Is friend BU or am I --a lazy cow--

[babiesinslingsgetcoveredinfood]

Friend round earlier, her DS & my dd are both 3. I also have DS 10 mo.

Prior to having my FC I was VERY house proud, now I keep on top of things, just & do a 'proper' clean every so often. I could fit in more, but I'd rather spend time with the kids. I clean the whole house in stages over the week as well as sweeping fucking hourly after meals as DS is still exploribg food.

Anyway, I face the kids some fruit & biscuits this morning. They were happy. A while later her DS came over, chewing. She asked him what it was, he said 'a raisin' I was a bit as raisins were not part of their snack, but..

She IMO totally overreacted, when he told her he'd found it under the table she screamed (I do mean screamed) that he should spit it out., NOW & got a bit panicky.

I didn't know what to do, so I joked that it definitely wasn't a mouse dropping, just a raisi from Dd's breakfast. She flipped out, started telling me to pull myself together, not be too proud to get a cleaner if I couldn't cope & a bit more besides.

I was shocked & a bit upset, but haven't taken it too seriously. She's pretty clean, but her house isn't immaculate. I had PND in the early days but have been fine for 6 months now. She left very soon after, even though we'd planned lunch.

I'm taking it with a pinch of salt but I'm a wee bit wtf!? I don't know how to act when I next see her or whether I should expect an apology. My house is quite clean, glitter glue aside, honest!

So aibu to think she overreacted & expect an apology from her!

[YouTheCat]

Her ds is 3 and still picking things off the floor?

[PatienceALittleThin]

Meh! My daughter ate a worm when she was that age and several buckets full of sand. She survived.

[shewhowines]

Yes i think she over reacted. She was very rude to leave too. unless your house is a lot less clean than you think

As long as kitchens and bathrooms are done at least once a week and floor swept daily then a few bits of hours old food are not going to hurt anyone IMO.

[coraltoes]

She is an idiot

[DeepRedBetty]

Yanbu, your friend's having a nasty attack of PFB with added judgipants.

[HollyMadison]

From what you say it sounds like she over-reacted. I caught my DS eating a pumpkin seed off the floor the other day and I realised I hadn't given him pumpkin seeds for about a week. And I've got a cleaner.

[100DaysofSummer]

Unless your house is really a hovel and you're not letting on then I thnk she's bu. Personally I only hoover/sweep once a day after anything else gets left on the kitchen floor until then I'm afraid.

Although I wouldn't generally have ds crawling over the kitchen floor when he was a baby because (a) it's not child proof and (b) it isn't the cleanest s i'm preparing food in there all day.

[TraineeBabyCatcher]

Jeez, she wbu! You could have an immaculate house and still manage to miss a raisin. I wouldn't worry too much, she's probably kicking herself now anyway.

[PotteringAlong]

It was a raisin. It was one of his 5 a day. She's bonkers.

[pollyblue]

I had exactly the same thing when my dd was a toddler, and one of her friends started chomping on a stray raisin he'd found under the table.
I hoover daily (3 dcs and 4 cats so fairly necessary) and am pretty clean and tidy, but that raisin still escaped under the radar.
There was a moment's wtf? as we tried to work out what he was eating, but his mum just laughed, asked him to spit it out and that was that.
If a stray raisin causes your friend to 'flip out' i think it's more her problem that yours tbh.

[Seabird72]

She was incredibly rude. If she thinks you're unclean then she shouldn't visit but her comment that you should pull yourself together clearly indicates that she feels that you've let things go completely and has probably felt that way for some time so if that's how she really feels then she's not much of a friend.

[WorraLiberty]

Fucking hell she's lucky it was just a raisin

My DS scooped a snail out of its shell when he was a toddler and promptly ate it just before I could reach him

[sooperdooper]

She's bonkers, 3 second rule and all that (or 3 hr rule since breakfast?! who cares, nobody ever died from a raisin off the floor) :)

[Wewereherefirst]

SWBVVVU. How strange of her. I wouldn't want to be friendly with her after that.

[TheSurgeonsMate]

You, I might eat a raisin if I found it on the floor. He knew what it was, it wasn't a baby just ramming random stuff in there to see what it feels like.

I think she was overreacting to the raisin.

[lurkedtoolong]

I'm sorry, I can't stop laughing at what an idiot your friend is. It was a raisin, her PFB will be fine. Your house is fine

[HollyBerryBush]

A raisin is larger than a mouse poo by a long way, unless she thought it was a human poo nugget from one of your children.... oh dear

Sorry but I am chuckling away now

[ResponsibleAdult]

YANBU. If it had been broken glass or sharp pins, yes she would have every right to be concerned. A raisin for a three yr old wouldn't represent a choking hazard, she is being unreasonable.
If she is that concerned about your hygiene when you next speak to her suggest going to her "spotless" house, or a picnic in the park where they can eat mud, chew worms and swallow stones like most other children.

[KellyElly]

I only hoover/sweep twice a week! I must be a slob. I do clean up under the table when DD eats and drops stuff daily.

[LizzieVereker]

I'm be very grateful if someone could persuade my DS2 to eat raisins of any description, age or location

Your friend needs to visit my house, she will feel better and stop being stressy with you. My house looks like a dog hair bomb has gone off in a toy shop.

[SmiteYouWithThunderbolts]

SWBU and very rude.

[fieldfare]

"dog hair bomb in a toy shop" , yup my house resembles that by the end of the day most of the time.

OP she was being vvvvvvv unreasonable.

[OxfordBags]

I have a struggle getting my toddler to eat anything that's not been on the floor for an indeterminate amount of time

OP, your 'friend' over-reacted. You relly have to learn to 'not sweat the small stuff' with small kids. And what she said was incredibly rude. Saying those things to you was far, far worse than missing a raisin or two when sweeping up. What a nasty piece of work. Some people have real issues about any kind of MH prob, even they hide it for the most part. She's the one who needs to take a long, hard look at herself, speaking to someone like that, not you.

[maddening]

Your friend is extremely rude - she should teach her dc some rules about picking up off the floor and hope her bad manners don't rub off on him

[Wheresmycaffeinedrip]

:o @one of his five a day

Swbu Kids could find food anywhere. They have a built in radar to the most hidden remains.

God kids eat worse things than that pet food