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AIBU to think he's aboard?

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Pinkdaisy4 Sat 09-Mar-13 22:51:38

NAme changed but a regular.

So, I've been with my new bf for about a month. We both met at work and the attraction was instant. He's single and I'm recently separated. We both work shifts and I have a young ds so meeting up is a task but we manage it.

My issue is that he said he was on a 7 day course in b'ham coming home tomorrow. He's texted me every morning telling me he loves / misses me. I hadn't heard from him this morning so rang him this evening. The dialing tone sounded odd, like the one you hear when calling abroad. It rang and clicked on to voice mail.

Weird or am I being paranoid?

MumVsKids Sat 09-Mar-13 22:53:29

Maybe paranoid. This happened to me today when I called my brothers landline phone.

Benefit of doubt until proven otherwise?

Jengnr Sat 09-Mar-13 22:57:19

Try it again. I think he is.

Wonderland121 Sat 09-Mar-13 22:58:30

I think your right.

Wonderland121 Sat 09-Mar-13 22:59:19

Do what Jen said & try ringing it again, did he call you back?

JackieTheFart Sat 09-Mar-13 23:00:30

I think you're right.

I also think that unless you're 16, to be texting every morning that he loves you is strange. Quite possible I am a cynical old cah though!

LaurieFairyCake Sat 09-Mar-13 23:00:37

I'd still be checking he was actually single and not off on a family holiday.

JackieTheFart Sat 09-Mar-13 23:00:50

*Every morning after only a month together

WorraLiberty Sat 09-Mar-13 23:01:18

When I phone my DS I often get the strangest noises...and that's before he starts speaking....

Sorry I know this has nothing to do with your OP but he tells you he loves you after a few weeks of being together?

Bejeena Sat 09-Mar-13 23:04:09

I think you are being paranoid I have often had weird ring tones remember is all digital connection now so could be all sorts of reasons for odd ring tone

Pinkdaisy4 Sat 09-Mar-13 23:04:48

The first time I called I heard the 'international' ring and thought phone was playing up so called again.....same thing.

He hasn't called me back tho.

AgentZigzag Sat 09-Mar-13 23:07:53

I think I must be missing something other people are reading in the OP, because I can't see anything that suggests the bloke is a lying scumbag.

A funny dialing tone doesn't mean anything but a funny dialing tone does it?

Pinkdaisy4 Sat 09-Mar-13 23:08:25

I know...the I love you thing after a few weeks ( I'm in my mid 30s and he's 28).
Is that weird too?

I've recently come off antidepressants too so hence the paranoid thing.

MumVsKids Sat 09-Mar-13 23:09:28

Brothers land line has been like it on and off for weeks. I'm certain it's not on its jollies and is to do with the digital connection.

squeakytoy Sat 09-Mar-13 23:09:54

he aint in Birmingham... or his phone isnt anyway..

Pinkdaisy4 Sat 09-Mar-13 23:12:48

Squeaky - his phone is with him just not sure where he really is tho.

thenightsky Sat 09-Mar-13 23:14:56

His course carries on over the weekend? Sunday to Sunday? Seems a bit odd. I would suspect a family holiday given the time scales.

cozietoesie Sat 09-Mar-13 23:14:57

He's coming back tomorrow. Wait and see what he says if/when he contacts you.

Pinkdaisy4 Sat 09-Mar-13 23:18:48

Nightsky - the last course I went on included the weekend ( bloody NHS!) so plausible .

Maybe I'm just being insecure and hormonal !

larks35 Sat 09-Mar-13 23:28:02

Could be a weird signal thing or could it be a change in operators or could it be that he has set his phone to divert? Who knows? Only he does and you need to ask him about it.

Lovely as your new relationship sounds it is early days and it is possible that he isn't as committed as his daily texts seem. I know that when DP and I met we were very attracted and into each other, we both knew we were onto a winner. However, we did initially give each other the space and time to continue our lives before the very new "us" and that included pre-planned holidays and nights out.

If he is abroad then maybe he has just been to chicken to tell you about his pre-planned hols before he went. That would put me off him a bit I have to admit.

Cherriesarelovely Sat 09-Mar-13 23:31:09

I don't think "I love you" after that long is necessarily weird at all. I felt like that with my DP after a shorter time and told her so. 9 years later we still feel the same.

As for the dialing tone, I have no idea, sorry!

larks35 Sat 09-Mar-13 23:31:24

Why has everyone assumed he is on a family hols confused? I'm assuming a lads one!

FirstVix Sat 09-Mar-13 23:31:52

I have literally been in the same room as my DP's phone and had the international ring tone sound (Disclaimer: didn't know I was in the same room 'til I tried!). It always seemed to give that tone. Think it's a setting he'd done without meaning to? He didn't know the reason either.

It was LG/Three if that is relevent.

Pinkdaisy4 Sat 09-Mar-13 23:35:53

Cherries - I know what you mean !

Although I have a sinking feeling in the pot of my stomach sad

TheSecondComing Sat 09-Mar-13 23:37:07

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

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