My friend is not from the UK, but from anther English speaking country. Her DH is British. They have a child who was born here. She's always going on about how great her country is, how she can't wait to move back there, how rubbish the UK is, how she could never bear to have another child here because the NHS is so bad etc etc.
Her DH is looking for jobs in her country. Although she keeps moaning about how the jobs he's applying for are in the wrong part of her country. He works in a very limited field so I think anything he can find would be good, if they are so desperate to go back.
They are currently back in her country visiting friends and family. Today she emailed me and a few of our other friends a video of the baby food aisle of a supermarket saying 'There's so much more choice here!'.
AIBU to tell her stop going on and on about how great her country is? She chose to move here. And now there are opportunities to go home, why is she moaning about them?
I know this post sounds a bit xenophobic, but I don't mean to be. I just find the constant comparisons of the UK and her home very negative and frankly rude.
AIBU?
AIB xenophobic or is she BU?
Sixparrotspullingupcarrots · 17/03/2013 13:38
I thought all the things you say she's said would make her fit right in here OP 
Is she from the US? I have a friend who is exactly the same and she is from the US, we might know the same person 
Jokes aside, it might be that she is very homesick, because that's how my friend feels and that why I listen to her complains and haven't run away so far
My friend actually asks for things to be sent from the US when the same brands are available here I think that is a waste of money, but since it's not my money, I keep my mouth shut
She could just like complaining, some people are like that.
Oh yes, I used to know a friend from the US. Same litany. Everything is bigger, better over there. Three years here, and she has toned down a lot. Quieter, more thoughtful, doesnt show off that much. Says so much for the UK Influence.
And funny thing, she wasnt even a native of the US, going back decades. She was a first generation immigrant.
You can be patriotic (and dislike the negativity towards the UK) without being patriotic
other than that, totaly yawn. She needs to get a life and find something more interesting to discuss.
No, you're not being xenophobic, she sounds annoying, and even if she is homesick, she should learn not to bang on. I know someone who does this. On and on and on about how her country is so much better, the cycling is so much better, the language education is so much better, the country is so much more eco friendly, etc. etc. etc. Towards the end of her stay here she had some mates over and we all went out to the pub, her and me and another English girl, plus all of them. Cue two hours of 'oh, Britain is so much better, you would love it here, everything is better ...'
We couldn't believe it, she had no shame and obviously thought we wouldn't notice she'd done a complete about-face now she was trying to impress her Dutch mates.
YANBU. It's really annoying.
I have a friend who came from another European country but grew up in the UK (boarding school and then uni) and her parents lived all over the world with their job. She would forever tell us how the people, food , laws, road system, everything was so much better in her country.
She finally got a job there and lasted a whole 6 months. She hated it! She's back in the UK now still telling us how much greater it is there. 
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