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to laugh at parents who try to reason with a toddler having a tantrum?

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stradbally Sun 10-Feb-13 15:15:00

Mummy: "It's time to leave the park now DS/DD, I did say 20 minutes and you've had 25, and we have to go to Tesco on the way home to buy yummy food for dinner, so please get in the buggy, you can see Millie/Billy tomorrow, say bye bye now etc etc ......."

DS/DD: "Waaaaaaaaa waaaaaaaa waaaaaaaa while rolling on the ground or doing that running on the spot thing

Mummy, in weird uber-controlled voice: I understand you're tired and playing in the park is lots of fun but we do want lovely dinner don't we, so please get in the buggy etc etc on and on..........

DS/DD: Waaaaaa waaaaaa waaaaaaa

I see it all the time, it's hilarious. I'm all for talking properly to children and explaining things etc, but seriously when they're in that state it won't go in! Just pick them up, quick cuddle, plonk them in the buggy and go!

MrsBethel Mon 11-Feb-13 13:06:34


I'm all for the talking. Whenever I give the kids 'the look' as social describes it, I always have a chat with them about it once they've calmed down.

My mum sounds quite like yours. She didn't "do" authority either, but still the best mum ever IMO.

MrsWolowitzerables Mon 11-Feb-13 13:11:42

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Goldenbear Mon 11-Feb-13 13:12:59

I think your understanding of what constitutes extraordinarily rude is pretty wide of the mark. My response was to your very rude post where you said the flowing:

' I don't think you're being unreasonable, OP. I don't know how many times I've seen pathetic and ineffectual parents attempt to reason/negotiate with a toddler who is actually more skilled at negotiation than the parent. That can be hilarious. The parent threatens to take sweets off the menu if some behaviour or other doesn't stop, behaviour doesn't stop, sweets are off the menu till the child puts them back on by refusing to apologise until sweets are reinstated.

P.A. thetic. And hilarious for the bystander.'

I've not undertaken to create any false image of myself on this thread. I was accused of damaging my DC with my approach, akin to the damage talked about on the Stately Homes threads all after my first post! Do you not think i'm going to protest at being referred to this thread??

Goldenbear Mon 11-Feb-13 13:15:23

The above post was in response to Apocalpyse.

LaQueen Mon 11-Feb-13 13:20:45

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

QuietNinjaTardis Mon 11-Feb-13 13:32:33

Ds is normally to busy throwing himself around and screeching to catch me giving him the look socialclimber grin when he's about to do something troublesome and looks at me that's when the look works.

BigAudioDynamite Mon 11-Feb-13 13:49:06

I'm really confused by this..... goldenbears approach is the closest to unconditional parenting, on this thread. It is normally patents with that approach who accuse the parents who don't do extended reasoning, of causing emotional damage....confused

PessaryPam Mon 11-Feb-13 16:36:48

Oh well who cares if other have a totally shite time dealing with tantrumming toddlers, just fill your boots. But other older Mums can say they didn't do this and everyone ended up happier. Cue the older ones who were oddball in those days to raise their heads here grin

Goldenbear Mon 11-Feb-13 16:58:59

Thanks for that pearl of wisdom Pam. Yes, yes, you could patting yourself on the back for the great job you've done.

PessaryPam Mon 11-Feb-13 17:02:40

Golden I do often pat myself on the back. I was worried all the years and now we are at the end and we can relax. Thanks for your support and encouragement. I am glad I could help you.

FitzgeraldProtagonist Mon 11-Feb-13 18:41:40

For all thse who want to know how to pick up toddler raging-like a surfboard is my best advice.

babiesinslingsgetcoveredinfood Mon 11-Feb-13 18:44:21

Gosh isn't MN just throbbing with passive aggression at the minute?

Ajobforlife Mon 11-Feb-13 21:48:39

Its not the screaming kids that 'do my head in.' its the VERY LOUD wishy washy voice of the mothers. 'Dont do that darling,' ' Your making mummy sad.' 'Mummy doesn't like being sad,' 'Mummys sorry but we have to buy some dinner or daddy will be sad' !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Are these people real!!!! The only person in the shop that CAN'T hear them is the screaming child!!

Goldenbear Tue 12-Feb-13 10:42:40

It does your ed in does it or is it all in your head, you know made up, stereotyping BOLLOX!

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