To think that I'm not too thin at 5'7 and 9 stone 2?(56 Posts)
I have lost a couple of stone on the 5:2 diet. I feel good and very healthy. My family keep commenting that I am too thin and look ill now. I really don't think I do, but could be deluded. I've checked my BMI and it seems perfectly healthy. Does that weight sound ok for my height? I like being slim, but don't want to go too far.
I'm only in my early 30s and don't think I look haggard. Mum was at it again today, saying her friend saw me and thought that I looked gaunt. She also added in the little gem that I use my straighteners too much and my hair looks dry
It completely depends on the individual...although it 'sounds' fine to a lot of people who can't see you, maybe you do look too skinny.
At 5'5, I'm a size 8 at about 9.5 stone...if I get down to 9 then you can see ribs and collarbone and I generally look luge I need a good meal. But I have a friend who's only one inch shorter than me, yet is a curvy size 12 at 9.5 stone. Completely depends on your body shape.
There's an age thing with weight too, I've found - I'm the same height as you and used to be under 9 stone in my teens and twenties. I looked fine. Skinny but fine. I've fluctuated since, and have recently lost about a stone and a half; I'm now 9 stone 7. This is fine for me - I'm in my forties and if I lose much more, I think I'll start to look haggard. As it is, it's showing on my face a bit - some lines are deeper than they were! I could do with tightening up my muscles now, rather than lose more weight.
What rude, nasty and unnecessary behaviour from your family! Ive had this a fair bit my own family too. At the weight I am now I still have to defend my self even though my sister is 5 ft 8 and a size 8 she doesnt look to thin as she has a very narrow frame.
I dont think you sound too thin. You are probably small but not model thin and models really dont eat unless they are very lucky/ genetics/small frame or super young.
I used to be 8 stone 2 at 5 ft 8 and I calorie counted/ really strictly controlled carbs and walked non stop so I know. Even then I couldnt fit in to a size 8!!! I looked ill and will admit it!!!
Im now 9 stone 1 or 2 pounds and am 5"8. im usually a size 12 and my wedding dress is size 14 to house my stomach! I have a wide ribcage and hence I look so boney on top.
Its so much more about weight. Its about your percentage of body fat, its about your frame size and for all I know you could have a large bust and not much fat anywhere else. Also how your weight is distributed.
Please dont worry. Its hard but instantly dismiss what they say or move on the conversation.
You are probably a lovely size.
You sound just like me (although not right now as am pg )
What's the rest of your family shaped like? My weight all goes on my thighs so if I dress right I look thinner than I actually am. The other women in the family are all a bit shorter and are all apple shapes carrying it on their boobs (ok there I admit) and stomachs, so it's much more obvious. It means I get a lot of 'oh you're so thin' because they're used to comparing based on those areas.
Interesting to read the different weights of people on this thread who are 5"6/5"7 (like me) and how certain people can be perceived as skinny at a higher weight than others with the same height.
I'm 5"7, and for as long as I can remember, whether I diet/exercise or not, I have weighed 10 stone and am size 10 on top and 12 on bottom. I think 9 stone 2 would probably be my 'dream' weight where I would have eliminated a lot of my flab without veering into 'skinny' territory. So YANBU! If you feel and look good and healthy you deserve a congratulations!
I've started the 5:2 diet but had a couple of false starts..trying to get back into it this week..I'm the same height as you and 10st 7.8lbs according to the scales this morning. My target weight is about 9st 7lbs. As others have said the people who are commenting are probably a couple of pounds over weight themselves. After DS1 I lost quite a bit and looking back at pics I think I look great, probably the happiest I've been in my adult life, but the amount of people who said to me I was looking thin was unbelievable...but that's because they were used to me looking a bit chubby !
As with most things what matters is how you think you look, whether we're talking about your weight, clothes, hair or make up. If you're happy then politely tell them to bugger off...
I would say the slim end of normal but absolutely fine.
I am 5' 5" and 8 stone 12. I'm slim but def not skinny so similar size to you I'd think. I have quite a chubby tummy/thighs actually but dress accordingly. My neck/chest/shoulders are very delicate looking (v small boobs) - could this be the case with you?
Some people have occasionally said I look too thin, but I do think that so man eple are now overweight, even slightly, that we have lostsight of what is normal and healthy.
I was 8 stone 6 when I got married 2 years ago (due to nerves!) and I'd say I was at the lower end of what looked ok at that point.
PS. Sort your DH out! Mine loves my small boobs
It is fine. I got similar from my mother and had to get shirty and say 'well if I look scraggy I feel much healthier and I am not changing it'. She has stopped now- I didn't continue losing and have stayed the same for 3 years. I am much healthier and never even seem to get colds. Just ignore and they will get used to the 'new you'.
I think you're putting too much store on what others think - when I looked at your photo I had seen it before on a v similar thread? You know you're a healthy weight, if you are eating well and FEEL well maintaining it it doesn't matter what others say does it?
Though your H sounds charming...
I've just looked at your photo.
It's jealousy or something because you look lovely.
I am 5ft 8inch and 9stone exactly and get a lot of comments about been too skinny. I dont think i am, though i will admit i have a very small waist and big knockers. i would like to tone up but cant be arsed. You dont sound too skinny!
Sorry, just reread my post and I don't mean to imply you look saggy or unhealthy. I think sometimes even slim people need a while at a new weight to look really healthy at it.
I've just looked at your picture though and think you look great.
I think when people lose weight it takes the body a while to settle at its new weight, skin to tighten, everything to even out IYKWIM. Maybe you need to be at this weight for a while for your body to look really healthy and good.
OTOH, maybe they are jealous or insecure or just don't like any change
Well it all sounds great! Well done. I also have a wrinkly tummy which isn't going anywhere either. I run ALOT. I'm a woman who's had 2 kids and my body reflects this :-)
You look great! And your weight sounds fine too.
Like Bonkers and you I am pretty much the same height and weight. I have curves and a bum and rather chunky thighs to be honest. Just where I carry my weight, easy to hide and make me look slim.
Well done, by the way.
Yes, I go to spin classes and do weights too. The only saggy bits are on my stomach because of pregnancy, but only a tummy tuck would sort that out and I don't care that much!
I don't think you look too thin at all. Have you been exercising as you've lost the weight, because if not, maybe there's some sagginess (can't see any in your pic, but hard to see your face close up) which can make you look a bit haggard.
I am pretty much the same weight and height as you and people tend to regard me as very slim. Naked though, I have curves and fat and a bum and everything, just very slight ankles, wrists, slim face and barely any boobs. It gives me a very slim look.
I've been this weight all my adult life so I know it's right for me.
I'm 5'6 and consider my healthy range to be 9st-10st and my ideal weight now (at 37) to be 9'7. At 9st I start to look scrawny (boobs disappear!), at 10st I start to look podgy. So you sound about right to me. Low end of healthy I would say, which is consistent with a BMI of about 20.
There is a picture on my profile of me at 9 stone 10, so it is clear that I don't look skinny at all then.
I'm 5'7" too and weigh a stone more than you, I think you will be very slim at 9stone2lb but a healthy weight (I would love to lose a stone and when iI was the the same weight as you I was slim and fit and healthy). Ignore other people, they don't like people to change and probably feel threatened by your new figure.
wish I had your body. You sound slim but not too thin. although i don't know, if I saw you I might reconsider. hard to know for sure. i'm 9 stone and only 5'2" and my top half is thin and my bottom half is normal.
Yes, I agree there, Whoknows. A lot of people don't understand this way of eating. Ironically, I have fewer eating issues than I've ever had on a typical diet. Nothing is forbidden, so I don't crave anything. My appetite has just regulated itself naturally.
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