Quite an unbelievable story I'm afraid. Basically I'm the eldest of four, the youngest now being 15, our parents run their own business. Parents hate each other and are constantly splitting up and then uniting against us again.
Since I was born they have moved us all on a whim chasing their dreams and goals. This meant moving schools, countries and houses every couple of years and never really having a base.As such the four of us are very close and look out for each other.
Over the years it became clear they were both alcoholics, DM being the obvious horrible kind who hates everyone and blames us for all the things wrong in her life, DF being the sneaky kind that manipulates everything and everyone around him. We all spent years believing him when he told us DM was crazy and that he never does anything wrong.
Now in my twenties and with my own family I can see how terrible they have been to us and as a consequence no longer allow them to push me around, use me for free childcare and someone to run their affairs whilst they piss off on holiday without ever taking us.
They attempted to branch out a couple of years ago. Very comfortable before that but they were just being greedy and have now lost pretty much everything apart from the first business they had. They have lied and lied again to important people to get away with and miraculously (and not deservedly) have. Now they want to transfer everything to the four of us and expect us to carry on their illegal work as they are no longer able to obtain licences. We've said no, big family row ensued. My poor 16 year old brother was told 'he was a complete waste of sperm' and that he is single handedly responsible for all their problems. Luckily quite a bright and thick skinned lad but still HE'S ONLY FUCKING 16 AND THAT IS A DISGUSTING THING TO SAY.
Kneejerk reaction is that they have booked a month's trip abroad. They assumed we'll look after their interests and when told that wasn't the case it seemed they'd given up on years pretending that we matter at all and have disowned all of us with a dismissive 'we have had a shit few years and we deserve a holiday'
There is a lot more in between all of this but feel this a good enough summary.
AIBU to expect them to come to their senses and want to put their children first no matter how old they are?
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BubblesPebblesx2 · 12/02/2013 20:38
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