Would appreciate some honest advice about a situation with a friend.
We met at University, really clicked, had a fab time together and were great friends for about 6 years. Then had an argument and drifted apart. At the time I also found he was becoming increasingly self-centered and it really started to grate on me.
That was seven years ago. We recently got back in touch and are planning to meet up but I'm worried it may not be a good thing. Over those seven years his career has really exploded and he's writing books, doing speaking engagements and generally living a bon vivant life! It's no surprise - he's talented but also very social and, dare I say, good at self-promotion. The latter bit hasn't changed and every day is a new announcement on his FB page about something fabulous he is doing or going to.
I'm not unhappy with my career but it's been much more low key and much of the last seven years has been raising kids. We had so much fun together and part of me would love to see him - he's great fun and very charming, one of the reasons I think he has so many friends and has been so successful.
However I fear if we meet that I'll walk away feeling (a) crap because I've not been traveling around the world over the last 7 years and generally being fabulous and (b) irritated by the endless stories about him. I know that I do carry a bit of jealousy too and I don't want to feel moreso after meeting him.
Should I meet up with him or should i just call it a day recognizing that our friendship was at a particular time in my life that is now over? BTW he's gay so there's no underlying sexual tension or possibility of a relationship.
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AIBU?
AIBU to not want to meet up with my old friend because he's too fabulous??!
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williaminajetfighter · 16/03/2013 10:35
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