My partner sold his house last year and has been pretty much living between his mother's house and my house ever since. He pays board weekly to his mum but since Christmas has been living at my house 6 nights a week. He pays me nothing at all despite eating here every day/night and using all my utilities. So basically he's living free right now and his savings are increasing nicely in his bank whilst I'm struggling to pay for everything. He earns over £30k a year (which is a lot around here) and I'm a student on a bursary. When he first started living here I asked him to make the odd contribution towards groceries etc and he said that was fine - however he's yet to do that. He'll bring in the odd pint of milk or loaf of bread but he never contributes to the actual grocery shop. I was pissed off last night. He said he was going to make me a cake and would I go to asda with him to buy the stuff - I assumed he was buying it!! But no, we got to the till and he asked me to go halfs with him for the £8 it cost.
So anyway it came to a head last night when he asked me how much money I can save up in the next 6 months to put towards a deposit for a house. I said I was struggling somewhat so probably not a lot. He got a face on so I said "to be honest, the only reason you can save so much is because you're not paying for anything, you don't have rent, mortgage, bills - even food to pay for. On the other hand, I'm paying for everything, maybe if you contributed more, I'd be able to save more?" this was met with a "woah it's all coming out now! so you've resented me being here all this time! you never ask me for any money, I'm not a mind reader!"
AIBU to think he shouldn't need to be asked?? it's common sense!!! Surely anyone with half a conscience would realise they should be contributing to the household they're living in, especially if you earn much more than they do and have no other outgoings??
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To have asked for financial help from boyfriend??
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EyePlunge · 21/02/2013 09:43
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