to point out that formula feeding doesn't necessarily require you to be sterilising bottles and scooping out powder in the middle of the night...(454 Posts)
Keep seeing this on threads which mention ff...how people couldnt be doing with getting up in the night andstsrilising bottles/making up feeds.
I bf and ff but found ff no problem at night - i would take up a carton of ready made formula and a pre sterilised bottle and i could feed without getting out of bed.
And yes, i know ready made formula is expensive and not everyone uses it. But some of us do/did.
Yes, guidelines are to make each bottle up fresh, but there are guidelines on how to best make up premade bottles if it is simply not practical/possible to make each feed from fresh. Theres loads of advice on bottle/breast feeding section and on NHS guidelines.
I formula fed and didn't really get the whole its such a faff making up bottles, sterilising, washing etc. It was how I fed by kids so it was just what I did. I didn't think it was faffier than changing a nappy, getting the pram out, trying to "persuade" the baby that socks were a good idea.
I mainly Ff 3 babies, I never found it a faff at all.Of course breastfeeding sounds very easy if you can 'lay there asleep while baby helps him/herself', but how many women actually get to that stage? I certainly didn't. Breastfeeding just wasn't that simple and problem free to me, in fact I found it incredibly time consuming and inconvenient.
"Time consuming and inconvenient" ... WTF?
Well yes, the lying there asleep while baby latches doesn't happen immediately, but surely a bit of effort is to be expected?
<damn I was trying to avoid falling in to goady fucker's trap!>
wonders how my babies survived being ff, with pre made bottles....
Anyone know of any ff babies that got very ill from drinking a pre made ff bottle?
I have 2 strapping 18 year olds who were ff. I even used to make up 6 bottles at a time and keep them in the fridge until they were needed and then warmed them up.
It wasn't rocket science. And they never got ill.
babiesinslippers I was comparing my experiences of breastfeeding to other people who say they find breastfeeding so much easier and more convenient than formula feeding. I didn't and I suspect many other women don't either.If they did then wouldn't it actually be more popular?
So WTF to yourself.
Advice on whether it's safe to make up in the fridge and the reheat later varies. The WHO say it's better to make bottles up as needed, but do not forbid making up in advance and warming up provided you have a fridge and you warm safely.
I'll tell DD she needs to rethink her preference for cold bottles and stop turning her nose up at feeds that are too warm for her liking.
No I didn't either Fatlazy. It was a horrible nightmare and really upsetting and was never going to happen for us. Let's not fall out about it though. It's a very emotive subject. Far too emotive IMO.
We used to sterilise our bottles for the day, keep some cooled boiled water in the fridge and mix the powder in thesterile bottke with boiling water, using the cooler water to get it to the right temperature for immediate use. That way any bugs in the powder are killed but you're not frantically trying to cool a bottle while hungry baby screams the house down.
My OH was a bit rubbish though and I'm convinced he used milk that had sat there a while when I wasn't looking. DS was and is fine.
i have to say, i hate the idea of giving tiny babies cold milk to drink. does that mean they dont have a warm meal until they are six months old? i think room temp would be the lowest temp i could feed to a baby but definitely not cold. i think there is a comfort factor in the warm milk that isn't there with cold.
I just lay that and she latches on.Havent got out of bed since she was born,and I have to say it is considerably easier than ffing as no faff at all.
Totally irrelevent but lol @ 'babiesinslippers'
Why does ANY thread mentioning formula feeding always turn into a breast is best/easier/cheaper/healthier sermon.
ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH JUST ARGHHHHHH
Fut, it is the law.
I couldn't give a flying fig what anyone else does/how they fed their babies.
It is totally wrong, however, to try and make someone else feel guilty about THEIR choices. Bf isn't for everyone. Ff isn't for everyone. Each to their own.
i fed ds2 until he was 22 months old and he never latched on by himself. i always thought it would come in time but it didn't and i would have to wake every time and help him latch on.
I'm planning to BF DS (due in 5 weeks) I BF DD (9 yo) for 13 months.
However, this time round I am worried that if I cant BF for any reason that FF seems like such a massive faff.
I opened this thread and have actually found it informative and helpful and hasn't put me off the idea of FF if my preferred route of BF didn't work out. Also - brings up the possibility of mixed feeding (ie FF through the night) as P and I are no longer together so he could take baby over night and it would mean I could continue BF but also get the odd night's rest IYSWIM (when baby is older, not as a newborn obv!).
So, OP I don't think for one second you are being goady or attempting a bun fight. Not everybody knows the tricks of the trade where FF is concerned (they may seem eye-wateringly obvious to others) and I personally find that the majority of comments on this thread are helpful.
FF isn't a faff at all, to me that is just some BFeeders say to promote BF. The reality is different. It's like the cost, if you take into account the bf bras/tops, nipple creams, the hassle of antibiotics if you get thrush etc then it's not really cheaper or less hassle imo.
I think people should be able to feed their children however the see fit (bf or ff) and people should stop trying to push their views on others.
It really annoys me when the faff argument comes out because it just bollocks. You don't need to worry about running out of clean bottles or formula unless you are a complete dimwit.
BF works for some women and they love it. For other FF is the best way.
I did find it a bigger faff tbh but thats my experience,and Im lazy and disorganised and found bfing suited me a lot more.It is a lot cheaper for me though I would say Ive saved a £1000 so far and I have spent nothing on bfing.
I only ff my second son, initially sadly as I had to take medication, but it worked out great in the end. The joy of lying in bed whilst dh did the night feed occasionally....pure bliss! Also my kids were close together so friends and family could feed ds2 and I could play with ds1. Again a great boom.
I couldn't give a flying fig what anyone else does/how they fed their babies. YY to that. As long as it's not single malt and razor blades they'll be grand!
*wonders how my babies survived being ff, with pre made bottles....
Anyone know of any ff babies that got very ill from drinking a pre made ff bottle?
Not me. But then I don't know anyone who's had lung cancer either. Doesn't mean that it doesn't happen.
sasha et al, re cost. You're not supposed to wear underwire bras when pg, so but non underwire ones with drop cups then. Also you don't need special tops, this always confuses me. You can spend £6 on washable pads, which you down need past 4 or 5 months anyway. I used one tube of Lansinoh, £9 with dd and not with ds. I didn't get thrush or mastitis once in my 30 months of bf to date. So the cost has been zero-minimal. I haven't had to buy bottles, teats, steriliser, formula, bottle warmer, those wee pot things for milk powder. I've never had to struggle to open one of those cartons made of unbearable Teflon (?) except for dn. I've never wanted to be spontaneous and change my plans and had to think 'no, I've not brought enough milk'. I can walk out the door without doing more than grabbing a (reusable) nappy and some (non reusable!) wipes.,just have to make sure I've got my tits on!
The truth is one person's convenience is another's hassle. But then I'd never sacrifice the gift of breastmilk for my child as it was a hassle. As it happened I think that in the first few weeks its a massive hassle and after that its so much easier. The thought of having either baby cry for more than a few seconds at giant makes my blood run cold, mainly as then we'd all (me, dh & dd(3) ) be awake. As it is if on the very rare occasion (once a fortnight?) ds wakes for milk or comfort, I
force feed give him some milk & the sleepy hormones send us both straight back to sleep without waking anyone else.
But then I'd never sacrifice the gift of breastmilk for my child as it was a hassle. As it happened I think that in the first few weeks its a massive hassle and after that its so much easier.
The inference being that other posters have done just that? Well, I can't speak for anyone else but it was more than a hassle, it didn't get easier and my boy ended up in hospital. So thank feck for life-saving formula. And for the mostly sensible posts on here. I'm due again in 3 weeks and if the same happens with BF I now have some helpful hints to make life a bit easier.
i agree chairman. it isn't liquid gold. it's milk and there is a perfectly acceptable alternative with pros and cons just as Bf has pros and cons. what suits for some doesn't for others.
i'm really enjoying this thread actiually. usually they are very one sided (on either side of the fence) but this has been quite pleasant and informative. like others i wrongly assumed FF was more hassle than BFing but looking back i honestly can say i would be hard pressed to decide which suited me more a i think both have their benefits and if i have any more children i will just decide based on what the circumstances are at the time.
Babiesinslings 'I've never wanted to be spontaneous and change my plans and had to think 'no, I've not brought enough milk'. '
Me neither, and I ff. I think it's just another way bfeeders choose to justify them bf. To me it's rubbish you shouldn't have to justify yourself or put others down because they choose to do it a different way.
I certainly don't think I robbed my children of the gift of breast millk.. Were you actually being serious with that comment because it sounds ridiculous.
My children were never left to cry for milk because I pre steralised all the bottles and they had them room temp with the formula added as they needed them.
You keep believing all these myths about ff. I'm glad bf works for you and it sounds like you had an easy time of it compared to the majority of people I know who bf, but please don't patronise others for their choices.
I'm out of this thread now because I can see the way it's going to go.
I dunno, I have always been a bit scared of FF. Would feel like I didn't have a clue although it sounds easy in principle, and I've had a demo.
There was a very very long thread on here ages back (5-6 yrs?) about how there wasn't enough support for problems that FF parents have, and there was much discussion and description of unique difficulties faced by many FFing posters. None of them were about BF vs. FF, all of it was unique problems in FFing. So I don't know what to believe.
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