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WIBU to say no to this dad?

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TidyDancer · 09/03/2013 19:06

This happened earlier this week, and is actually quite trivial. DP thinks I was being a bit mean, so I thought I'd throw it out there!

I was walking through my local shopping centre after work when a small child (3 or 4 at most) took a shine to my bag. In all fairness, it is a rather lovely bag. It's a pink tote bag with a penguin on it. I use it for my lunch and some odds and ends on work days.

Anyway, aforementioned small child squealed in delight at my bag and I smiled as I passed her. Next thing I knew, the father of the child was tapping me on the shoulder and asking me if his DD could have my bag! I was a bit taken aback tbh, and said that I was sorry, but no, she couldn't have it. I was perfectly nice about it, but walked away to get the car. As I was leaving, I heard the dad say to his DD "sorry darling, the mean rude lady said no". There was crying following this.

Was it really unreasonable of me to not want to give away my bag? It was not a free bag and I was quite stunned tbh.

Any opinions? :)

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germyrabbit · 09/03/2013 19:07

what a weird thing to ask! he could have just asked you where you got it!

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mrsstewpot · 09/03/2013 19:08

Eh? Seriously?

No - the dad was being completely unreasonable purely for asking nevermind the rude comment.

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AmberLeaf · 09/03/2013 19:08

YANBU!

How rude of him to even ask, he should have asked you were it was from and got his own!

Really weird!

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Pilgit · 09/03/2013 19:09

No YANBU! Children need to learn they can't have everything they want, just because they want it. Some people are unbelievable!

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SmiteYouWithThunderbolts · 09/03/2013 19:09

YANBU at all! What an arse of him to call you mean and rude, never mind to have asked in the first place. That child is going to grow up with a very strange and grabby attitude.

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WipsGlitter · 09/03/2013 19:10

Blimey!! How odd.

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TidyDancer · 09/03/2013 19:10

Ah unanimous so far! I thought it was odd, then DP saying I was a meany made me think twice!

Thank you all. :)

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MurderOfGoths · 09/03/2013 19:10

YANBU, why on earth does your DP think you were mean?!

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TidyDancer · 09/03/2013 19:11

I'm afraid it is serious. I do wish it wasn't though!

I have asked someone before where they got a piece of clothing etc, but I've never asked them if I could have it!

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woopsidaisy · 09/03/2013 19:11

Every time you think you have heard it all....you couldn't make it up.
Op, YANBU.

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catgirl1976 · 09/03/2013 19:12

YANBU at all

The dad was odd and if the girl doesn't learn that you can't have everything you want I dread to think what she will be like :(

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TidyDancer · 09/03/2013 19:12

I think because a child cried, MoG. I did point out that it wasn't really my fault the tears happened!

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HecateWhoopass · 09/03/2013 19:12

bloody hell.

No, you were not unreasonable.

He, on the other hand was not only unreasonable, he was ridiculous and barking bloody mad.

Your partner thinks you were a bit mean to not hand over something that belongs to you to some stranger who asked for it?

Send me a description of your partner and I'll keep an eye out for him and ask him for his tie when I see him! Grin

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lumpybumps · 09/03/2013 19:13

What an odd man! Surely that's no different than me walking up to someone and saying- that's a lovely coat you are wearing- can I have it? GrinGrin

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minkembra · 09/03/2013 19:13

Yanbu. he was just being to lazy to set some boundaries for husband kids. sooner he learns the easier husband life will be.
You did him a favour.

His name wasn't Mr Salt was it? ;-)

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xigris · 09/03/2013 19:14

Really? That's completely mad! To ask where you got said penguin bag, yes, to ask you to gaily hand it over, No! I may, however train DS1 to tell ladies how much he likes their Mulberry bags and to ask if he can have them! Never know, he may get lucky. You are absolutely NBU. What a bonkers scenario.

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thornrose · 09/03/2013 19:14

This is the one of the oddest things I've ever heard! YA SO NBU. I can't believe your dpi thinks you were being mean Confused

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WilsonFrickett · 09/03/2013 19:15

Shock that's outrageous! You were so not BU. How entitled is that child going to grow up to be?

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minkembra · 09/03/2013 19:15

Wonder if i could train my kids and use this as a new for of non violent mugging.

Maybe the kids name was Olivia Twist and he wasn't her dad at all....

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expatinscotland · 09/03/2013 19:17

I'd have told him to fuck off.

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Spatsky · 09/03/2013 19:17

It sounds so ridiculous that I am wondering whether there was a misunderstanding.

What were his exact words? Could he in fact have meant have a hold of your bag, or a close up look at the bag, or similar??

Even if so, you were of course well within your rights to say no.

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ZenNudist · 09/03/2013 19:19

Yanbu. Apart from the entitled & grabby attitude he is cultivating in his dd, wtf did he think you were going to do with the stuff in your bag!?

Weirdo. And v.rude

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TidyDancer · 09/03/2013 19:20

I was too stunned to give him any kind of rudeness in response. His balls at saying it just surprised me! He really did not see anything wrong in what he had asked.

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MrsMushroom · 09/03/2013 19:20

Tidy if I didn't recognise your name, I'd think this was made up!

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