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Cazzymaddy Tue 26-Feb-13 14:09:14

AIBU with this? DD1 (15) started singing lessons in mid January- we found someone that was recommended to us and she does them in the back room of her house- 30 minutes session. On the first session, the teachers young child was left with me alone in the front room- she had toys to play with- I guess she was about 6years old but she wanted me to play with her- the excuse given was that she had not wanted to go to Grandmas that evening. On the second session, we changed our day so she was there again and I was alone with her. Last week, back to our normal day and she wasn't there as the teacher said her exH was messing her about with contact days, but she said she would be there next week. AIBU to think I am leaving myself wide open to be with her alone as I am essentially a stranger? I am thinking of sitting in the car outside tonight as I can't think of a way to phrase it to the teacher.

PureQuintessence Wed 27-Feb-13 12:00:15

Yab totally U
What on earth made you think that you could help yourself to sit and read in the tutors front room!? Did she tell you this was ok? If I was the tutor I would find this extremely rude! shock

Your dd is 15, can she not make her own way there and home?

To be honest, if you are making yourself comfortable in somebody elses house (do you ask for tea and biscuits? wink ) you can hardly complain that you share the space with a child who lives there. hmm

PureQuintessence Wed 27-Feb-13 12:01:46

Can she cycle?
If she wants singing lessons, you should have thought about the convenience and location before starting tutoring. £12 is dead cheap for singing lessons, you should quite happily accept you need to "babysit" as part of the cost.

VinegarDrinker Wed 27-Feb-13 12:12:36

My DH is a music teacher. My toddler son is at home, often, when he is teaching. Obviously at just 2 there will be someone looking after him but he is hardly inconspicuous! He even - shock horror - has his bath with the door open while pupils and their parents come and go and stop to chat to him.

If we were millionaires we would have a house big enough to have a "waiting room" but we don't. I certainly can't guarantee peace and quiet, if you are there a child will likely want to play with you. If you weren't there she would presumably just play/watch TV and only ask help from her Mum in an emergency (which could happen with any working parent).

Luckily many of the parents who sit in our front room have actually become family friends, they bring DS presents and all sorts!

Pickles101 Wed 27-Feb-13 16:37:44

So essentially, you are pissed off at a friendly 6 year old trying to include you in her play, in her own home?

YABU. Why are you sat in the tutor's house for the lesson? It's none of your business what her childcare arrangements are, in the future either be grateful for the offer to stay & try being nice to the kid, or bugger off for half an hour.

But I don't get why you would want to be sat there anyway.

pinkyredrose Wed 27-Feb-13 16:59:23

Pure maybe you should read the thread before posting.

Sarina24 Thu 30-May-13 18:30:36

You shouldnt be babysitting and the tutor should definitely NOT be leaving her child with you?!? Essentially you are a stranger. Thats very trusting of her! If you are looking for a singing teacher try this lady. She's great...but I think her fee is higher than £12 an hour. Her email is

whois Thu 30-May-13 18:53:03

FFS the music teacher didn't leave her child with the OP. child was playing on her own in her own sitting room. OP sits in same room and it shocked child tried to interact with her.

OP just go sit in the car with book and/ or radio, problem solved.

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