to ask you to please share your success stories of getting PG post 30-ish?(165 Posts)
i am 33 and dh and i are ttc
just come on today and i am so sad
we have only been ttc 3 months (i KNOW its no time at all) but with dd it happened so quick. like, days after we decided to ditch the contraception. i was only 28 then though. and i got pg with DS (from prev relationship) when i was 25
by accident very quick too
and to top it off i have read a scaremongering article in the
sun newspaper this morning about how womens fertility sharply drops after 32
we were TTC 2 years ago but stopped as it was not a good time financially, now i wish we had carried on trying as now it might be too late
please please share your positive stories sorry for being a drama queen. but it actually scares me how much i want dc3
My mum had me at 34, she then went on to have 3 more children with my baby brother being conceived when she was 44... Each time was apparently easy so easy that nos 2,3&4 were a bit of a surprise.
All healthy pregnancies and babies.
I conceived both of my dc on the first cycle of trying. I was 31 with the first and 35 with the second.
I think as long as you have ruled out anything like endometriosis or other health problems linked to fertility and you are not overweight, perhaps just try to relax a bit. 3 months is not a long time to be trying and the more tense you are, the less likely your body is going to be receptive to conception. Just believe that you will get pregnant and relax, don't stress. I think pregnancies over 30 are the norm now and there are even thousands of women who give birth to healthy babies over 40.
DS1, conceived when I was 30, had him couple of months after 31st birthday. Conceived in first month of ttc.
DS1, conceived when I was 32, had him at 33.5. Also conceived in first month of ttc.
Dsis1 had DD1 at 30, then dd2 at nearly 38. PG again at 40 but sadly mc.
Dsis2 had DS1 at 32 by EMCS, caught infection at birth/on post-natal ward (not good hospital ) resulting in blocked Fallopian tube, DBIL (5 years younger) had bad urinary infection which also affected his fertility. They had 1 round of IVF which failed, so decided to have a break before another round of IVF. Dsis now 38 & their DD is due in July & was conceived naturally!
So - it can happen!
I got pregnant at 33 the second month of trying, although the first month I got the dates wrong. You need to be doing it few days before ovulation but I waited till after .
My best tip is try Sasmar. I got pregnant first time with it but had only just started trying but threefriends of mine(all in thirst thirties) had been trying for a while then used this and got pregnant first time.
I came off the Pill after having been on it for ten years on my 32nd birthday. 5 weeks later I found out that I was pregnant. DD is now 15 months old.
I had three DCs in my 30s, at 32, 34, and 36 (it actually worked out 3 babies in four years as there's more or less two years between each of them iyswim)
I had three mcs in between and one before DD, and I already had two DSs who were born when I was 20 and 24.
ttc no 1 (started at 34) took a year, but ttc no 2 at 38 took just 2 months. Iirc 6 months ttc is about average for any age so try not to panic.
39 yo went to 15 Cornwall taster menu with the wines, walked back to the campsite, it was raining and there's nothing else to do really. I ended up pregnant.
31 when I fell pregnant with DS first month trying. Had my ovaries scanned for something else a couple of months ago, they're super awesome. I'm 34 next month. Doctor said he wouldn't expect a noticeable drop off until after 35 and even then, it would still be relatively easy to get pregnant, just not to stimulate the ovaries for shed loads of follicles.
First child I was 37 (but after a year of trying and a laparoscopy to check all was ok). Second child I was 39 and conceived after about 3 months of 'trying'
Had Ds at 31, after ttc for 5 months. Had dd at 33, was pregnant within weeks of trying. So more fertile with age?
I did not get pregnant during my first marriage (age 21-25). During a 10 year relationship with another man (age 26-36) after I divorced I had maybe 10 early miscarriages. Was then told I had PCOS so basically diagnosed as being infertile. Tried steroids and clomid = another early miscarriage .
But then I met exP (DS's dad) and at the age of 37 fell pregnant naturally. By then I'd read about PCOS leading to a lack of progesterone causing pregnancies to fail. As soon as I'd POAS and it was positive I demanded progesterone from my GP and luckily she understood why. Then I went to the early pregnancy clinic and they officially prescribed progesterone, although I think it was quite a new treatment at the time. Had quite a low probability score on the Downs Syndrome blood test and scan so didn't have to have amnio, all else well despite the fact that I'm insulin dependent diabetic.
DS was induced at term, slithered out within 3 hours, weighed 7.5lb, is 14 next birthday and superbly handsome and healthy
His dad was known as SuperSperm by the hospital!
started ttc at 38, pg at 39, DS arrived at 40.
First to admit we were lucky, but 33 shouldn't be too much of a problem.
I'm just pregnant at the age of 33 and on our 2nd month of trying. I know people say that a few months isn't a long time to try but it feels like an eternity when you're wanting to get pregnant!
Had my 1st pregnancy at 30, got pregnant first time and then unfortunately it didn't work out.
Tried for a while afterwards, it took nearly a year to concieve again. Think I'd got a bit worked up about it all taking my temperature etc. Had DD1 at 32, had a fair few problems with the pregnancy, baby not that well but fine now.
Had DD2 at 36, wasn't even trying. Just the one time I was not that careful with contraception. Pregnancy went well, no issues - baby healthy at birth.
My advice is to try and not think about it, plan something else etc. Easier said than done I know!
I had my first child at 39, I wasn't leaving it late deliberately, just hadn't met the right person. We didn't try for another right away as we were living in a one bedroomed flat. When we moved to a house it took about three years to conceive, I had number two when I was 45. I was very lucky, but it can happen.
I am now 54 with a 9 year old, it's tiring but DH is younger so it works out.
I'm 36 and 17 weeks pregnant. I got pregnant on the 1st month of properly trying. I used My Fertility Friend to chart my cycle for a few months and then DTD during my fertile window.
Like you I had read all the stories of how hard it would be to fall pregnant post 35. Everyone is different though.
I'm 32, 6 weeks pg with DC1, conceived within a month of implant being removed. I've used hormonal contraception for about 10 of the last 15 years, i.e. most of the time that I've had a partner.
DSis1 married at 32, had DN1 at 34 and DN2 at 36.
DSis2 married at 25, got her career where she wanted it, had a late miscarriage at 30, DN2 (DN1 who didn't make it still counts as part of the family) at 31, DN3 at 33 and DNs 4&5 (twins) at 36.
My mum had me unexpectedly at 34 - relationship not great, sex so rare she'd come off the pill, I happened one night.
Grandma had DMum at 33 and DUncle2 at 34, afte having DUncle1 and a miscarriage during her 20s.
thank you. and congrats on the bumps, babies and kids x
btw, dunno if this makes any difference, but i have not been on the pill or anything for about 2 years, we have just been using condoms every time (until last 3 months, obvs!) so i shouldnt have anything "in my system" that may slow it down
We started TTC DC3 a couple of months after my 32nd birthday and had never had problems before but it just didn't seem to work for a few months. I know it's not a long time but I agree with the previous poster who said that it feels like an age when you are waiting. I chatted to a friend who said that both her and get sister had had the same delay (in their late thirties) and they'd got one of the ovulation kits.
I felt a bit weird getting one as I'd never had to before and it did seem quite complicated - in fact I'm not sure I even did it correctly but either way I got pregnant that month and am due in 2 weeks.
I really hate the waiting and the sadness when you come on.
Good luck OP, ignore The Sun, I'm sure it'll happen soon!
How many do you want?! I have had 3 children pre-thirty and 3 post thirty. My biggest struggle to get pg was having DC2 when test showed that for some reason I wasnt ovulating and was put on Clomid after 12 months TTC, I was 26. Was very strange as I had never had a problem before or since!
Just had my first age 33. Planning a four year gap before next one - if trouble conceiving then at 37 I can always adopt. Many friends have started a family in late thirties successfully. One friend had a child at 42, conceived naturally after a miscarriage and believing she'd never have children. Mum and daughter doing well, daughter is seven now!
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