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Can I go to the police with this? Facebook related.

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Altinkum Mon 18-Feb-13 03:38:49

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FairyJen Mon 18-Feb-13 13:09:11

Op sad I would speak to the school definatley even if they cannot "take sides" as a volunteer it would be simple enough to place get in a different class to your child. Remember any stress on you and your partner will affect your children do the school should be made aware of it imho

BlatantLies Mon 18-Feb-13 13:32:07

I am not surprised you are upset. That is an extremely nasty comment. As it is so, so awful I bet that anyone else reading it would also realise that she is a nasty piece of work.

I hope you are OK. [bunch]

BlatantLies Mon 18-Feb-13 13:32:33

Oops I meant thanks

WhichIsBest Mon 18-Feb-13 13:56:46

I would go and ask that she not help in your DC's class.

thebody Mon 18-Feb-13 14:00:29

I am so very very sorry op she sounds vile.

I am a TA and would not dream of mentioning any of the children/parents in my class or school.. She is making a huge mistake doing this and school will have a policy on social media which she is supposed to adhere to.

I would report this to the HT.

Again so sorry xx

PureQuintessence Mon 18-Feb-13 14:01:08

I would take it to the HT of your dc school.

She is accusing the parents of a child she teaches of having deliberately harmed the child, and she is doing so publicly.

SuffolkNWhat Mon 18-Feb-13 14:02:51

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MarinaIvy Mon 18-Feb-13 14:35:02

Written = libel. Spoken = slander.

And you don't have to mention somebody by name for it to be libel or slander, the only benchmark is that a reasonable person in the relevant audience would know who is being talked about. Of course this can vary from one forum to another, but in this context it seems pretty clear, not least because you've had other people bring it to your attention.

I agree that police probably won't get involved, and that a libel case would cost more than it's worth, but getting Facebook and the school (with screenshot) to do something about it are the ways forward. Yes, the school would be interested to know about this abuse of internet, and yes, you can get rid of a volunteer (or paid) worker for this sort of breach. Hell, if I were her head teacher, I'd be tempted to sack her for misuse of the word "conscience".

And take heart that many friends-in-common are giving you their support. You said some people have told her what she wrote was vile, etc - have you heard anything further, like what she'd said to them in reply?

I don't think you have much to gain by writing to the woman directly, best case scenario you'll make her day for upsetting you so much, worst case, she'll find a way to twist your words yet again.

Keep us posted! And hugs to your DS.

MariusEarlobe Mon 18-Feb-13 14:46:24

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sherazade Mon 18-Feb-13 14:50:11

If she is working at your children's school surely she can't be allowed to have parents on her fb list.

xxDebstarxx Mon 18-Feb-13 15:25:30

As others have said the school should have a social media policy and I'm sure they will not be happy that she has spoken like that about the family of a child she works with.

Definitely make a complaint and say you are not happy that she is in class with any of your children.

Cuddlyrunner Mon 18-Feb-13 16:00:41

OP, I have sent you a private message x

LtEveDallas Mon 18-Feb-13 16:16:34

PureQuintessence Mon 18-Feb-13 14:01:08

*I would take it to the HT of your dc school.
She is accusing the parents of a child she teaches of having deliberately harmed the child, and she is doing so publicly*

I agree with this. Even if the HT does not take it seriously, or nothing more is said, it cannot cause any more hurt than Altinkum is going through right now.

BalloonSlayer Mon 18-Feb-13 16:28:28

she isn't accusing them of deliberately harming him though. She is accusing them of being careless and letting him down in some unspecified way.

However given that she knows neither is the case, what she is saying is still malicious, inappropriate, untrue and and an appalling thing for anyone to say, let alone someone in her position.

BelindaCarlisle Tue 19-Feb-13 07:02:01

The police have recently had new guidance from the DPP. They won't prosecute for being unkind.

CabbageLeaves Tue 19-Feb-13 07:16:29

Definitely go to the head about this. I spoke to the head about a TA at school and was reassured. My complaint was both unsubstantiated and personal (exH and woman related) and I fully expected to be dismissed with a 'grow up' and 'we're professional' response but the Head took on board my concern and promised this woman would never work in my DCs class (yes, I was amazed)

Altinkum Thu 21-Feb-13 21:39:26

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Altinkum Thu 21-Feb-13 21:41:49

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florry88 Fri 22-Feb-13 17:17:20

Hope you got a satisfactory response from school.

Im sure she cannot mention in any context children where she works

AppleStroodles Fri 22-Feb-13 17:45:14

I would go to the school, I wouldn't want my children anywhere near her, really disguting behaviour.

AppleStroodles Fri 22-Feb-13 17:45:26


roslet Fri 22-Feb-13 17:47:29

The school would want to know about this. Parents tell Headteachers many things that are not always relevant, but this is.

JakeBullet Fri 22-Feb-13 17:51:12

Altinmum I really feel for you as something similar happened last year with my DS. A woman I thought was friendly actually referred to my DS as "a little shit" on Facebook. I only saw it as someone sent me a screen grab but like you I was hurt, angry and shocked.
Tbh the school did not get too involved and on balance I think that was wrong but time has gone by now and I have let it go despite wanting to call her all the names under the sun the next time I saw her at the school gate, I still hate her.

Like others have said....she is an awful woman, do t let her sap your energy.

Likewise don't PM her...but if it helps then were the message you would like to send....I did this, didn't send it but still have it to remind me of the fact she is a bitch and not worthwhile.

Altinkum Sat 23-Feb-13 21:18:59

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