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to think my neighbours are being ridiculous.

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ThatVikRinA22 Mon 18-Feb-13 22:02:45

a few months ago my adjoining neighbour put up half a fence between our two gardens.
its half a fence. its his boundary so i have left him to it, although i did tell him that we were going to be completely revamping out garden and wall and i would have done the fence - but it is his boundary so thats fine. i thought.

now we are having our drive block paved and my front garden landscaped and a new fence up.

neighbours have suddenly decided that they have put their fence up in the wrong place and that the boundary is in our favour by about 6 inches.

they have gone and complained to my builders that they block paved up to their fence when their fence is in the wrong place.....

the point is they fucking well put the fence there!!! not me! i couldnt give a toss if they want another 6 inches of garden - they are welcome to it but now it means that my paving stops short of the fence and looks bloody stupid.....

how should i broach this?

they are inconsiderate bastards at best - when i begin any work i always let the neighbours know out of courtesy - they have just spent the last 5 weeks banging and drilling having a new kitchen fitted (yes - 5 weeks!!! to fit a kitchen!!!) and i work shifts - including nights. they dont give a shit.

im actually really angry about all this but i have to live adjoining them and dont want to start a ridiculous neighbour dispute....

my garden is costing alot of money - and their stupidity is ruining the finish. they say they are moving the fence - but when??? after tomorrow my garden will be finished - they have had plenty of time to move it if they wanted to.

im actually seething inwardly.

SandyChick Mon 18-Feb-13 22:11:48

I understand how you must feel. We put a new garden fence up a few years ago and it was a bloody nightmare because of our neighbours.

But, saying that I think the best thing to do is just take a deep breath and count to 10 wink. In the grand scheme of things it is only a garden and not worth being stressed out.

Your neighbour will either move the fence and you can add some shrubs etc to hide the gap but i bet they never actually get around to moving it for the sake of a few inches and you'll have stressed out over nothing. grin

Flisspaps Mon 18-Feb-13 22:12:58

angry on your behalf.


MagicHouse Mon 18-Feb-13 22:12:59

I don't understand - will they move the fence further your way and on top of your block paving? Or will they be expecting to remove 6 inches of paving before they do it? Whichever they choose will be a complete nuisance for them I would imagine.
I think they sound like complete pains, but they probably can insist on moving the fence over if it's on the deeds.

VivaLeBeaver Mon 18-Feb-13 22:15:47

I bet they never move it as well. But if they do you could have a gravel strip?

Are they right though? Can you check deeds?

You could be really awkward and say you dispute it and will happily go to court. They'd never bother then surely?

Cailinsalach Mon 18-Feb-13 22:16:22

I believe it was Robert Frost who said good walls make good neighbours.

Good luck OP. I hope your neighbours do the right thing.

SucksToBeMe Mon 18-Feb-13 22:16:35

YANBU They sound childish and pathetic.

VivaLeBeaver Mon 18-Feb-13 22:17:32

Yes, surely your paving won't stop short of the fence if they move it. It'll go under the fence and stick out on their side?? So make their side look odd.

Wewereherefirst Mon 18-Feb-13 22:20:36

YANBU. Can you put a fence up just inside of your boundary, just to leave the no mans land between the two fences?

Bastard sodding neighbours. angry Ours are leaving a brick wall to fall down onto our path, even though we offered to lay it if they went halves on materials (it's their boundary wall). You have my sympathy

coraltoes Mon 18-Feb-13 22:21:06

Set fire to it

aquashiv Mon 18-Feb-13 22:22:16

Are they correct? Check with land registry you can do this on line.

TheLibrarianOok Mon 18-Feb-13 22:24:48

Just do what Wewerehere said and have 2 fences. Make yours nice and tall.

quoteunquote Mon 18-Feb-13 22:30:05

here for very good advice.

take a deep breath before you get into legal disputes that only make solicitors rich, just because a person puts a fence up somewhere doesn't mean it is the boundary,

I don't understand. They want 6 extra inches (arf arf), yet you will have a gap (arf arf) how is this?

FairPhyllis Mon 18-Feb-13 22:36:32

Is the fence actually in the wrong place though? You need to check this out before you can decide anything.

Nanny0gg Mon 18-Feb-13 22:39:29

Why don't you put your paving up to where it should be and then put your own fence on the correct boundary?
Then it doesn't matter what they do.

JollyGolightly Mon 18-Feb-13 22:40:34


But I seem to remember that neighbour disputes (official ones) have to be declared if you sell, so be careful.

I'll send them some bad vibes for you though, and I am a bit witchy.

Catchingmockingbirds Mon 18-Feb-13 22:49:23

hmm they're going to cause all this hassle (for them, you don't need to do anything!) of moving the fence and messing around with the paving slabs all over 6 inches? That is pretty hilarious, if I were you I'd leave them to it and sit back and laugh at them. If afterwards you think your garden looks a bit off you could take sandy's advice and hide it with some shrubs.

ThatVikRinA22 Mon 18-Feb-13 23:03:44

they want my builders to take up six inches of block paving and redo it so that it leaves a gap for them to move the fence.

im not actually convinced that the boundary is where he is saying it is but for 6 inches (arf!!) i couldnt care less - he can have his extra inches (arf) but its the fact he is making my builders take up part of our block paving to leave a gap for when they decide to move the fence.....

ive just been around actually. it was annoying me sufficiently to go and speak to him about it....

we are fine. but i just asked him what the fuck....

they are bloody clueless, he is insisting that the middle of our two houses is 2 1/2 bricks each from the window....he got his tape measure out.

wanker. im not arguing. cannot be remotely arsed over 2 1/2 bricks. but he is making me move my block paving. he has stuck some tape on the wall to show where he thinks the boundary is....hmm

VivaLeBeaver Mon 18-Feb-13 23:17:46

Leave your block paving where it is. Tell him if he wants to move the fence he can sort it all out himself.

MagicHouse Mon 18-Feb-13 23:21:10

Really annoying :-$ I would maybe get a quote for the builders to do what they want, and suggest he pays for it, since it's effectively his fault for putting his fence in the wrong place.

babanouche Mon 18-Feb-13 23:22:40

He's an arse and a douche bag. I've no advice but I had to get that off my chest. Again I say, he's an arse and a douche bag. Arse.

ThatVikRinA22 Mon 18-Feb-13 23:23:16

but the thing is viva he will make a hash of it - ive seen what he did with the fence! its not straight, the posts are way higher than the panels, and they only erected half the fence before they got bored and fucked off.....

ive just paid alot of money to have my garden look lovely, so i would rather my builders re do the block paving than have that numpty next door do it....

the builders have just gone up to the fence and where they house stops - but they say where their house stops isnt the boundary confused so that begs the question why did they put their fence there then!!! they are numpties of highest order.
but i really really cannot be arsed to argue over it. they are really quite odd - he is quite friendly and speaks occasionally, she has a face like a smacked arse and doesnt....

badtemperedaldbitch Mon 18-Feb-13 23:25:53

oooh do be careful... my DF is in the middle of a boundary dispute.... and it had been going on for years. there is a tree stump where the neighbour says the fence should be... It couldnt have possibly ever been there, even when the tree was a branch

£16k and counting....

the cost to his health
the loss of value to the house when prospective buyers hear about a neighbour dispute

Please be careful...

badtemperedaldbitch Mon 18-Feb-13 23:29:00

also block paving is kind of wedged in... if you move the 'soldier stones' (i think they are called) the whole thing can drift appart and you can end up with quite a mess

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