I have 3dc. 2 primary aged and a 5 month old. I sahm at moment. I do probaby over 90 percent of childcare and all the housework and laundry etc. Baby still wakes at night too and rarely settles before 10pm.Dh very occassionally cooks (basic in the oven stuff) but still creates loads of mess. Ie will open a tin and leave empty can and tin opener on the side. He does work long hours maybe average 12 hours out of house but uses that as an excuse to do pretty much nothing evenings and weekends.
He is keen on doing the odd grand gesture like once in a blue moon he will say attack study desk and than when something new appears will than moan and say "why did I bother?" To that i could reply why do i bother everyday because as soon as i wipe down a surface new crumbs will appear etc etc.
Last week i was up really late every night getting additional housework/tidying down as we were going out Friday evening and MIL was looking after dc. Completly blitzed spare room in particular to make it nice for MIl etc etc.
On the Saturday morning I took eldest and youngest out on an activity whilst dh stayed home with mil and dd2. When I returned I was greeted by both mil and dh feeling really pleased with themselves because they along with dd2 have sorted her room. This is the same room I spent ages tidying in the week. Although I accept it wasn't immaculate because of the volume of stuff in there.
I was told to go straight up there to look when I returned. Yes it was fab but only because they had moved 4 big boxes of stuff into the spare room.
Apparently when mil babysits next time she is going to do dd1's room.
I feel really undermined and every so slighty fed up about this.
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whitby36 · 08/02/2013 10:21
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