To wonder if MNers will believe me when I tell them this?(37 Posts)
I have two children. My pfb is in year one at school.
Unless I drive past his school, Im so busy during the day, my eldest doesnt come into my thoughts. (Unlike the first few weeks of reception, of course).
Apart from 5 separate times. When he has been hurt. Hand on heart, honest to Gods, I just know.
Today was this fifth time it happened and it went like this, really busy morning with the baby been out and about, came home cooked lunch, tidying away, got the washing out the machine putting the towel on the radiator then <whoosh> I get a very sudden over whelming feeling that hes been hurt. Not a feeling of panic, or dread. I just know. 20 minutes later, I shit you not, the school phones to tell me hes bumped his head. Hes fine but they wanted to let me know.
3 other occasions happened identically, I got The Feeling and within the hour I get a call. One other time I got the feeling but didnt get the call. It was then I thought maybe it was just coincidence, until I pick him up from school and hes got a pink and grazed cheek bone from a fall. I was right again.
I need to point out though, I dont weekly get this feeling and 5 times Ive been right. Ive only ever had that feeling and every time Ive been right.
Hes not accident prone on a weekly basis either, again, they are the only 5 times.
Go on then, tell me its coincidence . I know no one will believe me but honestly its true. Im a level headed, normal, happy, unfretting mother of two. But this is something instinctual. Its fucking weird, but its true.
I told DP tonight after todays one, being a scientist in (in theory) I didnt think he'd believe me but did.
Yep, nervous fanny here too
I get it just before the phone rings to tell me that one of the DC's is ill and needs to come home.
Thats true it is post DC. I never got nervous fanny before them. And they are nearly always the cause of the feeling, by falling or about to fall.
I only get it when I see them though.
I believe you completely. I just think that there are more likely explanations than that you have a psychic connection between you.
Oh, and the fanny thing is only post-dc and is confined, mainly, to their exploits. Did they plant a receiver there on their way out?
I'm sorry to digress, op, but I am so relieved to find that the 'muff clench of fear' is an actual thing. I just thought I was weird! I always say, 'Oh, don't do that - it's made me go weak at the knees,' but only because you can't say, 'I felt it in my fanny.'
Years ago my best friend and I had a close connection and I knew she was seriously ill before I heard she'd gone into hospital. I just gut-wrenchingly knew. All I had to go on was that she'd been a bit unwell - nothing major. She's fine now, I hasten to add.
I've been travelling on planes since I was 8 weeks old and never been a nervous flyer.
Except twice in my life when I stepped onto the plane and was overcome with an overwhelming sensation of dread so intense I wanted to run screaming back into the airport.
The first time it happened our plane caught fire 20 minutes into the flight and we had to make an emergency landing.
The second wad 9/11 and we were escorted most of the way by fighter jets.
I've flown many times since and never had that sensation again.
Even freakier, when I was 7 months pregnant with dd I was lying in bed one day and heard dp take a call in the other room. Something had happened to his sister and she was injured/dead. I woke up and thought I must have dreamed it but asked dp if he'd had a call but he said no so I put it out of my mind. Until that evening when he got a phone call to say his sister had been in a horrendous accident and was on deaths door.
I always believed it was dd inside me who sensed her aunt was in danger
I've never had any sensations about the kids though, and dd has broken her leg when I've not been there
My grant used sense when her children were in trouble though.
5 years ago dd ( then 7)went on a 2 day school trip and she usually loves them.
I heard her shout mummy so clearly I shot up from the sofa and told my dh and Dcs I heard her calling me.
Next day collecting her I was told by the teacher that she had called for me in her sleep and woke herself and everyone else up screaming.
Fast forward to last year and another trip. Dd was in a coach that crashed killing her teacher and badly injuring her and lots of the girls. I woke at 2,30 am ( the exact time it rolled off the motorway in France) and felt sick. Couldn't get back to sleep until we had the police knocking on our door.
Can't explain it but its true.
At the exact time he died I mean. Not just the same night!
I believe you a bit but seems a bit extreme to know every time!
Midas i'm glad you said that. This also happened to me with my eldest but when I told people in real life they clearly thought I was a deluded idiot!
Also , my dad knew he had to get to his mother on the day she died. He was in the middle of a sale but just made his apologies and left. He was the only one who got to her in time
I also woke up in the night when my grandad died. Although i think this was just a coincidence as i didn't feel anything IYSWIM
I experience a slightly similar feeling. Someone I know, who I may not have seen for weeks, months, years at a time will come to mind and very soon after I either meet them or I hear news about them. It's really eerie sometimes.
Possibly your last sentence reminded me that DH can smell when I'm upduffed. He can tell a good week to 10 days before POAS gave a positive result for the first time. It's really weird.
I get the muff-clench of fear too but I think my vagina has a limited signal range compared to you lot as it doesn't seem to work from miles away. Limited to within the house at the moment but perhaps as DS (14months) grows his signal strength will improve and by the time he gets to school I'll have become like you OP
Wow, I have never had that but I believe you. Your instincts are there for a reason, listen to them
I get it too - like a sick butterflies in stomach feeling - you just know something is about to happen. And then it does and it explains the jittery feeling you have had all day.
Im not sure really, my babies both woke up so, so much that I didnt get that.
No I believe you. I had a strong image if ds crying one night while he was camping with the cubs. I woke dh to tell him and the next day ds said he'd got lost when he went for a wee as his batteries fell out of the torch Sk could find his way back to the tent. He told me he was crying.
I also know when my dc are getting ill cis I can smell it on them.
I totally believe you, ive never had that feeling myself but i do believe you.
Changing the subject slightly when your DCs were babies did you wake up to feed them just before they woke up or is that just me?
I believe you absolutely. My mum is like this. In actual fact she makes very little of it because she is a bit freaked out by it and she and my dad are both very "sciencey" iykwim! She finds it really unsettling!
My Gran has this. She knows when something is wrong with a family member and gets quite upset and is scared to answer the phone because she knows it's going to be bad news.
I've never known her be wrong. She even had it when my cat got run over.
When he was tiny, my let down used to go about 1-2 minutes before he started howling. But then, he was always howling so I dont think I can count that.
All I can say is that it's obvious your DC doesn't go to the same school as my DS, they would never call. Only things requiring trips to A&E or poo accidents get a call here. By the time I see my DS after school he would have forgotten a fall and I would never get the chance to associate it with any funny feelings/thoughts.
A friend describes the fanny fear as 'making her Mary curl' - you all know the feeling!
Nope that aint it at a Undercover for these reasons:
The first few times it happened I was was it coincidence?
So on the third time, I thought right I'll look at my watch and ask DS about it. This was the time I didnt get the call, so when I picked him up, saw his face and asked when he did it and he said afternoon break. I pulled a TA over and asked what time they have afteroon break, and guess what.... It was that time.
When it happened again today, again I looked at my watch (it was during his lunch break) and I thought to myself, I must ask him if he had a bump today.
No need! They called to tell me 20 minutes later.
And Im not 'just thinking about him' its a gut flipping, over whelming, sudden 'whoosh' that goes through me with a 'hes hurt' feeling. believe me that is not a feeling I have several times a day!
I know someone who woke up with a start at the same time her dh somewhere else in the country had come off his motor bike and was in dreadful pain she swaers she KNEW something had happened to him
OP, yours is the same sort of thing as me being absolutely certain, I just KNEW, with each of my 4 pg what gender they were, within a few weeks of a BFP. I knew, not thought, not hoped, not guessed, not following any old wives tales - I just knew, inside, what gender I was carrying each time
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