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To think asking for expensive gifts for Mothers day is greedy?

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MomaP Sat 09-Mar-13 21:06:31

Im sorry if you disagree, actually, no I'm not! envy

I have just witnessed two friends of mine, on facebook say they have convinced their DH's to buy them an ipad for mothers day!! WHAT? hmm

Both women have 2 DC, who are all under the age of 5. Am I missing something?

My DS made me a present at school this week, its in DS possession, ready to give me tomorrow, I am SO excited. grin What ever this present is, I know its made by him, that means more to me than anything - it is something I will, without a doubt keep forever. Sentimental gifts/cards are what mothers day is about, or well, it used to be anyway.

AIBU to think anyone expecting things like ipads etc are greedy and have no appreciation for mothers day, its just about material items to them?


Well my just 3 year old just gave me a card inside which she'd written I (heart) Mum all by herself, without being asked to or helped. Better than anything grin

newpencilcase Sun 10-Mar-13 08:06:41

Quilty, I thought the whole thing was American anyway.

I heard a programme on R4 once on how it started as a peace movement by mothers to keep their sons safe. hmm

riskit4abiskit Sun 10-Mar-13 08:08:22

Well...from an older child's point of view (I'm thirty) since I have had a job I always buy my mum an item of clothing for mother's day. Because I know she went without for us a lot when we were small. Also, I made some God awful homemade gifts that she loved as a child too! Think its maybe more of a modern phenomena to buy expensive presents in the theme of baby showers, or push presents?

sashh Sun 10-Mar-13 08:13:10

On another note it irritates me that Mothering Sunday is always being called Mother's Day now

Well it has become mother's day now. I doubt many people will be returning to their mother church or cathedral today.

KatyTheCleaningLady Sun 10-Mar-13 08:15:45

My son just brought me breakfast in bed. He did it without prompting by anyone and I was touched.

I would still rather have an ipad.

RatPants Sun 10-Mar-13 08:19:39

Your 3yo can write?! Well that's unfair, mine just scribbles. Although very nice all the same. grin

Paxdora Sun 10-Mar-13 08:25:16

Happy Mothers Day everyone!

I've been up since 6am and both DH and DS(8) are still softly snoring upstairs.

Nope. I don't expect anything pricy for Mothers Day - surely it's all about a gift from your children .....

I am eagerly awaiting the secret present made at and brought home from Cubs last week.

I love home made presents from my son - I cherish these moments.

ChristmasJubilee Sun 10-Mar-13 08:27:45

I just got tea and toast in bed from dh and a lovely card from ds3 (6). The teenagers haven't emerged yet. Ds3 also made me a little box at Beavers but, was so proud of it, he gave it to me last week. He has asked if he can have it back after Mother's Day. smile he loves that sort of thing.

Astleyleighmum Sun 10-Mar-13 08:39:54

To me mothers day is about a glittery paint covered card and home made crap things.

Having said that I am rather peed off at my own dd.

She is ten so did not make anything at school but they had a fair after school you could buy small stuff (child made mothers day favours and such) she asked me for money to get me something then spent the lot on cakes and chocolate for her hmm

To make things worse I gave her the chance to redeem herself on the free library craft yesterday where they were making cards/gifts and she made her Nan TWO and me none sad

She has been a madam the last couple of weeks so I am guessing she is still sulking at people told off.

threesypeesy Sun 10-Mar-13 08:49:18

I don't see the problem people like different things and have different budgets for these occasions.

My Dh always spoils me, and i am guilty of the Facebook pictures-certainly nothing missing in my life it's just the way we are.

I did get a card made at school aswel as a shop bought one dd1&2 had picked themselves after reading the words apparently it's exactly how they feel it's perfect. They also picked a gorgeous dress and coat for me and Dh threw in a night at beautiful hotel for me with the "girls" perfect imo

I would have been just as happy with whatever dcs decided on

Happy mothers day ladies

Kyrptonite Sun 10-Mar-13 09:04:49

I got a card DS has written. It says to the best mummy in the world love DS and DD (DD(2.6) has just done a lot of x's for her name, DS (3.11) has written the rest for her)

I also got a mug so I'm happy grin

muddyin2013 Sun 10-Mar-13 09:06:39

I think each to their own.

DH has spoiled me this year with a lovely Radley handbag. He said everything I've been through in the past year I deserve it. Made me cry buckets.

Then the DCs have made/bought me cards and are making me dinner later.
DS1 who lives down south sent me a text at 7am he's 21 and never gets out of bed at the weekend before 11am and also a Amazon voucher card.

I'm a very happy mummy today. grin

Happy mothers day to you all x

comingintomyown Sun 10-Mar-13 09:13:10

YABU , judgey and twee. The only point I agree with is its a bit off if the thought came from them and they nagged to get it but you dont know that do you ?

Why on earth are you having coffee with someone whose values you so clearly disagree with ?

DD 13 stayed at a friends and has texted me and I will get a card later and DS is still snoring away. If XH and I were still together I could imagine him saying lets treat Mum to an ipad she would love it and I would have done !!!!

dummad Sun 10-Mar-13 09:27:56

An iPad for Mother's day! No! Totally hate this idea. An iPad is a soulless, impersonal gift. I balk at that idea. Totally misses the point in my view. YANBU.

rat she is just starting, her bf at preschool is 4 so she's suddenly developed an interest. The I is great smile the heart looks a bit more like an apple, but you can tell, & she did a kind of broken mountain range for mum, but it's got the right number of ups & downs in the right places! I'm sooooo proud. Her speciality is drawing roses (Rennie Mackintosh style) & that's what DH left her doing, he came back & saw her message, he had a lump in his throat.

DumSpiroSpero Sun 10-Mar-13 09:35:14

I think it's weird to ask for something like that for Mother's Day tbh, but if that's what your DH/DC's choose as a gift then good luck to you.

My DH would definitely go hmm if I suggested anything remotely like that. In fact he was giving out 'don't give toss' vibes so much last night we had words and he went to bed in a huff.

This morning I had a beautiful card from DD (chosen by DH), coffee and smoked salmon & scrambled eggs for brekkie so think I may owe him an apology blush.

Have also had two lovely homemade cards and a handpainted mug from Brownies, and am looking forward to spending most of the day with DD and my Mum.

I think asking for something big is grabby & sets a bad example about material things. I do however understand the concept that a DH might want to treat his DW for being a great mum/having a tough year etc

I was brought up to spoil mum with things like foot massage, making food, tea, watching her favourite film on the sofa etc. That's what I'd prefer.i I already mentioned how chuffed I am with my biggest Mother's Day gift ever, my lovely cold frame. It must've been £30 & I thought that was a lot, but I e had a tough year since DS born (ops etc) & I garden with dd so it's for us both really.

I dislike the 'look what I got' album on fb, but I just tend to ignore them. It's a bit like what I did when I gave my aunts and uncles a tour of my Christmas haul on Christmas morning when I was 8.

seriouscakeeater Sun 10-Mar-13 09:51:01

YANBU. Home made gifts are priceless and if your lucky enough to receive bought gifts when they are older it should be given and received in good grace -where as i'm still sat her after DH made me breakfast and a cup of tea while DD (18) lounges on the settee apparently going to pick her gift for me up from her nanas later- no rush then love!

Wookiee101 Sun 10-Mar-13 09:59:10

Maybe your friends on Facebook are just joking. It's probably just something that they have fancied getting and are using this as an excuse to buy it? If they can afford it, what's the problem anyway?

I bought my mum and dad an iPad for Christmas this year, and they were chuffed. Usually I get them something centred around the DCs, and they love that, but once in a while we're all allowed to indulge in things that are purely materialistic - I don't think that makes you a shallow person.

This year I got a bag I have loved for ages, some flowers and some chocolates, breakfast in bed and DS1 made me a card. I love everything I was given as they all took the time to think about what I would like.

Iaintdunnuffink Sun 10-Mar-13 10:12:52

I was thinking the same as Wookie. They were going to get one and the today was the excuse to get one and they turned it into a bit of FB banter.

We don't usually spend much on Mother's or Father's Day but last year I got my husband a Kobo. I was going to get him one anyway for a holiday we were going on and Father's Day happened to fall at a good time.

MerryMingeWhingesAgain Sun 10-Mar-13 10:19:34

I had 2 homemade cards, a small box of M+S chocolates and a bunch of flowers from the Co-op. And a Sunday paper grin Plenty IMHO. And even better, DD has promised to be 'good' because it's Mother's Day. One card says Happy Muvsday, aww.

YouTheCat Sun 10-Mar-13 10:19:59

If you have to ask for a specific gift then you might as well have gone out and bought it yourself.

It's about the thought and effort and appreciation, not a nice shiney over priced crap ipad.

I didn't get a card from dd (18) but she's made me 2 cups of coffee so far and breakfast. The knowledge that I am appreciated is enough for me.

devonsmummy Sun 10-Mar-13 10:27:01

I've just seen a list of Mother's Day presents (to 1 mum, 2 kids 5 & under) including an iPad, earrings, bag, trip, plus more!
I got handmade cards from both dc's plus shop ought that FB had bought for them a lovely potted daffodil with the pot all sparkled with glitter & Terry's choc orange

LikeCandy Sun 10-Mar-13 10:31:04

DH gave his Mum an iPad (though she got it last week, and it wasn't proffered specifically as a MD gift)
Bit concerned now that a lot of you seem to think it's a soulless and impersonal gift that she'd have preferred a macaroni necklace grin

devon. I've seen similar, but replace bag with Gucci sunglasses. I find it odd and materialistic. Especially as the extensive list was accompanied by a photograph of the haul & grinning individual (DH's work colleague) no cute 1 & 3 to Dds in sight.

Isn't it a bit princessey? Well, I wonder what the new Duchess will get next year? A tranche of middle England? Do you think she'll fb a pic of herself standing on top of a hill, arms outstretched, grinning? smile

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