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WIBU to say no to this dad?

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TidyDancer Sat 09-Mar-13 19:06:16

This happened earlier this week, and is actually quite trivial. DP thinks I was being a bit mean, so I thought I'd throw it out there!

I was walking through my local shopping centre after work when a small child (3 or 4 at most) took a shine to my bag. In all fairness, it is a rather lovely bag. It's a pink tote bag with a penguin on it. I use it for my lunch and some odds and ends on work days.

Anyway, aforementioned small child squealed in delight at my bag and I smiled as I passed her. Next thing I knew, the father of the child was tapping me on the shoulder and asking me if his DD could have my bag! I was a bit taken aback tbh, and said that I was sorry, but no, she couldn't have it. I was perfectly nice about it, but walked away to get the car. As I was leaving, I heard the dad say to his DD "sorry darling, the mean rude lady said no". There was crying following this.

Was it really unreasonable of me to not want to give away my bag? It was not a free bag and I was quite stunned tbh.

Any opinions? smile

GregBishopsBottomBitch Sun 10-Mar-13 10:01:36

I wonder if hes a weekend dad, and thus doesnt have to put up with madams entitled behaviour all the time.

verytellytubby Sun 10-Mar-13 10:03:38

What a weirdo!

pluCaChange Sun 10-Mar-13 10:09:41

Ohhh, you have to find this Odd Couple again, OP! Lurk in front of the little girl with your finest accessories and flaunt for all you're worth so the little dad has to repeat the manoeuvre! grin

Sadly, I bet she was only with him for the Mothering Sunday present shopping and is too much of a fuckwit so is normally not allowed out alone with her...

Pan Sun 10-Mar-13 11:36:34

plus c'est la meme chose. Not thought of the Mothers Day angle. Maybe the bag was going to be a present for mum really. "Daddy, mummy would really like that bag!"

DizzyHoneyBee Sun 10-Mar-13 11:43:51


Where did you get the bag? I want one...or shall I just give you my address so you can post it to me?! grin

TidyDancer Sun 10-Mar-13 15:06:33

Ooh I didn't think of the Mother's Day shopping! That could explain if not excuse it! I suspect if it was, it was a dad not used to shopping with his child, rather than a cheating way to a present for the mum!

I think I should start my own printing company and drum up business for the bags! I don't think this particular one was mass produced Dizzy, I got it from a pop up shop and I think they printed them themselves. sad

MrsSonky Sun 10-Mar-13 18:36:14

I'd like a hugmungous twinkly eternity ring. Do you think it would work in Cartier or Graff?

<not fussy which one - easy going me!>

BippyB Mon 01-Apr-13 12:39:45

That is MENTAL! It's mad enough to ask a stranger to simply hand their possessions to their whining child on request, but really quite barking to then insult you and tell their child you are being mean and rude not to hand it over on request.

CrapBag Mon 01-Apr-13 12:42:20

Wow, he is teaching his DD a great lesson there isn't he! Ask a stranger to give you something and they are mean and rude when they don't!!

Can't believe your DH thinks you should have given it!


lemonmuffin Mon 01-Apr-13 13:30:09

Of course YABU.

You should have given her the bag, the shirt off your back and possibly the keys to your house aswell. The poor child has been damaged for life.

astyinmyeye Sun 24-Nov-13 15:56:41


CoffeeTea103 Sun 24-Nov-13 18:03:01

You shouldn't have even bothered giving him a response, just looked at him oddly and walked away. Some people do really live on another planet.

northlight Sun 24-Nov-13 18:54:38

I'm curious, why did you revive this thread? Are you the mother of the entitled child, astyinmyeye?

Heartbrokenmum73 Sun 24-Nov-13 18:59:09

I was wondering why they revived it too, North.

Who goes looking through threads that are months old, only to reply 'yes'?

What a strange thing to to!

Mia4 Sun 24-Nov-13 19:00:07

YANBU OP, And if that was his answer to her then I have little hope for how he's teaching her the meaning of the word 'no'

Heartbrokenmum73 Sun 24-Nov-13 19:02:20

Oh, and why do people revive threads and comment without reading through the whole thing to see whether it's been resolved or not???

And why are people now commenting on this revived thread without reading further than the original OP? In which case, they're realise it was a bloody zombie thread!

SauvignonBlanche Sun 24-Nov-13 19:14:05

This thread was linked on another earlier today.

LadyBeagleEyes Sun 24-Nov-13 19:23:36

People don't always look at dates and they sometimes only read the OP.
I bet there will be lots of posts from posters that don't RTFT.

SauvignonBlanche Sun 24-Nov-13 19:33:33

When I clicked on the link earlier today, to remind myself what it was about, there was a big red 'zombie thread warning' at the bottom.

SunshineMMum Sun 24-Nov-13 19:35:28

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

rabbitlady Sun 24-Nov-13 19:36:17

your bag, not his. child needs to know that. he just wanted to shift the blame onto you.

SauvignonBlanche Sun 24-Nov-13 19:39:20

Didn't take long LadyBeagleEyes! wink

Heartbrokenmum73 Sun 24-Nov-13 19:40:26

Yep, three and counting!

Some people are just incapable of reading more than a few paragraphs though...

SunshineMMum Sun 24-Nov-13 19:41:39

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

AnnieJanuary Sun 24-Nov-13 20:15:35

I'm not sure I believe all these "A stranger asked me to give my possession to their child" threads lately. First the iPad one, now this? It sounds like a rant on those childfree forums. Like after a few posts it'll be all about 'entitled breeders' and their 'crotchdroppings'.

If there's this sudden fashion for random strangers to start asking for one another's possessions, I'd like to see some stories without children in to even it out a bit.

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