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to find friends sexual history a bit grim?

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LoversThatWentWrong Sat 09-Mar-13 15:39:58

Now I'm not a prude or a "pearl clutcher" but we got onto the subject of how many people we had slept with etc and I found my friends sexual past not shocking, just really grim.

She has slept with 15ish people and couldn't remember half of their names. Nothing wrong with that if you're single and enjoy no strings attached sex but she only slept with most of these men in order to get her numbers up. To boast about how many men shes slept with.

I know other people who slept around a lot in their past but they did it because they were single and enjoyed sex - it wasn't about getting their numbers up at all.

IfNotNowThenWhen Sat 09-Mar-13 21:15:15

I reckon that most of my friends had passed 20 partners by their latetwenties. Mind you, we are a right bunch of old slappers.
I have probably slept with the least men, by far. It's still more than 15 though!
(I can remember all their first names) grin

Moistenedbint Sat 09-Mar-13 21:15:20

One thing seems apparent - bragging about sexual conquests is becoming as prevalent amongst women as it is men. It's sad, needy, approval seeking crap tbh.

Moistenedbint Sat 09-Mar-13 21:17:42

Not referring to you ifnotnowthenwhwhen ..

(Unfortunate timing yadayada)

LapsedPacifist Sat 09-Mar-13 21:18:46


grin grin grin grin grin grin

fuckwittery Sat 09-Mar-13 21:19:09

Maybe she just said that as she knows you're a prude and it would wind you up. Seriously though, do you really think if she gave that as a reason it's true? There are pretty varied and complex reasons to sleep with people that its hard to summarise in an off hand conversation and she might have meant it in a oh I was sowing my wild oats back then sort of thing - so what.

I found it interesting that you said up thread, if she hadn't said that you'd have assumed she'd done it to make herself feel desirable. Maybe she just enjoys sex?

fuckwittery Sat 09-Mar-13 21:20:28

trashcanjunkie she might just like it right up her grin grin
You put I far better

Booyhoo Sat 09-Mar-13 21:22:25

i dont get why you get to judge her reasons for having consentual sex. are you worried about her emotional well-being? if so why are you on here bitching about her rather than saying "i'm worried about my friend" if you aren't worried that she is insecure or trying to boost her self esteem then why does it matter if she did it for a competition?

AKissIsNotAContract Sat 09-Mar-13 21:23:16

If she did it purely to boast she'd have slept with thousands. 15 is hardly in the realms of Annabel Chong hmm

Adversecamber Sat 09-Mar-13 21:23:22

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badbride Sat 09-Mar-13 21:26:22

Chairman Fair enough: it's tricky to read between the lines of the original post and guess what's going through the OP's friend's head. And sure, if she's happy, safe and having a great time, good for her. I got a different impression from the OP though.

Anyway. I reckon the best thing would be for the OP to tactfully explore the reasons behind her friend's activities, just to make sure she's OK.

TheSecondComing Sat 09-Mar-13 21:28:55

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shesariver Sat 09-Mar-13 21:31:50

She said she had a competition going with a friend of who could sleep with more men etc

That sounds like good fun to me actually! Well not now as Im a happily married woman but if I was younger and single, mmm....

RatPants Sat 09-Mar-13 21:33:18

15 isn't that many. Why was she trying to "up" her numbers?!

Moistenedbint Sat 09-Mar-13 21:34:47

She said she had a competition going with a friend of who could sleep with more men etc

Mmmm classy chick...

badinage Sat 09-Mar-13 21:38:03

Anyone who competes with anyone about how many people they've shagged is a bit of a tit really. It's like the threads that crop up occasionally on Mumsnet asking the same question. I mean, who gives a shit? Why do people have these conversations, or reply to threads with their 'tallies'? Is it to boast, shock, compete or goad?

badbride Sat 09-Mar-13 21:42:45

On a lighter note, I am utterly shock at some of the numbers confessed to on this thread. Not from a moral perspective, you understand, but one of logistics. Where the hell do you find all those blokes? A male-order catalogue??? grin

TheSecondComing Sat 09-Mar-13 21:49:25

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Bitofagirl Sat 09-Mar-13 21:55:42

She has nothing to be ashamed of at all! OP you need to get a life! I am so glad I don't have judgemental friends like you.

We had a wall chart in uni back in 1996.

idiot55 Sat 09-Mar-13 22:36:37

I read the post differently to most other people, I think the OP was referring to the fact that her friend was nt young and single when these encounters took place nad that was why she was shocked?

IfNotNowThenWhen Sat 09-Mar-13 23:00:49

Well. If you start at 17, and have, say, 15 years of single-ness, you might meet one or two blokes a year, sooo...
When you are young and unencumbered,and go out a lot, it's not difficult to find willing partners.
Would that it were as easy now!

chandellina Sat 09-Mar-13 23:04:30

Who cares?

Booyhoo Sat 09-Mar-13 23:05:34


you think OP's issue is that her friend is too old for sex or that she is in a relationship? confused

idiot55 Sat 09-Mar-13 23:09:57

oops, I thought she meant most of the encounters took place while in a relationship and thats why she was shocked.

Jengnr Sat 09-Mar-13 23:12:34

Oh so what? Who cares who other people shag?

Booyhoo Sat 09-Mar-13 23:12:38

i dont think so but i could be wrong.

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