to ask for an elective ceseran even though theres no reason i cant have a normal delivery?(178 Posts)
There's absolutely no medical reason that I couldn't give birth. I have a wonderful almost 4yo DD and had a pretty good delivery with her.
However, this time round I'm terrified, not of the pain but of something happening to be during labour or birth.
I keep having nightmares about dying and leave my beautiful DD without a mum. It's really starting to get to me and its just making me miserable. I keep trying to forget about it and enjoy my pregnancy and DD but it's starting to consume me.
Tried talking to Dp and he thinks I'm being silly.
You ate right, unfortunately you can't know with birth until it actually happens!
But, I read a lot of threads on here before having ds, with lots of very positive experiences of electives, and that is great, but I just feel, after my experience, when I see a thread like this that I want to point out that there are unoredictable things that can happen. Seeing a surgeon with a look of panic on his face, whilst ou are lying there is not something I was prepared for!
When I say about not holding ds, I mean because of his breathing difficulties, meaning he was in nicu in an incubator. I aalso think it is important to point out that there is a higher incidence of respiratory distress in babies born by elcs.
When she made the comment about HB being " horrendous" if it goes wrong, I dont think she was taking into account stats. Just her feelings at attending a lady in labour - when its going wrong."
Oddly, I've never heard of a midwife tell a woman who's being induced how awful it is when it results in a 30 hour labour followed by a crash c/s under g/a, despite the fact that all midwives know that number of inductions will pan out like this.
I agree though that we tend to make decisions about these things based on gut feeling and fear. Shame really that the facts don't have more bearing on the decision making process when it comes to birth.
I agree with you Hazy, its important I think for as many stories to be shared as possible, so people can get the more realistic picture across the board.
I remember Amanda Holdens ELC experience when she nearly died and I read somewhere they were biking in blood for her.
Before my ELC I asked the consultant whether they had enough of my blood in the hospital should the same thing happen.
Yes one of the ladies I am talking about, her baby had to go into some sort of unit, he had a traumatic delivery.
Shag If I had been asking her about induction - she may have given an opinion on that too. I merely mentioned I was caught between a rock and a hard place, she gave me her feelings on HB and on ELC. She herself had hemoragged during labour.
Op has already had a baby by VB and feels afraid, its not the unkown to her, nor was it the un known to me.
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