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to expect the changing room to be given up for me?

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alisunshine29 Sun 24-Feb-13 16:26:02

I took DD's aged 5 yrs and 8 months swimming today. Our pool has 3 big changing rooms which have the blue changing tables for babies, about 20 cubicles that fit 2/3 people in and about 20 individual sized ones. I was drying DD's hair under the hand dryer directly in front of the big changing rooms after swimming waiting for one to become free. When it did I told DD to take her bag in there while I picked up the rest of our stuff. A single man stepped in front of her as she got to the door and shut it in her face, narrowly missing her fingers. I knocked on the door and asked if he had any children joining him, when he said no I asked if he'd mind moving to a different cubicle - of which there were plenty available - so I could use the large room to change with kids. He said no so I said that's what the rooms are there for, he said 'show me the sign that says so' which point I said 'you shouldn't need a sign to tell you to have some common decency and let two small cold children get dressed, particularly after you just slammed a door in ones face and almost trapped her fingers.' He just shrugged, said 'she looks fine to me' and closed the door before shouting 'and don't knock on the door again, it's very rude!' I'm hoping you'll agree he was a complete dick, but was it unreasonable of me to knock in the first place?

fluffypillow Sun 24-Feb-13 22:56:20

What an arsehole. YANBU.

xigris Sun 24-Feb-13 22:59:58

YANBU. Total wanker. Reminds me of the time I had to park bloody miles from the entrance to tesco in the pouring rain as the one free parent and child spaces was taken from under my nose (bonnet?) by a bloke driving a van with NO child in it. It was december and I was with my toddler and 3 week old DS2. Utter tosser to my mind! BTW, this was 3 years ago, not that I'm bitter or anything!

MidniteScribbler Sun 24-Feb-13 23:01:04

Couldn't you have used the changing room your partner was hiding in whilst trying to avoid seeing his own children?

aldiwhore Sun 24-Feb-13 23:06:52

That was yesterday Midnitescribbler snort...

AnnieLobeseder Sun 24-Feb-13 23:07:25

He was a prize wankstain, sadly the world is full of them. You and your children won't even have remotely entered his mind since the incident, while you are still (quite rightly) fuming. This is what makes wankstains even more annoying. They piss you off at the time and they piss you off for days afterwards while they carry on their happy wankstainly lives. Grrrrrrr!!

Because of this great imbalance in universal karma, I do try not to let wankstains bother me and be more zen about this type of encounter. I tell myself they are not worth the stress and remind myself that they are not wasting any mental energy on me.

But dear lord it's hard!!

MeDented Sun 24-Feb-13 23:09:11

To be fair o don't know his situation either. Not all disabilities are visible. He may have claustrophobia or an other reason that means he also needs more PAC to get changed that he didn't want to disclose to a stranger.

MidniteScribbler Sun 24-Feb-13 23:10:00

That was yesterday Midnitescribbler snort...

My bad. Hard to keep all the fuckwits in her life straight.

midastouch Sun 24-Feb-13 23:11:13

In my swimming pool the larger rooms have signs on them saying family changing, he was very rude YANBU how did he think you were going to change an 8 month old in a single changing room, or were your DDs supposed to stand getting cold, horrible man!

ElliesWellies Sun 24-Feb-13 23:57:50

You should have asked him why he particularly needed one with a changing table. Did he need to change his nappy? Sorry, that is very childish, but it would have made me feel better to say it!


TheBookofRuth Mon 25-Feb-13 00:05:16

I would have stood outside repeatedly knocking on the door whilst singing "this man has a tiny knob", and encouraging my DCs to join in, or at least to cry at the top of their little lungs.

What's up with all the "just wait for another cubicle" crap?! How utterly spineless - stand up for yourselves people!

janji Mon 25-Feb-13 00:23:56

This is why rude and ill mannered people get away with their behaviour; too many people see people who raise objections to unacceptable behaviour as entitled. If no one stands up for themselves the entitled ones are the idiots choosing to use a cubicle obviously mean for a parent with small children for themselves.

IneedAsockamnesty Mon 25-Feb-13 00:37:07

Yanbu but that's because he que jumped by going past your dd and shutting the door in her face

SavoyCabbage Mon 25-Feb-13 00:45:16

I agree with RedSky. He probably didn't know you had any interest in the changing room as you were drying your dds hair and if he might not know that there are only a few big changing rooms.

MrsMelons Mon 25-Feb-13 08:13:50

YABU to 'expect a changing room to be given up for you' and YABU to be so rude HOWEVER I do not get the MN attitude around facilities provided to make life a bit easier with kids when have bene swimming or anything else for that matter.

It is quite difficult getting 2 DCs ready after swimming especially if one is a non-walking baby so the OP should have been able to use the changing room but I would imagine the man did not realise as she was not actually there waiting as such and as she was rude to him he probably thought why should he move!

Emilythornesbff Mon 25-Feb-13 09:13:58

Yanbu?sorry he was behaving like an arse.
Well done for being assertive.

PurpleBlossom Mon 25-Feb-13 20:46:51

LOL at the man maybe having claustrophobia and therefore needing the bigger changing room!


drmummmsy Mon 25-Feb-13 20:50:14

grr it's a pet hate of mine when adults disregard children in a queue for something...

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