BRAT diet - bananas, plain rice, apple (cooked is better, and pear is good too) and plain toast/crackers.
If you can, get some dioralyte sachets as they help after dehydration.

Grab any old towels and keep them by the bed.

The absolute most important thing is keeping your babies hydrated if they get it. NOT big gulps of water - a teaspoon every 5-10 mins is better and will be more likely to stay down. If your BFing, your milk will be great too.

A couple of things I have learnt from my own panicky threads. IT WILL PASS. It is horrible and unpleasant but it is not forever.

You might not get it. As an emetophobe I catastrophise every time anyone near me is sick, assuming it is norovirus, but it could be anything else like something he's eaten.

Also IME the nausea bit for me is worse than the actual being sick because by the time I am sick it is welcome relief.

fuzzpig Sun 17-Mar-13 19:21:20

Oh and I share your feeling of not being able to call on anyone - it's very lonely. You will get through it though. Cbeebies will help smile

monkeynuts123 Sun 17-Mar-13 19:24:42

One of my oldest friends has recently dumped me (well, made it a bit impossible to remain friends) and I normally would have called her with this and I miss her so much.

monkeynuts123 Sun 17-Mar-13 19:26:55

Does anyone know anything about medical things? He only had one bout of diarrhoea at 4am today and one bout of throwing up tonight and has been laid on sofa whining most of day. Does that sound like a bug? Surely there's be a bit more action?

RainbowsFriend Sun 17-Mar-13 19:29:22

To be honest - when you have a sickness bug - EVERYONE stays away anyway - so we're all on our own then. Sorry about your friend though sad

Yes food poisoning can be mild, or fatal, onset within hours - or not for MONTHS and everything in between.

Chin up chuck smile

RainbowsFriend Sun 17-Mar-13 19:30:03

Or - he could be pregnant? grin sounds like me currently! smile

kerstina Sun 17-Mar-13 19:31:25

You are not the online who feels like this. Go onto mental health and read emetophobes thread you might find it helpful.

kerstina Sun 17-Mar-13 19:31:44

only one !

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