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To think I'll never find a contraceptive that suits me?

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notnagging Mon 11-Feb-13 12:20:01

I have an appointment to discuss contraceptives with my dr & I would like some advice please. I have 5 children, the youngest conceived after my coil got stuck :/ I have tried different pills over the years & the injection (which made me put on weight). I do not trust getting sterilised & I am still trying to convince my dh to get the snip. I have a history of depression & this is the first time I havent suffered from pmt. I am trying to lose weight, keep myself sane & I definitely dont want anymore! Please could anyone advice especially if you have had a contraception that doesnt lower your sex drive, make you hormonal or depressed grin

ToastyFingers Tue 29-Aug-17 10:06:35

I know it's naughty to post on a zombie thread but fuck it, I'll bite.

What an ill informed, patronising and frankly creepy post from JOHN.

We'll done mate, I didn't know it wasn't possible not to find a suitable contraceptive. You've solved all my problems there.

Welshmaenad Tue 29-Aug-17 09:27:53

Thank heavens.

After four years, a man has come, to explain female contraceptive options to us and save us all from conundrum.

All hail the Man.

ZefStar Tue 29-Aug-17 07:58:17

Thanks for that creepy addition to the thread JOHN, glad you've found a contraception for your partner that works well for you hmm

Margomyhero Tue 29-Aug-17 06:50:36


Hopefully OP has found a solution s this thread is four year old.

scaevola Tue 29-Aug-17 06:43:04

I was a little,surprised to see I had already posted on this. Then I realised that was because I commented o we 4 years ago

Zombie thread - and I should imagine OP got it sorted somehow ages ago.

(But to correct some info above: sterilisation does have a failure rare - according to NHS, female 1:200, male 1:2000. Missed pill protocol depends on which type it is and which pill you've missed. You need to follow pack info to then letter - you may or may not need to use additional methods, and it will tell you what length of time)

wheredoesallthetimego Tue 29-Aug-17 06:38:20

implant? most effective contraception there is and it's a low dose with no oestrogen.

LordPercy Tue 29-Aug-17 06:35:31

I was the same OP, we had no solution until DH had the snip 😔

JOHNAUST37 Tue 29-Aug-17 06:27:05

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SchroSawMargeryDaw Tue 12-Feb-13 18:11:15

NotNagging No idea. confused

Guaranteed I will get hounded the minute this one is born thought to choose a contraceptive. hmm

Hope you get it sorted soon.

notnagging Tue 12-Feb-13 09:01:35

What do you use now?

pouffepants Tue 12-Feb-13 07:49:36

Contraception is shite!

I had a nightmare with all forms, anything hormonal turns me into a suicidal depressive. Then when they tried to remove the implanon it split, so was in my system for ages longer.

Then had a coil which fell out. Running out of options but had a second coil which was checked after a month, they said it was secure and then a month after that discovered I was pregnant, it had shifted again.

After dc3, decided I was going to be steralised, dh wouldn't hear of it and offered to have the snip. Seemed a good idea, since I've nearly died under dental anaesthetic.

Dh now stuck with permanent ball pain (4 years on) crap orgasms, and little sex drive anyway. Yep, great option that turned out to be.

cwtchontoast Tue 12-Feb-13 07:23:24

Hey notnagging
I'm no expert but I would advise against the patches if you are very fertile, after months of constant bleeding while using them the gp told me they use a particularly low dose of hormones and the bleeding was a sign that I wasn't actually protected sad I have had terrible luck with contraception too, I really feel for you.

notnagging Tue 12-Feb-13 06:46:57

I have just looked it up now. There is a Monday evening clinic. If I can get childcare I'll go next week.

CommanderShepard Tue 12-Feb-13 05:54:33

Is there a family planning clinic near you? They may be more open minded about alternatives.

notnagging Tue 12-Feb-13 05:52:13

What are you going to do schro?
This is 2nd visit to the drs in regards to this so I have little hope for a different answer. I really didnt want to go in the pill but it always seems to be their first choice. The fpa site was really good & informative. I explained my choices & why but she was as adamant the pill was the only choice I had.

CommanderShepard Mon 11-Feb-13 22:47:58

I'm really surprised and unimpressed she's said pill only while breastfeeding - like I said I've got a Nexplanon implant and I breastfeed.

SchroSawMargeryDaw Mon 11-Feb-13 21:51:28

I'm very worried as well as I wasn't planning this one (disability) and I don't think I would be planning any more ever unless there were drastic changes to my life.

I have no idea what to say when the MW asks me what BC I will go on!

Mirena, copper coil, implant, combined pill, patch (contact allergy), ring, latex condoms (another contact allergy) all don't work for me. I probably couldn't and wouldn't be sterilised due to both my age (22) and poor healing/fragile skin and Essure would probably be the same.

My Mother had 2 sets of non-id twins as well so that's a worry!

I feel your pain.

HollyBerryBush Mon 11-Feb-13 21:51:12

I do not trust getting sterilised & I am still trying to convince my dh to get the snip.

Well, all I have to say is getting my tubes tied was the best thing I ever did. I really CBA with women who dont take control of their own fertility.

I wouldn't be able to cope with anymore kids so a mistake would be devastating

Get tied for your own peace of mind

notnagging Mon 11-Feb-13 21:44:18

I wouldn't be able to cope with anymore kids so a mistake would be devastating. I'm worried I'd have twins again which would definitely send me over the edge.

SchroSawMargeryDaw Mon 11-Feb-13 21:38:37

I was using the ring until November, thought it was great until I found out I was pregnant! angry

I got on really quite well with cerazette though, only changed for ease of use. hmm

notnagging Mon 11-Feb-13 21:34:06

Sorry choice not house!

notnagging Mon 11-Feb-13 21:33:14

Sorry that is the contraception she has prescribed. I told her I didn't want to take the pill but she says I've got no choice until I give up feeding.

PavlovtheCat Mon 11-Feb-13 21:29:21

I have nexplanon (new implanon). Had a few issues with abdmominal pain for a while, and hormonal ups and downs but nothing different than on the pill really.

I had it put in after I had DD (not breastfeeding) and it was taken out so I could conceive DS (immediately!), and had it put back in after failed coil attempt while I was still Breastfeeding DS at about 8 months old. I was told by the family planning clinic at that time that in fact I could have had it put in earlier while breastfeeding but was 'guided' by gp to have mirena coil in first.

My GP didn't know about the implant, as they didn't do it, so cannot guide on it. It happened though they could put the coil in, had funding for it, so here was the reason for not encouraging me to go elsewhere for the implant!

Your local family planning clinic can talk you through what it involves, details etc, but for me it works perfectly.

notnagging Mon 11-Feb-13 21:28:56

It's called cerazette.

MummytoMog Mon 11-Feb-13 21:28:18

What kind of coil? You can have a copper one put in while BFing, and mine has been a miracle (after the initial settling in periods that were a blooody nightmare). Hormonal makes me kerazzy and completely uninterested in sex, so a no go, natural method was fab actually, until I misread my calendar and had to go have an emergency copper coil inserted the day before my day's funeral. Wot larks. Not.

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