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trubbliphone Fri 22-Feb-13 20:47:38

This is complicated so bear with me. I have a friend in another country. She has a daughter by a man who she has nothing to do with. I pushed a little, because I wanted to know why she would deny her daughter any relationship with her father. I knew she had got pregnant by him once before and had miscarried, as this happened just before a trip we took together. She told me the full story.

So, she found out she was pregnant, and the pregnancy was confirmed by her gynaecologist (in the US). He took her blood, etc, and told her she was about 10 weeks pregnant. Their relationship was very on off, when he found out she was pregnant, he came to see her and they went to bed. During sex, he claimed he needed to go to the bathroom. He returned, continued and finished. Hours later she started cramping painfully. She saw her doctor the next day and he said, I can't explain this, but your progesterone levels are zero. ZERO.

She thought no more about it. Got over miscarriage. Months later she complained to her bf that her period wouldn't arrive, felt bloated etc. She knew she wasn't pg but it seems he thought she was. Later, they were having sex and he did this same strange thing again (he had not done it since the last time) - he went to the bathroom. She looked in the crack in the door after him and he was getting something out of his sponge bag. As before, he came back in, and came inside her.

His sister is a nurse. Is there any way, in this country, that people could get hold of mifepristone and is it technically possible to induce a medical abortion in this way? COuld he have done this?

I have had a medical abortion (RU486) and the cramping she described rang very true. When I had it they put the pill on the end of a tampon which I had to insert.

Could he possibly have done this?

My blood ran cold when she told me.

claudedebussy Fri 22-Feb-13 20:49:34

my god. that's horrific.

i hope she's not still with this fuckwit.

quoteunquote Fri 22-Feb-13 20:51:17

Has she worked it out yet?

someoftheabove Fri 22-Feb-13 20:52:31

Sorry, what was he meant to be doing with the pill? Balancing it on the end of his d**k? Just can't really visualise it.

delmonton Fri 22-Feb-13 20:55:11

She is not still with him and does all she can to avoid any contact. He has never seen her daughter.

Some, I think she thinks he put it on the end of his willy.

freddiemisagreatshag Fri 22-Feb-13 20:55:34

tucking the pill into his foreskin?

trubbliphone Fri 22-Feb-13 20:56:33

Yes, she doesn't see him at all. She told me he is circumcised, this is what confuses me.

someoftheabove Fri 22-Feb-13 20:56:54

Wouldn't it fall out when he got an erection?

BookWormery Fri 22-Feb-13 20:57:16

Oh my god.

D0G Fri 22-Feb-13 20:57:26

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somewhereaclockisticking Fri 22-Feb-13 20:57:33

There was an episode of Law and Order SVU where some guy was putting something on a condom that had been known to cause a miscarriage.

waltermittymissus Fri 22-Feb-13 20:57:35


claudedebussy Fri 22-Feb-13 20:58:51

maybe he pushed it up the urethra a little bit <ouch>

HeadfirstForHalos Fri 22-Feb-13 20:59:17

Can you get it as a cream? In his "eye"? Crushed and mixed with a bit of cream and "applied"?

It sounds weird, but not impossible.

zumbaholic Fri 22-Feb-13 20:59:18

eugh! That is twisted

trubbliphone Fri 22-Feb-13 21:01:50

He definitely didn't wear a condom. It just sounds so bizarre. How tightly are these drugs controlled? That is what is really worrying me.

Booyhoo Fri 22-Feb-13 21:01:57

that is really scary. could he have crushed the pill and put it on the end of his penis? if there was enough moisture/semen it would stick till he came inside her wouldn't it?


ShipwreckedAndComatose Fri 22-Feb-13 21:03:11

This sound like utter bollocks to me

ginmakesitallok Fri 22-Feb-13 21:03:34

If she thought he was up to something why did she finish having sex with him?

LineRunner Fri 22-Feb-13 21:04:53

It sounds very urban myth.

ginmakesitallok Fri 22-Feb-13 21:05:18

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trubbliphone Fri 22-Feb-13 21:06:53

I am a name changer. I would say exactly what you do, but I just don't think my friend is an out and out bullshitter.

waltermittymissus Fri 22-Feb-13 21:07:20

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HollyBerryBush Fri 22-Feb-13 21:07:37

If the pill is small enough he might have put it just inside his eye. Or indeed popped inside her when he 'guided' himself in?

FWIW, most American men are circumcised.

All sounds very far fetched to me though, 1 in 4 pregnancies end early. If we didnt have POAS, 99% would think they had a late period.

CloudsAndTrees Fri 22-Feb-13 21:08:05

Does he travel to countries where drugs are likely to be less controlled than they are here or in the US?

I've bought stuff on holiday that is prescription only here.

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