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I AM being unreasonable. Please come and talk me down before I go and get pregnant RIGHT NOW

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designerbaby Fri 08-Mar-13 23:01:07

It's my mother in law's fault for sending me the baby bath video (another thread). And because my DD2 is about to turn three. And fecking hormones.

And I can't because we can't afford it. I run my own business and could not run it with a baby in tow, and it's just doing really well, and I'm enjoying life just as it is, and if I get a colicky non-sleeper like DD1, I will bloody DIE, and actually I nearly did die giving birth to DDs 1&2, and this is NOT rational or sensible.

I'm on a tsunami of emotion and I on't know why, so please come and talk me down before I go and jump DH RIGHT NOW.



LadyPessaryPam Fri 08-Mar-13 23:05:42

You have 2, move away from the fertile cock.

You know it makes sense. Just have wild sex with no babies.

almostanotherday Fri 08-Mar-13 23:07:07

I did not watch the baby bath video and I'm very glad I did not after reading your post smile

designerbaby Fri 08-Mar-13 23:07:09

Oh I can't be arsed with THAT Pam... grin

lollilou Fri 08-Mar-13 23:09:08

No no no 2 babies is enough. Just think of the sleepless nights and the nappies.

MissyMooandherBeaverofSteel Fri 08-Mar-13 23:10:01

Just befriend some people with tiny babies then you can have cuddles and hand them back again when they cry/have a stinky nappy/you can't be arsed anymore. Its much better than being the one they get handed back to for all the crappy jobs sometimes

VivaLeBeaver Fri 08-Mar-13 23:10:51

If you have three kids it costs a fortune on days out as family tickets are normally for two kids. You'll need a new car. Holidays are way more expensive.

PoppyWearer Fri 08-Mar-13 23:11:46


<passes OP my stinking-of-wee, wind-suffering, non-sleeping 18mo Dc2>

...has that cured you?

(At least you won't be able to shag with him in your arms anyway.)

designerbaby Fri 08-Mar-13 23:16:22

Thank you... I'm actually finding all the newborns in my fairly close circle, (four in the last three weeks FFS) are NOT helping...

We already have a huge ugly car.

DD2 was a dream baby. She's been a terrible, TERRIBLE two, but my she was a fab baby. That doesn't help...

<runs off with Poppy's toddler, because I have clearly run MAD...>

LadyIsabellaWrotham Fri 08-Mar-13 23:22:47

Two is a good number. Two hands, two parents, two children. Both the families I know with three close in age children had (non-permanent, stitch it back on, it'll be fine) trips to A&E within months of having their third due to the impracticality of managing baby, toddler and 4 year old simultaneously.

PoppyWearer Fri 08-Mar-13 23:23:16

<settles down to first night of uninterrupted sleep for 18 months>

OP, you are quite clearly mad.

designerbaby Fri 08-Mar-13 23:27:50

Poppy, enjoy, I'm having squishy smelly (slightly damp) cuddles instead.

Isabella, I am trying REALLY hard to focus on all the sensible advice here, but brain keeps getting distracted by the images of the bathing baby, then I get this actual, physical ache...

It's true, I can barely manage the two I have. A newborn wouldn't stand a chance.

<slaps self>

Schooldidi Fri 08-Mar-13 23:28:13

You need your dh to be completely against having another baby. Then it won't be an issue about you trying to jump him because he won't allow you to get pg. That's the solution in our house anyway.

I'm completely and utterly broody and desparately want another baby RIGHT NOW, in fact I wanted the one that should have been born 5 months ago but miscarried. He doesn't. So apparently that's that, we aren't having any more. sad

designerbaby Fri 08-Mar-13 23:38:57

Oh Schooldidi... That's awful. I'm sorry. Maybe your DH needs more time? I think thy aren't able to talk/share/own their grief, and it can take them longer as a result...

Here's to babies. Even the dreadful ones are wonderful. That's the problem...

lalabaloo Fri 08-Mar-13 23:40:32

If Poppy's baby isn't putting you off, I can offer a 10 month old with a sickness bug...

lalabaloo Fri 08-Mar-13 23:41:29

Sorry to hear that Schooldidi

designerbaby Fri 08-Mar-13 23:44:29

That might help Lala... But does he/she have chunky thighs and a dimply bum? I've got a cold, so my sense of smell is non-existent. If I could SMELL the vomit that might swing it...

Maybe I should try hypnosis?

MammaTJ Fri 08-Mar-13 23:44:42

* actually I nearly did die giving birth to DDs 1&2*

I nearly died giving birth to DS (DC3) and realised my DC need their mum more than I need another DC!! It is overwhelming sometime though but keep that in mind!!

PoppyWearer Fri 08-Mar-13 23:45:27

OP, I forgot to mention the snoring. but at least he's finally sleeping

MumVsKids Fri 08-Mar-13 23:46:45

Schooldidi, my DH is of the same mind as yours.

We have three already, but youngest only 10mths - never slept a full night, still BFing at least twice a night and I'd have another in a heart beat smile

And so many posters are so right, it is a massive juggling act with three, mine are 8, 3 and 10mths - so school run 4 times a day including pre-school, quicker to walk the half mile each way as takes an age to get three in and out of car!

But I'd happily juggle a bit more grin

AgentZigzag Fri 08-Mar-13 23:46:59

It's such a pain being 8 months pregnant and not being able to get up off the setee but their tiny perfectly formed hands just make you melt

Just think of all the money you'd have to pay out for the next 18+ years but they look soo lovely and new in a soft pure white babygro

And you'd be going back to square one on the independence (or dependence) thing but there really is nothing like cuddling up and watching them drop off to sleep

You know it makes sense smile

lalabaloo Fri 08-Mar-13 23:49:12

Hmm yeah he does have chubby thighs, that might not help. Maybe have a sniff of olbas oil and a decongestant and then the vomit smell might put you off

ClairesTravellingCircus Fri 08-Mar-13 23:57:33

You could have twins and end ip with FOUR!
and nonsleeping twins too

designerbaby Sat 09-Mar-13 00:02:58

Actually, that happened to a friend of mine in exactly these circumstances. In my madness I had forgotten.

Fuck, that's a really scary thought.

Goes to bed, cold sweat of terror acting as passion killer.
Thank you.

I cannot promise I won't be back here tomorrow...

almostanotherday Sat 09-Mar-13 00:03:23

Get a pet instead smile

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