To hate reading DS bedtimes stories!(85 Posts)
I bloody hate it. Just want him in bed so I can relax and have me time!
Aw what a shame. I love reading to my kids but I am a bit limited in what I can do with them physically so reading s our lovely bonding time. I actually find it gets them in bed quicker; the threat of no time for a story makes them put a move on.
My eldest never had much interest in reading so on the advice of his teacher I read to him until he was 11 or 12. We went through most of the Harry Potters and loads of classics. It worked though, he is 20 now and reads for pleasure.
My youngest aged 6 is currently enjoying my old Wombles books ( boy were they ahead of their time), one chapter a night. He is drawing womble burrows and making womble inventions from rubbish ( totally unprompted).
its the timing, not the action
I feel sad as I actually miss my elder DS and bed time books are our time
but by 845pm when I have been up since 6am, tis hard
go to library and get loads of new books, and start earlier
YANBU to not like it, I don't always, it depends on the book. Before DS grew out of it he was very into Dr Seuss books. The same one every night for a week, usually One fish two fish. That got a little tedious! DD is into Princess Poppy and Rainbow Magic which aren't much better but she is easier to settle after a couple of chapters.
God yes, I hate it too! I always try to steer DS towards the shorter books I am also very strict on just two stories and that's it, whereas DH will read endless books.
I actually find I can zone out while reading them and just think about something else...
Last night and for the very first time, ds read me a story. He was so pleased with himself that he read it again, and again.
Yes, I felt crazy tired but it was one of those magic moments.
They soon grow up and then you will have all the me time you want.
YANBU especially when they want the same one over and over again. Even the best books lose their shine after a few dozen reps. It gets better when they get older and the books get more interesting, when you can do a chapter from a novel each night. And yes, by bedtime I can see youd have lost patience for a chore. Actually if you really hate it can your DH do the bedtime story? You tuck them up, and then DH reads the stories to them in bed? My Dad used to read to us, and DH usually read to DS.
We still read to DS at 14 too. Fantasy stories, not really challenging adult type stuff. Im reading him Earthsea, but 1984 DS reads for himself. My Dad remembers his father reading to the whole family in the 1940s, Dickens and suchlike, because not much other entertainment was available/affordable to them.
YANBU for not enjoying it but YWBU if you didn't do it. A love of reading gives a child escape and a life long way to learn.
Hmm, YANBU, though I love reading stores to ds, it's my favourite part of the day! However there are other things (craft, endless role play games) that I'm really not so hot on (fortunately dh is) so I can see where you're coming from!
Would much rather be cuddling up to DS1 and DS2, laying down and reading a story together <lazy mum>, than the haring around and clearing up involved in messy play (which I hate!). I think in contrast to other activities, it's nicer because it's calmer and there are fewer arguments and they're both so cuddly by then.
However, I do hate it when we are running late and I want them bathed and they need to be asleep, because of school or whatever the next day. I deliberately make sure we've got enough time for a story or two.
Now if this was a thread on messy play / make believe / cooking ... I'd be with you
Of course YANBU - especially if they're still at the stage where the books are really boring and they want the same one repeatedly. There were some I loathed.
But now I love reading to DD - still - at (wait for this...and don't panic, this is not obligatory, just something we enjoy!) 14! I've read through loads of my old favourite children's classics over the years and now we're onto Discworld, Hitchhikers etc. It really does get better when you get onto books you are fond of.
Reading in the day - fine, reading books from school - fine. Just not at 8pm when I want to be doing something more interesting!
Unfortunately it's a nessecary evil! I just want them in bed too but a story helps settle them. It is seriously wearing reagind the stame stupid nonsensical crap for the 6th time that week.
2 boys = 1 story each. If they want to listen to each others stories so they effectively get 2 each (while I only have to read twice) then fine.
I don't want to sit up there reading for hours when I've got a nice beer and a decent book waiting downstairs in front of the fire.
Hab, same age DTs here. Have always read to them in some capacity, but the timings change a lot depending on what stage they're at/mood they're in.
At the moment what works well is reading 2 or 3 stories before their midday nap as a nice quite wind-down time from playing (on days they're not in nursery). Then nights when they go to bed all giggly and hyper we read to them, on nights when they just conk out I don't worry about it!
Interestingly one DT LOVES books already, and the other just loves them as hinges/weapons/frisbees...So I'm not getting too het up about it right now.
I have read to my dd since she was a little baby. I went through a stage when she was about 3 when I didn't always enjoy it because she used to choose really boring books, some of which were painful to read... But generally love it and most importantly my dd really loves it and I think it's hugely important.
YANBU. I used to hate it to, thinking I just wanted to get it over with and get DS off to sleep so I could have me time... But I just started telling him if he wants stories he has to go to bed earlier, and it's really working well, and I actually find storytime relaxing now!
When he is a teenager you will look back and think how lovely it would be to go back in time and be tucking him up with a story....
Habanada - IIWY I would prioritise a book over a daily bath. Children don't generally need a bath every night. Every two or three days is fine. And on bath nights I would put her to bed a bit later so she has a book. Doesn't need to be a long one.
Reading at bedtime is utterly sacred in our house. My dc are 7 and 5 and were read to at night from about 1yo. For both of them the first 'bedtime story' was The Going to Bed Book by Sandra Boynton. We did that for a few months and then began to vary.
My dc are growing up bilingual and English is the minority language, which makes it all the more vital that I read to them exclusively (or as near as dammit) in English and introduce them to all the authors and books they won't encounter through school/peers.
OP, YANBU to dislike it, because it'S the way you feel and you do read to your ds, but I have to say I can't understand what's not to like about it. Calm quiet times, good books (you can steer them away from the crap ones, and when they're very small the choice is entirely yours), closeness... I love it.
I love reading bedtime stories to my children most of the time. I don't enjoy reading when ds1 (8) has faffed around and doesn't get into
bed until 9 p.m. By this time I'm tired and hungry and reading feels more of a chore than a pleasure.
I don't mind reading a book with a good rhyme or decent plot.
However some truly crappy books have crept into the house. Currently DD is asking for these every night, Misty, Ellie, Sophie, Holly, Scarlett and Lucy the SOS Mermaids. All the girls have a different character imperfection that causes a mild disturbance in their mermaid lives, but its OK, with teamwork and remembering that friends always help each other out in tight spots, they get through it! Go Mermaids! They make me want to gouge my eyes out instead of reading the fucking things. Does not make for a peaceful bedtime story.
Have you considered reading poems instead? I've gone from loathing story time to actively looking forward to it since introducing poems to the mix.
The Charles Causley poems are lovely for children, and they're short! Also Now We Are Six. Depending on energy levels etc we read anything from one to ten. Have also been doing some grown up type poems and been really surprised how much four year old dd likes them.
Stories at bedtime used to wind up my DS, it re-charged his batteries! I did it during the day as a quiet time when it didn't matter if he needed to let off steam afterwards. A dinner, bath, bed, lights out...no fuss and little 'engagement' worked best for him. DS2 had stories at the same time as his older brother because they are close in age. They are prolific readers. DD rarely reads now but had stories at bedtime because it suited her. I struggled to get her 'into' books!
No1 son at age 12 still asks for a dream at lights out time
Usually it consists of some building construction related task rather than being about hamsters in hot air balloons if that makes it any better
prettykitty I agree that you dont have to have been read bedtime stories to enjoy reading as an adult. I wasn't and I love books. In fact, Dp was read to every night by his stepdad and while he still fondly remembers it, he doesn't read at all, other than to the dc. He did all the harry potter ones as just the titles bore me into a coma like state! But he would never go to a bookshop to choose anything, and he doesn't read anything else.
So his lovely literate start to life hasnt done much for him.
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