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To cry every time I hear Slipping through my fingers in Mamma Mia

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crazy8 Tue 12-Feb-13 23:44:47

I have a gorgeous, beautiful sometimes bratty DD who is 7. I can't imagine her growing up and leaving home. I know it will happen one day.

maddening Sat 16-Feb-13 23:06:25

And all of us are daughters - beth orton's time will pass is another tear jerker

izzysmydog Sat 16-Feb-13 21:37:41

My wonderful daughter just turned 16!! I can't believe it's gone so fast. We both give hugs when that song comes on. She thinks she's fat ( she's not!) and she has had a bad time with acne and she doesn't understand how much I love her... And I split up with her dad when she was 5 and her stepfather is good but not demonstrative at all! Sometimes I think I really fucked up but then that song will come on and she knows I love her so much and I didn't do so bad after all xx

JumpHerWho Sat 16-Feb-13 21:32:26

So glad I'm not alone in finding this song utterly gorgeously sad!

Off to listen to Beautiful Boy and When You Dream, I have a toddling (sob) baby boy.

saycheeeeeese Sat 16-Feb-13 21:23:58

I think Linda Ulvaeus must have a hard time hearing it knowing its about her!

My mum used to sing it to me when I was a child in the 80s, she cries when she hears it now!

Juniper21 Sat 16-Feb-13 21:17:40

The writer of Mamma Mia put the song in the musical/movie as it reflected her feelings for her own daughter.

OverAndAbove Sat 16-Feb-13 20:52:09

It's just been on, right now. Floods of tears; from me and the baby-father-of-the-girl. It is a very good song!

Hassled Sat 16-Feb-13 20:48:16

I saw that bloody film (Mamma Mia) with DD the night before she left for University. That song came on - we were both awash with tears and snot - full on hysterical, wracking sobs. God knows what the people around us thought. Only the cocktails later restored any sort of normality.

ihateconflict Sat 16-Feb-13 20:44:32

this song is on tv now, and it takes me back to when my daughter left for uni 4 years ago, during the weeks leading to her departure, the pain in my chest was actually physical, once we had actually dropped her off, i was absolutely fine fine, it was the lead up time that was the woerst. This song, and white winter hymnal by fleet foxes, both take me back to sept 2009 in an instant, i love both songs!!

trikken Sat 16-Feb-13 20:25:32

watching it here too.

TheStitchWitch Sat 16-Feb-13 20:07:28

Mamma Mia on ITV2 now <gets tissues ready>

chickydoo Fri 15-Feb-13 21:40:24

My DD is 17, not long until she goes, it's going to break my heart

handbagsatdawn Fri 15-Feb-13 20:51:59

Oh crickey I thought it was just me! I used to listen to this song when I was little, and back then it was just a song. Now I have 2 dds and the words only hit me when I watched MM at the cinema. Blubbing my eyes out. Gets me every time now.

missymayhemsmum Fri 15-Feb-13 20:42:18

Oh me too! Tucked up on sofa watching it with DD aged 21 sharing a bottle of wine I was in floods! So many things we didn't do because I was busy making the everyday stuff work, and then you turn round and the years have gone and she doesn't need you anymore. It's a great song.
(Didn't stop me being delighted when DD found her direction and moved out again though. Two women in one kitchen-nuff said)

Snowkey Fri 15-Feb-13 20:40:25

Always feel emotional listening to this song too - often need to give dd a bit cuddle.

SilverMoo Fri 15-Feb-13 20:37:21

I heard it the first time when I watched Mama Mia, I was properly sobbing, I haven't watched it since due to that reaction, glad I'm not the only one!

sugarplumpfairy Fri 15-Feb-13 20:37:15

I remember drinking gin and tonic, torturing myself by playing this the night before my youngest DD started school in sept. I was wailing to DP ''That's it, and now i'm baron cos i've had a hysterectomy, they'll grow up and shove us in a home, what if I haven't done enough glueing and sticking? blah blah........'' DP just humoured me and escorted me to bed grin
It always makes me VERY emotional, gin or not!

Cuddlyrunner Fri 15-Feb-13 20:35:23

I haven't got a daughter, I WANT ONE!

SilverMoo Fri 15-Feb-13 20:33:55

Argh! Just watched it on youtube and am now sobbing sad blush

coldcupoftea Fri 15-Feb-13 20:00:52

To all you fellow emotional mums of daughters I give you Daughter by Loudon Wainwright

It's the song played at the end of Knocked Up, and it makes me weep buckets just thinking about it!

determinedma Fri 15-Feb-13 19:51:46

Oh for heavens sake,either you are all hopelessly clingy or I am missing the maternal gene ( which is entirely possible). Dd1 is au pairing in Spain and I only see her every few months, and dd2 announced last night she has "found a family" and will be off to Italy to au pair and " probably come back in autumn". So what? I am happy they are confident individuals who can do their own thing and no, I don't pine for them when they are away. They are adults. They come back from time to time and I regain my life a little when they are away.

Floggingmolly Fri 15-Feb-13 19:43:05

This keeps getting pushed to the top of threads I'm on, and setting me off again...

BsshBossh Fri 15-Feb-13 19:41:14

Abitwobblynow wise words indeed. I really need to hear that so thank you. Which Winnicot book is that?

betterwhenthesunshines Fri 15-Feb-13 09:40:17

I'm streaming with tears just reading this. I'd never heard the song until the film but it's quite extraordinary. Recently it was on the radio at breakfast time and the children were both looking at me confused as I was blubbing into the toast.

I think it's because it feels about regrets, it's amazing watch your children grow and be part of their lives, but we all have parts we wish we could rewind and live through again. Either because they were wonderful, maybe we didn't appreciate them at the time. I'd give anything to go back and have to do a snuggly nightfeed again. Or because we know WE could have done better - and then it's a bit of a reminder to ourselves.

Abitwobblynow Fri 15-Feb-13 05:58:39

I do regret the times I was impatient,distracted or cross.The times I maybe wasn't 'there' when I should have been.
- the regrets of a good mother.

Remember that being perfect is not the goal. We have to be 'good enough' so that children hit the pain of imperfection (our impatience etc) - but with someone who loves them consistently, so that they can learn they do survive and it is not the end of the world (Winnicot)

So sorry for your loss Greylady.

chipmonkey Thu 14-Feb-13 16:58:35

janji Two little boys! Do you have to ask?

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