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to not understand people announcing that they're 'Getting Engaged'.

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atthewelles Mon 18-Feb-13 13:12:13

I mean, either you've agreed between you that you want to get married or you haven't. Tellling everyone that you're 'going to get engaged at Christmas' or that 'we're going to Paris to get engaged' doesn't really make sense. Surely its more exciting to wait until you have the ring and then make a general announcement that you 'are engaged' instead of letting everyone know in advance and then expecting them to get excited and ooh and aah when you appear with a diamond flashing on your finger.

I'm not giving out about it, I just don't understand why people want to take the excitement and surprise out of the occasion like this.

HairyHandedTrucker Fri 22-Feb-13 02:45:58

I find it confusing because surely if you've both agreed you are getting married in the future you are engaged?

Slippersox Thu 21-Feb-13 19:33:55

YANBU and I feel exactly the same and always have.The minute you decide to get engaged you ARE engaged !Also don't get going to a family wedding recently,all quite last minute and registry office and meal afterwards.Perfectly lovely and nice and couple very loved up to be told our presence is required abroad next year for the ' proper' wedding ie. big bling do with a cast of many when they can afford and work permits it.Well we can't afford to go,and our work won't permit it but it's their attitude that really gets me.The 'oh this isn't our real wedding' WTF yes it is.It's the day you got married.Or I'm I just missing something?

Pandemoniaa Thu 21-Feb-13 17:36:59

Well I didn't know there was a Flouncer's Corner either. But then I don't do flouncing. If push came to shove I'd just fuck off quietly and sit at home muttering about nests of vipers.

prettybird Thu 21-Feb-13 17:34:14

I agree with you OP - I've never understood it either. Once you've decided you are getting married, you are engaged - ring or not. confused

BeerTricksPotter Thu 21-Feb-13 17:31:20

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LaQueen Thu 21-Feb-13 17:26:28

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atthewelles Thu 21-Feb-13 17:22:25

Well, I didn't and I also post on the food threads, the book threads and baby names.
The traffic there seems to be quite light but that might change now. smile

usualsuspect Thu 21-Feb-13 17:20:35

I think most people know FC exists except for the ones that never leave AIBU

atthewelles Thu 21-Feb-13 17:14:47

Mind you, its been great publicity for Flouncers Corner which most people didn't seem to know existed. We'll all be over there now flouncing around and drying each others tears. smile

atthewelles Thu 21-Feb-13 17:11:33

But we're talking about this particular incident usual where some of us think a minor incident has been blown up out of all proportion and where a poster who was quite happy to come into the thread all guns blaring then took umbrage and started another thread in Flouncers Corner talking about how horrible everyone on this thread was. A bit unfair, don't you think?

usualsuspect Thu 21-Feb-13 17:09:30

And all the this is AIBU what do you expect, doesn't do a lot for the site IMO.

usualsuspect Thu 21-Feb-13 17:06:39

There's a fine line between direct and being nasty for the sake of it.

LaQueen Thu 21-Feb-13 17:04:07

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atthewelles Thu 21-Feb-13 17:00:35

Sorry, x posted. Agreeing with your second last post.

atthewelles Thu 21-Feb-13 16:59:53

I agree LaQueen, I hate it when people goad other people into a response and then take umbrage when that response comes.

LaQueen Thu 21-Feb-13 16:57:19

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sooperdooper Thu 21-Feb-13 16:50:54

If by the 'engagement ceremony/stage setting' you mean a situation which has been engineered and arranged by both people in order to say ' we got engaged on the stroke of midnight at the top of Mount Everest aren't we romantic' or whatever then yes, I'd say that was pretty meaningless & pointless, because in order for both people to be aware those plans are happening means you're already engaged wink

I said it before, but you could just say, we're engaged, and we're off on holiday/for a lovely day trip etc to celebrate, and still have that nice experience, but it'd be a bit more real, as a celebration, rather than pretending smile

LaQueen Thu 21-Feb-13 16:31:44

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Coconutty Thu 21-Feb-13 16:08:01

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Coconutty Thu 21-Feb-13 16:07:13

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atthewelles Thu 21-Feb-13 16:04:46

Imagine if you started a thread over there and no one came back and said 'aaaw. Don't go.' And there you were, all ready to flounce.

Catchingmockingbirds Thu 21-Feb-13 16:01:39

I wonder how many posters that start threads in flouncers corner actually leave mn for good.

atthewelles Thu 21-Feb-13 16:00:31

I've just read back over Ellie's posts Fake and you're absolutely right. She did use the word 'meaningless' in the way you described and not in the insulting way that has been implied.
Her use of the word 'pathetic' was not fair but she used it in the heat of the moment and came back and said that she should not have used it.

I really do think that a totally distorted impression of this thread has been presented over on flouncy bouncy corner and if you look back at some of YOS's posts (or indeed some of the posts on 'the other thread') they are just as unpleasant as the ones YOS is complaining about.

Seriously, if you dish it out you have to be prepared to take it as well.

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